So I’m in a LTR with this girl who has shown little to none red flags. She is disciplined (is a great student and athlete), submissive (blows me when I want to and never denies sex etc), respectful and all around improves my life.

However there’s some things I don’t like about her, biggest being that she loves attention. She has around 1500 followers on Instagram and when I see her snapchat it shows always like 50 notifications from received snaps. She has 150 comments on her every post on Instagram and about 100 of them are from guys so I know she has a lot of orbiters.

I don’t necessarily like that she has guys orbiting her, imo shows that she is insecure and needs validation from random guys. Her insecurities have gone also to next level when we were just dating where she would get mad at me if she saw that I was with another girl (even my friend’s gf). But it’s quite usual for any girl to be insecure. However what annoys me is that she acts a bit shady around her snapchat.

When I’m with her she rarely uses phone and neither do I. However when I go to the toilet/or go get something and come back, she’s always on her phone, usually on snapchat. The rare times that she uses snapchat when I’m able see her screen (for example when in my lap) I see her responding to most of the snaps but she usually leaves some snaps unanswered (almost always few guys). This stuck in my mind so I started thinking to myself why wouldn’t she open those snaps when in my company?

I suspect that she flirts with those guys and therefore she doesn’t want me to see their responses. I’ve also noticed that throughout the day she always responds to my snaps but also to 1-3 people. This goes on even until late evenings.

The biggest fear that I have is that the girl cheats and I’ll get cucked. It’s not even the feelings at this point, just my ego. I would never want that shit to happen and that’s why haven’t been in a LTR before.

I thought to myself few options, I’d like to hear what you think:

1. I’ll stop being a fucking bitch, if she cheats, she cheats and I’ll hard next

2. I ask her about the situation (imo would come off as needy)

3. I stop snapchatting her and tell her that I only use my WhatsApp from now on (a subtle soft next)

4. I set boundaries that I don’t think that she snapping orbiters is fine (if she crosses the line I hard next, however if I’d say this it would come off ass mate guarding)

5. something else?