I was caught

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December 30, 2019

Guys I've fucked up royally.

I got drunk the last two nights and started texting the neighbor girl over IG. We sent messages about dreams, sex dreams, etc. It was inappropriate but nothing absolute and too out of pocket. Just stupid.

Her husband sends the screenshots to my wife this morning while I'm on my way to run.

I woke up to a message from the neighbor girl saying that she couldn't talk to me anymore and that her husband had read it and some of it was very inappropriate.

I feel like a fuck. My wife and I finally addressed the elephant in the room. At first it was about the messages. How I've lied about the neighbor being attractive.

Then she started crying and saying it was all her fault and expected it to happen eventually because she has no sex drive.

I owned all of it, apologized for how she feels, for making the mistake etc.

I asked her what she wanted to do? "I dont know, you tell me, you're the one with the options" (we have 2 boys and one on the way)

We eventually talked it out. There's a looming depression in the air. Minimum talking.

I've probably blown it up. I've had every emotion imaginable go through me today. I'm trying to hold it together. Sucking on a gun even passed through my mind a few times. Not from losing her. I can't lose my boys.

I know I'll have to make preparations no matter what happens. So far, we have agreed to not split up. (We will see)

I guess I'm just typing this out. Someone on here has fucked up like this. I just need guidance.

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Title I was caught
Author Stallion--Duck
Upvotes 12
Comments 44
Date 30 December 2019 11:15 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/303652
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/ehtxe4/i_was_caught/
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[–]RoccoPinkman70 points71 points  (1 child) | Copy

Sucking on a gun because you got caught sexting your neighbour? What the fuck kind of faggotry is this?

Asking her what you are going to do? Who’s leading here?

[–]WolfofAllStreetz12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy


Man up, stop being a faggot and you’re being a massive one.

[–]man_in_the_worldRed Beret41 points42 points  (1 child) | Copy

So you

  • used alcohol to excuse yourself to sneakily sexually flirt with a neighbor without being prepared to own it, like a beta faggot;

  • failed to speak and act congruently and own your desires and expectations when caught,

  • DEERed, apologized, and crumbled into her frame like a bluepill beta,

  • come here begging like a faggot for a bluepill solution to a problem resulting from your bluepill behavior.

Supposedly you've been MRPing and OYSing for a month, but apparently all you have done is add a bluepill sense of covert sexual entitlement to your beta resentment.

Don't come here looking for bluepill solutions to your beta problems. The answers are all found in the MRP sidebar. Try following it, for a change!

[–]Hugenstein418 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wow those last 2 paragraphs especially are some real shit. Straight advice.

Covert sexual entitlement added to the existing beta resentment.

[–]NeoTheJuanDJ7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

So much to unpack with this one.

Part of being RP aware is not getting hung-up in the small traps that are abundant everywhere. This would include knowing that if you escalate with a woman, where if it goes south, it could come back to bite you in the ass and effect other areas of your life (such as fucking a coworker, or sexting a neighbour***). This just shows that you clearly are inexperienced (or at least a little rusty) with spinning plates and playing the field. You also have a little bit of a scarcity mentality, because the first girl who touched your dick (not even that: texted you about sex and something actually interesting), you went full retard and went for it. Knowing full-well it isn’t worth it. Keep your sex life separate from your family, from your work/career/income, and friendships. There are hundreds of millions of women out there you can text about sex and escalate with. Shitting LITERALLY next to where you “eat” (next door) is just stupidity. And shows you are retarded when it comes to strategy and seeing a few steps ahead, and/or have zero options that you fell into the first booby trap that caught your eye. Literally. You’re an idiot.

Compartmentalize. Keep each area of your life separate from one another to minimize collateral damage IN CASE anything goes to shit. Also, play a few games of chess to learn how to look ahead. Also, get more options and stop being so thirsty and retarded. You need to own this, stfu, sidebar, lift, and be more strategic and intelligent with your moves. This isn’t dread. This is retardation. Get your shit together.

[–]Onein1024th0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This isn’t dread. This is retardation.

this is autistically skipping to step 10 of dread without putting in any of the work

[–]An_Actual_Politician0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

And now I bet this husband that discovered his whore of a wife attempting to branch swing to this beta pussy cannot fucking wait to run into him in the hall. This is how murder/suicides happen. Great job OP!

[–]fannyfire6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you want to make this right you need to go to your neighbors and reconcile with the girls husband. Shouldn’t be too hard for you to give him a blowjob seeing as you’re a giant faggot. My god what a mess this post is. Have you been reading any of the sidebar?? You apologized for sexting the neighbor? Own your shit. If you want to fuck around fuck around but don’t shit on a duck and call it art.

[–]RedPillGlasses6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Who says you fucked up?

She wouldn’t fuck you, you’re searching for new pussy.

This is basic dread level shit. Sure, shouldn’t have pulled it when she was prego, but fuck it whatever, now she’s going to say “yes” to your desire to get sex.

As is your right.

Stop being gay and wrapped all up in her feels.

You - “You’ve been saying no to sex with me, so I’ve subconsciously started searching for it from other women.”

Her - “I’m sorry babe, what do you want me to do?”

You - <insert cock>

Not seeing the problem

[–]jacques_cousteau00712 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

First of all, you’re an Idiot

Second of all,

It’s not “what should we do”

It should be “this is what we’re going to do”

[–]RStonePT7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

He's not an idiot, he's a pussy afraid to advocate for his own best interests, instead of doing the least attractive thing he could do.,

the worst part is he was so bad at it he got caught within the span of a columbo episode

[–]Red_FiveO4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't grab a gun man you can handle whatever happens - your kids need you. Find something like the gym to work off some stress of the situation. (No booze, drugs, etc..)

[–]MrChad_ThundercockBig Red Machine3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy


However, you’re in a great spot here.

Since she expected it because she has no drive (really lack of attraction towards you - because you’re a FAG), start improving your SMV and hit the gym.

Read the ===>

Tell her you want to make it work. Work your ass off to become a man of high value. Instead of you sucking on a gun, she’ll be sucking on your cock now.

You might be able to make this work for you. If the value is there, she’ll start making the effort to keep you. If she doesn’t, she already knows you’re quick to find some strange.

[–]venicerocco4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why the hell would you throw away a marriage, ruin two children’s lives, and leave a pregnant wife over sexting????

My god people’s perspective on monogamy is fucked up.

[–]khalabrakis4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

All I have to say is: trailer park neighbors.

[–]Stallion--Duck[S] -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

This one wins the internet!

[–]khalabrakis2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lived in them before and I know sure as shit, people living too close to eachother is a bad thing socially.

[–]FoxShitNasty833 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I owned all of it, apologized for how she feels, for making the mistake etc.

What would have been better was to say "yeah i own it, I won't apologize for being a sexual man. I need sex to be in a relationship"

had you worked the levels of dread correctly this might have had some weight.

You went rambo

[–]ChokingDownRPRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If you are truly having suicidal thoughts, call a suicide hotline ASAP.

If, however, you're just being the drama queen you come across as:

Her telling you it's all her fault, due to her lack of sex drive... then, instead of stating your needs and expectations, you "apologized for how she feels" - strike 1

Asking her what she wants to do ( instead of LEADING and telling her what's going to happen - strike 2

Her saying "you're the one with the options" and still not recognizing you're in the driver's seat, rather you continue DEERing and have suicidal thoughts - strike 3 faggot.

You have no understanding of frame or leadership. She was begging for you to have both, she tried to tee it all up for you to lay out your vision, to give her some comfort.

Maybe you'll get a main event soon, you need to be prepared. Until then, I'd act as if you're a man with options, and live your life accordingly.

[–]Techn1ckS2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Actions have consequences. Never do anything you aren't ready to own up to. If losing your kids is something that causes you to want to "suck on a gun" maybe you should have thought about that before doing shit. If you do think about it before, and you decide that you are ok with losing custody of your kids, then by all means, do whatever the fuck makes YOU happy. It's called outcome independence. Just be ready to own up to it. If you read the sidebar you would have probably known all this.

On the other hand, you didn't actually fuck your neighbor, so grow a fucking pair, read the sidebar and stop being a beta faggot.

[–]RStonePT6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

Oh I know this one. You're secular, but require the catholic priest to absolve you of sin. these posts used to be titles 'call me a faggot plz MRP'

You did something, you then used distancing language so as to remove you from your actions, and now come here with a sob story. No attempt at action, no questions at something you will do and are unsure if it's the right idea. Just hat in hand.

Fuck dude, I think your wife is more embarrassed that YOU tried to slide into a girls DMs, not so much that you broke the sanctity of marriage by using your phone (lol) AND THE WORST PART IS YOU REFUSE TO EVEN ACKGNOWLEDGE WHY YOU BOTHERED TO

So far, we have agreed to not split up. (We will see)

It's spelled 'she' we is just a horeshit copout.

And honestly, I'd love to lay out in great detail but Jackten taught me that just causes burnout.

Here's what you do. Whatever reason your wife ain't doing it for you, pressure flip that.

'why are you sexting the neighbour tom?' "Because I have scarcity and a lack of options, plus you not fucking me because of a headache for the last 5 months had something to do with it, Karen.'

then go to the gym, go to the kitchen. Go be attractive AF. Assume your wife will leave once she figures out youre worth more dead than alive. Once that happens, you'll go find a girl 5 years younger and promise never to be a lame duck and fuck this one up. If your wife is lucky, she may even start to fuck you again to keep you around.

But you're not going to do any of that, you'll alllow your wife to have this over your head until she decides to leave you for the cool guy at the office who swears he will leave his wife for her. He will string her along for 6 months but it's clear he wasn't going to leave. Then she will tell you she wants to give it another try, for the kids or somesuch. you'll think you hit the lottery, in reality she's got nowhere else to go.

Oh, and this isn't the best part. The best part is you'll think somehow you dodged a bullet, and this whole experience made your relationship stronger.

TLDR; read the sidebar and get to work step by step. Japanese beer is better than american beer, do 3 hail maries and something rosary. happy new years

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

You forgot an important detail: the wife tells him she broke it off with the office guy because she wants to "try again."

[–]RStonePT0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy


Also, that report is hilarious.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, you have such devoted fans.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Apparently not read the sidebar

Are you responsible for her feelz ?

You have her up against the wall, admitting her failures, and all you needed to do is add comfort.

Instead, you catastrophically fuck it up, and run your mouth.

Sidebar >>>. Lift >>>>

[–]Onein1024th0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You have her up against the wall, admitting her failures, and all you needed to do is add comfort.

OP is contemplating suicide not realizing he's been dealt a royal flush

[–]mrpthrowa1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m working on a girly small bag for beta faggots to wrap their testies for their oneties and hand them over.

I’m gonna be rich. Suggestions for a brand name?

[–]Onein1024th1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

How I've lied about the neighbor being attractive.

this is where you should have been honest. "Yes, I find her attractive, don't you?"

Then she started crying and saying it was all her fault and expected it to happen eventually because she has no sex drive.

and it kind of is. but its really your fault for not inspiring in her a sex drive for you. What do you lift? Bodyfat %? Do you have an active social life outside the home? Do you play videogames with cheetah-stained chubby hands from a rapidly degrading couch supporting your weight while she does the dishes?

Don't become a big baby amidst this and she'll see you as rock solid. Make this the end of the fucking world and so will she.

Honestly, this could all turn out massively in your favor. At the end of the day she has admitted she needs to work on having a sex drive; and now she sees you as someone who has options. You're maybe a little bit of a red-blooded man and not just her subjugated pillsbury doughboy who mows the lawn and pays for everything.

If neighbor girl gets divorced you have active dread so long as she stays in the county. If she doesn't you have active dread when you get ripped and mow the lawn shirtless.

Worst case scenario: If you get divorced, just drive things in a way that end with you living really close to your ex and kids and being a very active father. So long as you have a good attorney and are prepared; courts generally DO want both parents involved.

[–]SoggyTrainCucked by machines1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Considering suicide over this, that is ridiculous. This is NOT that big of a deal, stop making it one. Suicide is literally the worst thing you could possibly do to your kids. You are going to be fine.

Seems like your wife knows she needs to step up her game, and you do too. At least she knows now that you won't live a sexless life, nor should you. I would think after this event that some self-improvement by you and she will be a much better wife to you.

Try this exercise. Spend some time alone and envision how much different your life could be in one year. Write out in detail your ideal life, how you look, your daily routine, your sex life, your kids. There are plenty of guys around here that went from a dead bedroom to sex EVERY single day.

[–]OptimusRP1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She doesn't want a divorce. Sounds like you don't either. Own your shit and move forward. Take care of yourself, your wife and your kids. It will take some time but you will be fine.

[–]No_Potential604051 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

how about you grow up and give up this blue pill cuckery sh!t

own the screwup, but do not give up control. now, when you say you want sex, she will give it to you. or make it clear you keep looking elsewhere

[–]jenovajunkie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well, OP got what he asked for; TRP advice.

[–]Blue_Andre0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

🤦🏻‍♂️ Just be polygamous already. What’s with apologizing to her? If anything apologize to your neighbor. And honestly don’t mess with another man’s wife - get your own.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Sucking on a gun even passed through my mind a few times.

See, at least I had the balls to actually stick the gun to my head.

Faggots these days cant do anything right.

[–]RoccoPinkman1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You miss understood, he didn’t mean suicide, he just likes big, long, hard things in his mouth.

He is a massive faggot after all.

[–]bliceroquququq0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

A buddy of mine got caught by his wife when he was sexting his old girlfriend. The old GF lived out of state and he wasn’t fucking her anymore, they were both married, just explicit sexting after one of them had been drinking. His wife found out, all hell broke loose, he felt terrible, counseling, blah blah. The marriage survived.

Years later he caught his wife fucking her old boyfriend on an out of town trip. His sexting had opened the door in her mind, given her the belief that fidelity was optional, and she was able to cheat on him if she wanted since he had “cheated” on her.

So yeah, you fucked up. You should’ve at least gotten your dick wet for all the trouble you’ve put yourself through.

[–]BarracudaRP1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

His sexting had opened the door in her mind, given her the belief that fidelity was optional, and she was able to cheat on him if she wanted since he had “cheated” on her.

Your buddy's wife has a talented hamster, and this is some epic BP bullshit. Her hamster wanted an excuse to justify riding another cock. If your buddy hadn't sexted years prior, do you really think she would have magically kept her panties on? She would have found a different excuse - he was emotionally unavailable, his words were mean, she was bored, she was drunk, it was a weird Tuesday, 'it just happened'.

The worst part is your buddy (and you, apparently) fell for this, because you're both describing her affair in terms of excuses she leveled against her husband. Yuck.

Let me guess: it was her 'first time' cheating, she apologized and signed them up for counseling again, and they're still together.

[–]bliceroquququq-1 points0 points  (6 children) | Copy

You’re not very good at reading comprehension. She fucked her old boyfriend because she wanted to. She’ll do it again with someone else for whatever reason she decides. I have no doubt about it even if my buddy does and “loves her so much” despite her cheating.

[–]SoggyTrainCucked by machines0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

I don't think you are good at understanding a fucking thing. Her cheating had nothing to do with his sexting. Women will rationalize ANY excuse for their infidelity or any other damn thing they do wrong. Herp Derp husband smiled at a girl, better fuck some other dude, not my fault.

I'm betting BarracudaRP is right and they are still together.

[–]bliceroquququq0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

And I think you're a dumbass who doesn't understand English. I never said she cheated on him because he sexted, I said she used it as an excuse "in her mind" to do what she always wanted to do anyways. Yes, she would've created a different justification if he hadn't. Yes, she will probably do it again. We're saying the same thing, you're just too dumb to realize it.

[–]SoggyTrainCucked by machines0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

I think we might be saying the same thing. Your buddy's texting did not open the door for his wife's cheating. It had nothing to do with it is what I'm saying. She just used it as an excuse later, but her excuse could have been anything. Your OG comment comes across differently, and I'm not the only one who thinks so.

Are they still together?

[–]bliceroquququq1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Maybe I suck at English, but yes, I think we're saying the same thing. His sexting absolutely did not open the door. She used it as one of her many excuses, but if he hadn't done it, it would have just been a different excuse. It would have happened regardless.

They are still together. She makes a lot of money, they have young kids together, and she arguably has higher SMV than him though he has his shit together. I think she'll do it again once she gets bored and he gets a little lazy in trying to keep her happy all the time, but there is no point telling him that. I can't advise him to leave his kids or sacrificing the marital equity, and he knows the odds of it happening again.

[–]SoggyTrainCucked by machines0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

We are on the same page.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

His sexting had opened the door in her mind, given her the belief that fidelity was optional

Just for the record, that quoted phrase above paints it like it is the chain of causation. You need to say "she rationalized as..." or "she made the excuse that..." This is why you confused people.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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