Boyfriend has semi nude pictures of an other girl on his phone

nadirehsdrawdettocs · 2019-11-08T18:04:53+00:00

If Lola’s Instagram account is set to public your boyfriend doesn’t need to be following her to be able to see her stories and posts.

And him going through your phone in search of similar photos strikes me as guilty behaviour. As if to say “You see! You do it too! We’re BOTH in the wrong!” Like it’s somehow supposed to absolve him of any wrongdoing.

countrylemon · 2019-11-08T18:07:02+00:00

Yeah no, that's spank bank material, no man saves nude photos on his phone as a joke, girl - come on now. I wonder how you approached that, in terms of tone and wording, that resulted in him lying to you and then trying to turn the tables.

By all means, work on your body, you should always be watching what you eat, that's how you develop healthy habits. You don't need to be skinny or tear her down to make yourself feel better. You just need to feel better about your own body. Unfollow her ffs, that's already not good for you clearly. Get some perspective, why are you following this girl in the first place? To keep tabs on her? why?

oopsiepoppygloria · 2019-11-08T18:06:10+00:00

Screw Lola and your boyfriend for falling into that trap. Even if his friend was the one who sent the pics he should have never saved them to his phone. You have a right to be angry about this and it’s no surprise it’s stirred up some insecurity inside. He needs to earn your trust back or be kicked to the curb in my opinion

StepfordInTexas · 2019-11-08T18:53:32+00:00

Saved them because they were “funny”? Come on now sis. You’re smarter than that. Dating is about vetting. This is more than a red flag, this is a stop sign. Break up. Block and move on. Seriously.

dashdotdott · 2019-11-08T18:21:16+00:00

To me it makes sense that his friend send him those pics because he didn’t follow her at that time but i don’t understand why he would save them on his phone.

He kept them because he's male and they were of a semi-nude female. It's that simple. He lied about it because he knew he'd get grief.

Now, after all of this he tried going through my phone? Kinda like really trying to find something simular so he could but blame on me too and find sometjing to get mad at me for (that’s why i think he was trying it anyways) To me, that’s really weird and suspicious in some way.

It is weird. Especially because you weren't sneaking around and looking on his phone in the first place. But, it could also be immaturity, you both are still young. It is something to keep in mind, but if there aren't other red flags, I'd consider it a one off.

But now my biggest issue: this whole thing has made me really insecure. I’m not build like her at all. I’m not fat at all but i am curvy with big boobs, a big ass and i have a little tummy. Lola is skinny with small boobs, a small ass and a really flat tummy. All of the sudden i feel the need to really watch what i eat, i look in the mirror and wish i had a body like hers (which i didn’t really have before hand) i doubt myself and start to overthink if my boyfriend finds her more attractive, if i’m good enough etc. I talked to him about it and he feels bad because he didn’t mean any of this like i think it does and that he doesn’t want this to effect me at all, but sadly it does.

Did they have the opportunity to date before you were together? Because if they did and he chose you, then you know he prefers you to her. Regardless, she sounds like a girl who you don't bring home. A guy might enjoy having sex with her, but isn't going to want to settle down with her. Most men aren't going to want their wife to have semi-nudes on the internet. And for them to be seeking the attention of other men.

I would do your best to get past this. You could inadvertently push your BF away by being so insecure. Easier said than done, of course; but it is important to realize that he will look at other women. All men do, any who say otherwise are either saints, gay, or lying. Doesn't mean he would prefer to be with them. He's with you; I'd take that as a sign that he likes you and your body.

ditrone · 2019-11-08T19:05:30+00:00

WhatsApp saves to your camera roll by default, FYI. So the story that a friend sent them and that’s why they’re on his phone can be legit.

janeaustenfan99 · 2019-11-08T18:10:20+00:00

I can't speak on what to do with your bf, but it sounds like you are not happy with your appearance. And should work on that for your own sake. You are very young, start good exercise and diet habits now to get the body you want going forward. Build up your confidence so you are not comparing yourself to other women.

Pola_Lita · 2019-11-08T20:59:14+00:00

but i don’t understand why he would save them on his phone. He says that he didn’t really think of it much when saving them and that they were just kinda funny in a way because they’re so attention seeking and extra.

It's really hard to believe he saved them as a comical reminder of what to avoid in a woman. Did he say whether it was for himself only? Added to the fact that he enjoys sex/nude photos of you and was found going through your phone soon after this happened, it's even more difficult. You'll have to decide for yourself about the amount of honesty you require from those closest to you, but if it were me, I'd definitely stop sending him photos.

Wyrma · 2019-11-08T18:29:31+00:00

Leave him.

Whisper · 2019-11-08T20:49:31+00:00

Being jealous of jerk-off material doesn't really make sense.

https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/dnbwa0/trp_men_after_breakup_go_back_to_spinning_plates/f5fsohc/

MissNietzsche · 2019-11-08T22:05:19+00:00

I broke up with my ex because he microcheated and lied about it as well.

I took him back a couple days later because of all the conflicting advice online..and of course, I was still attached to him.

Proceed to me treating him like shit for 5 months, becoming suicidal again, and him leaving me to rot because he couldn’t take it anymore.

If you’re the type of girl who is okay with slightly non-monogamy (i.e. porn, checking out other woman, etc.), then this is perhaps work-aroundable.

But if you’re anything like me, in which you consider monogamy to be THE most important virtue in a relationship, that ship has sailed. I thought I could live with it gone, but I just can’t. If you vida yourself as hyper-monogamous, then I’m so sorry, but you know what you need to do. But if not, you still have a chance.

Question: Do you watch porn?

Zegiknie · 2019-11-09T18:47:37+00:00

What worries me is not his keeping some pornographic pic. Unless you specifically agreed against those kind of things togethet (pressuring him into it doesn't count) What worries me is he was like a guilty teenager about it, trying to avoid your anger and to get back at you.

Immature behavior on both sides.

My best advice: apologize for getting angry, it's his business if he wants to look at that. Then have a good talk about boundaries. Own up to your insecurity. Maybe you can grow together as a couple. But he sees you as the missus he needs to appease now. Yikes.

PhaedrusHunt · 2019-11-08T18:51:22+00:00

If these were DMs from her red flag. This is a pink flag.

My phone roll automatically logs all photos from my messenger app and fb messenger. So if you scrolled through it would look like I saved any dumb pic one of my buddies sent me unless I went in and deleted them individually

It sounds like y'all have an ok relationship-- don't let your hamstering create a problem where there shouldn't be one

loveisconditional · 2019-11-08T19:50:05+00:00

Breaking up with him over screenshotting pictures? Really?

I mean if he is still talking to her and flirting with her and/or has fucked her -- thats a problem.

But don't play it as if you've never been attracted to someone other than your boyfriend. Was it wrong of him to try and shame you and was it wrong of him to have screenshotted her to begin with while in a relationship? Definitely.

Is that worth breaking up over? Lol, if you're that insecure than sure. What he's done shouldn't be considered crossing a line.

Title	Boyfriend has semi nude pictures of an other girl on his phone
Author	neintje20
Upvotes	37
Comments	45
Date	November 8, 2019 5:19 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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