Quick background... 40yrs old, wife is 39, married 10 yrs, no kids. Found TRP 10 weeks ago. Started lifting 4 times a week 8 weeks ago. About 80% through the sidebar readings. Picking up old hobbies and playing music again.
Ever since I've learned how to recognize shit tests, I have noticed that my wife throws them at me constantly, like up to a dozen times a day. I realize now that I've been failing them consistently for years.
Since I'm taking things slow, the only tactic I've been utilizing is STFU. Everytime she throws some nonsense shit test at me, I just keep my fucking mouth shut. I dont respond, I dont argue. I've noticed that when I do this she will immediately retreat from her negativity and begin talking about something positive. Her attitude also will do a 180 and she'll appear happier than she was 5 minutes ago. This seems like it's working too well....
Is STFU really this effective? Am I ramboing this to get this type of response? Is this just her way of starting to adapt to my new behavior?
Any input is appreciated as I am still very much new to this.