Friends gf on tinder

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December 9, 2019
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Friend of mine I’ve become closer with in the last 2 years. Just saw his gf on tinder , haven’t swiped on her yet(left obviously)

He’s been beta with her for awhile another friend in our group is her orbiter. She used to complain how he didn’t want to fuck her, he was a virgin. Don’t know if he still is, possibly is though.

I want to tell him, and have his back. I believe they are still dating.

We are sophomores in college, I don’t want to piss him off though for being nosey.


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Title Friends gf on tinder
Author RedRealer
Upvotes 91
Comments 74
Date 09 December 2019 06:04 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/298446
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/e85zem/friends_gf_on_tinder/
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[–]andrew_little1288 points289 points  (25 children) | Copy

You: “I found your ex on tinder, haha” Him: “Which one?” You: “—-“ with screenshot

He about to learn...

[–][deleted] 88 points89 points  (6 children) | Copy

Lol do this and post his reply

[–]gunterun37 points38 points  (5 children) | Copy

We're waiting, OP.

[–]PandaLitter65 points66 points  (4 children) | Copy

"I'm sure she's got a good reason for it. Fuck off bro we're not friends anymore."

[–]SunnyIsland_Explorer20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

I hope it's that.

[–]andrew_little119 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy

“BUT SHE SAID SHE DIDN’T MEET UP WITH ANYONE”

[–]Domebeers0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I died

[–]silvereddi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

„TRUST ME, SHE PROMISED SHE IS ONLY LOOKING FOR FRIENDS“

[–]frognads22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ooh that's brutal I love it

[–][deleted]  (4 children) | Copy

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[–]andrew_little16 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Well he’s going to be in shock, he has no other response. Trying to imagine the feeling in his stomach right now...

[–]RedRealer4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yea thats true. Lmao we have exams all this week. Hope that doesn’t fuck with him

[–]Zanford5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's a tough moral dilemma. Might've been worth waiting until right after his last exam, especially if you don't think he'll be seeing her and possibly getting STDs from her during the week.

[–]Zanford1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

He might be lying (about breaking up a week ago) to protect his ego, but in a weird way it's a good thing. Now that his mouth has written the check, his ass will feel some urge to cash it by breaking up soon.

[–][deleted]  (7 children) | Copy

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[–]amphix3398 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hey bro nice calves

Btw your gf's a thot

Leg raises be hitting these days huh ?

[–]LordLoveRocket006 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

Fella i moved in with came home from work one day with a shit eating grin on his face. "guess what?, Guess what! " Me: WHAT! Haha know guy from my work? Will he says 3 girls from your home town moved right beside him and ones is your ex!

The fucker was like a kid in a sweet shop, like i could easily imagine him sprinting from the bus stop to tell me this, as A hes a bit of a cunt, and no one else can have happiness. And B...

I don't get people like this.

[–]Thefreeman9112 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

He was looking for a reaction that you probably willingly delivered.

[–]LordLoveRocket004 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Naw i knew from his face what he wanted. And he definitely didn't get it. I just said cool small world.

[–]Thefreeman9113 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good man, put losers in their place

[–]Zanford1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

This is pretty smart, OP. By saying "ex" you reduce his (and her) ability to throw it back in your face and punish youf or the good deed. You'll come across like you thought it was just a funny 'small world' coincidence and didn't realize she was his "current" girlfriend.

Plus, you help your friend get into the proper frame of mine. She is his 'ex' now, for practical purposes if she's on Tinder, it's just a question of whether he realizes it.

[–]RedRealer0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

No he told me after the fact they broke up . Like a half hour later(after I showed him).

[–]Zanford0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Interesting. Did he find out about her Tinder / similar cheating or was it a coincidence? (Maybe somewhere in between, he sensed something was off and broke it off, or she just found a new branch on Tinder and dumped him)

[–]RedRealer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I have no idea he just they broke up

[–]PumConqueror150 points151 points  (8 children) | Copy

Tell the man. What's so hard about this that you have to make a post?

[–]Heybuddyyyyyy72 points73 points  (0 children) | Copy

Welcome to reddit

[–]l1ght-38 points39 points  (2 children) | Copy

I used to be like this.

Everything new I had happen in life, I needed to get the opinion from “wiser” people...

It changed once my mindset overall changed. Once I realised how I am now.

Op, there are a major few principles to be learnt. There is nothing wrong with asking questions to learn, but don’t focus on specific situations - focus on learning the core principles.

Once you learn these, you will have the answers deep down. It’s an amazing feeling to just come out with the best answer thanks to an updated mindset.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I disagree as specific situations help us to apply general principles in effective ways. this whole subReddit is here for the purpose of application and it is why you are right here looking and commenting yourself. otherwise he would just be reading the sidebar again and again with no need to comment and discuss specific situations here.

[–]l1ght-2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh 100% - I don’t disagree with that!

We learn from mistakes, but they don’t have to be our own. You’re right, it’s why I’m here constantly reading and learning from other people’s experiences.

That being said, after a while, in certain situations I can FEEL what the correct play will be.

It’s like how you suddenly become “alpha”. It’s because you learn so much that gradually you will predict what others would do.

There’s where, in my opinion, you will get the most from this journey.

Where you have learned so much that you begin to ask “what would I do if I had experience in this situation?”

I am probably over-generalising here. Some certain situations require some certain solutions/reference points!

[–]Siyuen_Tea2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Helping a friend without losing them.

If he tells him the wrong way, he can get defensive and push his friend deeper in the whole.

2 important things to know. 1. Men can be just as irrational and emotional as they claim women to be. 2. Some people are pretty good at manipulating and tricking people. Same way you wouldn't want to be tricked or manipulated, some people want to help there friends avoid that fate.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

because as he stated in the post, the other guy is very beta. confronting him may not be well received if this other guy is not red pill.

so OP is balancing being a good friend by telling him VS not saying anything so that he doesn't possibly lose a friend. and since OP is just learning, he is asking for input.

betas don't respond to truth like red pillers do. hence the rub.

[–]abomba241 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol ty

[–]throwawaybpdnpd-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

He needs our validation before taking a decision (like a submissive/following chick would), probably because he’s still blue pilled

[–]FBGOVO100percent22 points23 points  (4 children) | Copy

She will just manipulate him and say “I had it before we were dating, forgot to delete it” etc.

[–]RedSkeller11 points12 points  (3 children) | Copy

Caught my buddies gf and she still says this to this day.

[–]IAMNUMBERBLACK2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

This actually can happen tho. Even if u delete the app, IIRC it doesn’t delete your profile

[–]AudiXXCapone7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

After two weeks of inactivity your profile is not shown anymore.

[–]FBGOVO100percent0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I’m not saying that this isn’t true, I’m saying she will TELL him that and he will believe her.

[–]SirNemesis36 points37 points  (0 children) | Copy

She used to complain how he didn’t want to fuck her, he was a virgin.

I mean it's kind of on him if she has to resort to tinder then...

[–]Cheeseydick696916 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

You wanna start some shit. Send her a screen shot of the acc

[–]McVaghunter15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

She used to complain how he didn’t want to fuck her, he was a virgin... possibly is though.

Please lord, let me catch my son not fucking his girlfriends! That would be ass whooping time.

You friend is destined to be a safety net for a girl who wants to enjoy her sexual life without the fear of ending up alone. Telling him won't change shit; if he confronts her she's gonna dump his virgin ass on the spot and he'll crawl back to her, begging for forgiveness.

[–]furcryingoutloud6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Swipe right! Buy some popcorn!

[–]psychotropy4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Be a good friend and tell him the girl he's trying to fuck is looking for another penis. And show receipts (i.e. tinder screenshots). Talk to him about how these hoes ain't loyal, and introduce him to the redpill.

[–]Sweetdreams185 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck her then come to make a post on AWALT to get some good reddit karma

[–]whammyface1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

All you gotta do is send him a screen shot

[–]Internet-Troll1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Black mail material , hypothetically hyperbolically

[–]Don_Draper271 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

just tell him. No one's being nosy. She popped up on Tinder. No one went hunting for her.

He probably won't do anything about it and he's going to believe whatever BS she spits up but I would definitely want someone to educate me if someone I was seeing was still on dating apps.

[–]kfd_capital1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Swipe right anyway, part of you is also curious

[–]Irtotallynotrobot5 points6 points  (8 children) | Copy

Keep in mind that those dating apps still use people's pictures after they delete their accounts. I wouldn't get involved in he said, she said kind of shit.

[–]handfulofnuts24 points25 points  (5 children) | Copy

Is that what your girlfriend told you?

[–]Irtotallynotrobot1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

What girlfriend?

[–]handfulofnuts9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

The one who made you believe that horse shit about pics still showing up after deleting your account.

[–]Irtotallynotrobot1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

That comes from a friend who tried to make a dating app that failed. When they start out they go around and "buy" profiles to make it look like their app is populated. They never want you to stop swiping so they make up accounts and keep them open after people delete them, it's part of the illusion. I don't fuck with ltr's so I don't worry about their behavior on dating apps. You've gotta stop assuming shit

[–]handfulofnuts2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

We’re talking about tinder in 2019 here, not some shitty fly-by-night copycat abortion of app your buddy made. I’ve got friends who made dating/matching apps too. Their experience is irrelevant when comparing them to tinder. They’re not even playing the same sport, much less being in the ballpark. Guarantee that in 2019 tinder does not do what you’re saying they do. There’s no need for them to populate it with fake profiles because everyone is already using it.

OP’s friend is being cheated on. End of story.

[–]Irtotallynotrobot0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Okay.

[–]KinkysMT5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not true in the case of Tinder. After two weeks of inactivity your profile is not shown anymore.

[–]l1ght-0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Very true. Maybe the account is just old?

Either way just tell him to bring it up to her in a nice & non-accusational way (if at all)

[–]BurnoTaurus0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wow and instead of just doing it you were so hesitant about the decision you came here to get other opinions?

[–]Friendly-Casper0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He's your friend? Then why haven't you already shown him?

[–]Nergaal0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

always screenshot shiet like this

[–]TheDero0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Take a screenshot and send it to him. That's it. Just send the photo with no context and gauge his reaction.

[–]Senior Endorseddr_warlock0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

If they're not having sex, they're not dating. If he's not man enough to do basic escalation, he doesn't deserve a warning.

[–]UniversalFapture0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Shit. I needed this.

[–]PhaedrusHunt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Interesting situation.

On one hand it's kind of not your business. and if I were the bigger man that's the tack that I would take.

However, trouble maker and merry prankster that I am, I would definitely stir the pot, if nothing else for the sake of my own entertainment.

So let's run through some permutations.

You don't tell the guy: -nothing happens -he finds out you knew at some point in the future and gets pissed off that you didn't tell him -You're a complete dirt ball, you fuck her and blackmail her that you're going to tell him hahaha

You DO tell the guy: -nothing happens -he dumps her makes a metamorphosis into super Chad and becomes your all-time best wingman -He cries himself to sleep as you lovingly stroke his hair -He goes through all the emotions of grief but somehow blames you and decides you're at fault. You end up in a barrel full of battery acid.

The point is no one gives a shit. You just never know in these situations. I'll give an example. As part of my friend's group in college there was a girl that was my age and a guy that was a couple of years older that were dating on and off since maybe halfway through our freshman year. This girl was a cool chick she was not a big hoe but she was definitely not a prude either. This guy however came from a really religious background and didn't want to have sex until marriage. So they're kind of on again off again and they're dating other people and when I say dating I mean he's taking girls to the movies and having clever banter and she's getting railed by hot guys.

Now this guy was in my friend's group and I like him but he always kind of got on my nerves and I definitely always saw him as beta as hell even when I didn't have the language to describe that (late 90s). She even went abroad for a full year, had her fun in Europe, meanwhile this guy's graduating working a crappy job and just kind of waiting on her to get back. They get back together her senior year. I'm actually roommates with her and one other chick so I get to see first hand the relationship for a year. she's horny as hell and he still won't fuck her. He lives about an hour away and comes out pretty much every weekend, he won't fuck her. I was pretty dumb not to in hindsight lol but honestly I'm glad I didn't because we're all still friends to this day.

We graduate. He's still never fucked her. They've been on and off for 4 years at this point and he's never fucked her. He's like 23, 24 at this point.

She eventually demands that he fucks her or she's going to break up with him. So he does, and they go on to have a presumably normal relationship.

They got married a few years ago. They've got a kid now. I'm assuming she's still the only woman he's ever fucked. They seem happy I guess.

OP, if your friend is refusing to fuck this girl somebody else is going to and he's got no one to be mad at but himself. It's not her fault she wants to have sex. Should she tell him? Yeah I guess but if he weren't such a fucking chump he wouldn't have to deal with that in the first place.

Actually the more I think about it fuck your friend. He's a little bitch and he's going to stay a little bitch.

You can try to red pill him but I think he's a little fag and you should show him this post and tell him Uncle Phaedrus thinks he should go choke on a sausage

[–]PreEntertain0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Swipe right and saw a piece of that ass off

[–]Domebeers0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dog swipe right! if she matches you, you show your bro!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Don't tell him. In my experience guys that beta will do anything to protect their disney reality.

He wont confront her immediately, he will let it fester until it grinds away all his self confidence. Then he will confront her and she will manipulate him into believing its all one big mistake and you're trying to break them up out of jealousy.

It's your call, but I'd prepare for the day he finds out, be a bro, call the boys and take your friend out for drinks and rebuild him.

[–]PhaedrusHunt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This.

Beta guys wanna be BPd

[–]Sin-Silver-2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy

I believe Tindr keeps your account and advertises it even if you don’t use it. It is possible she hasn’t used it in a whilst.

[–]XT3M30 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

from experience, it vanishes after a while of no activity.

[–]KarmicPrism0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A while.

[–]no_re-entry-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

maybe they're into it...

[–]InsidiousCurve-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Had the same thing happen with my buddy recently, but I think he broke up with her. And now we get to see her pathetic insecure self immediately beg for attention on tinder and instagram. It's all in the pictures.

[–]Kabuki431-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

MYOB



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