I am never going to be in a relationship red pill or not.

tomowudi · 2019-12-29T15:09:34+00:00

Context might help here.

How old are you and have you ever had sex?

These two points can have a big impact on how reasonable your expectations are and to what extent your thoughts are distorted and unhealthy.

Jekawi · 2019-12-29T15:37:06+00:00

Everything you've written here comes across as "I don't see women as people but holders of sex and they're not giving it to me". Your comment about just wanting to fuck/peg someone hot is terrible and when I read it I know exactly why you haven't had any luck.

dongtouch · 2019-12-29T17:48:33+00:00

You have mountains of work to do on yourself before you try for a relationship. This chip on the shoulder resentful attitude towards women, as if you’re owed sex and romance, and if you’re not getting it it’s bc women hate you for some reason, and you just wanna be with someone “hot”.... guarantee we women can sense it and run the other way. That attitude ranks on the level of raging BO in terms of attractiveness.

There are many men and women with your level of sexual and romantic experience out there. By 27 I’d had 1 relationship and 3 sexual partners, and had a 3 year dry spell between 1 and 2. I also wanted something to change, so I decided to work on my social anxiety, improve my social skills, talk to people, show up to clubs, bars, and social events even if it was briefly and difficult at the start, I went on dozens of awkward dates and had a dozen awkward hookups. But I learned a lot. Five years of this suddenly landed me in a loving, secure relationship and much better sex. But that doesn’t just HAPPEN magically as you seem to think. It takes effort, it takes work. It’s only easy for a tiny fraction of humans. You are not unique and this process works the same for you as lots and lots of others (even with your mental health issues.)

raziphel · 2019-12-30T00:10:13+00:00

Not with that attitude!

You should probably talk to a therapist.

Mindful_Man · 2019-12-30T04:47:11+00:00

Easy to spot a yellow car when you are always thinking of a yellow car.

Easy to spot opportunity when you are always thinking of opportunity.

Easy to spot reasons to be mad when you are always thinking of being mad.

You become what you constantly think about. Watch yourself.

TheMadWoodcutter · 2019-12-30T07:39:45+00:00

Honestly it seems like you're so focused on sex that you've forgotten that women are people too. Here's a tip, women tend to want to have sex with men (or women) that they feel safe with and enjoy being around. Physical attraction matters too, but you'd be surprised how much an engaging personality that feels good to be around can make up for.

filrabat · 2019-12-30T08:57:45+00:00

The problem isn't the lack of sex. It's that you're putting value on the wrong things. In this case, you're chaining your happiness, if not your self-esteem, on having sex, romance, etc. I don't know where you got that idea from or what kind of life experiences you had that caused you to think that way. But whatever it is, that belief is the fast track to serious self-esteem problems, if not outright mental health ones. A person's more than just an over-brained animal looking for their next screw.

A person is someone who makes the world a less bad place (even making it a better place is only secondary) - independent of one's sex life or lack thereof. Anyone response like "He's a good guy, but he can't get laid" simply has effed up priorities and ways of sizing up another person's worth. They confuse a lot of things, in fact. The following is not an exhaustive list, but I will hit the highlights. They confuse...

Personal worth with mere leaving a genetic legacy.
Self-respect with frequent approval from others (especially the opposite sex).
Social skills and attractive personality for human worth.
Knowledge with mere cocky and confident bravado.

Your best bet is to avoid social scenes in which sex is a major topic of conversation. Find social clubs whose primary focus is not on sex and things usually going along with it (especially alcohol, partying, etc.). Focusing on your hobbies will clear so much bullshit from your brain after a few weeks that you won't believe it's happening. You'll find a basis for self-esteem independent of sex.

2019-12-30T01:41:17+00:00

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JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2019-12-29T20:47:46+00:00

If you're 27 and you've had three sexual partners, that's not actually bad going. I know guys (me included ) who had worse stats at that age. Use that knowledge as a reinforcement that if you've done it before, you can do it again.

Godmode2229 · 2019-12-30T01:27:05+00:00

What do you have in your life that's more important that women?

yayotg · 2019-12-29T23:18:01+00:00

Hookers is your solution

2019-12-29T15:07:41+00:00

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Title	I am never going to be in a relationship red pill or not.
Author	thorisstillworthy
Upvotes	3
Comments	84
Date	December 29, 2019 3:05 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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