tl;dr - "I've just found out my wife is a ticking sex bomb!" "Relax, you've made it seven years without exploding. Everything will be fine!"
Dear Prudence (Emily Yoffe) offers advice at Slate that is a curious mix. Usually conventional, Team Woman answers, with an occasional Red Pill insight. Her latest is the former:
I have been married to my wife for two years, and we’ve been together for five. ... she recently told me some things about her past that have troubled me quite a bit. She said she has had quite a wild sexual past. She has slept with male strippers, been involved in aggressive sex with multiple partners that involved hitting, slept with a number of married men, cheated in most relationships, enjoyed getting choked during sex, and possibly even shared a sexual partner with her mother. She said she did these things because she was sad and depressed and sex made her feel better.
A red flag that could cover Texas, right? Not to Pru:
Whatever it was, it’s clear that when you got together she was a different person from the one who sought out illicit and even degrading encounters. You must know that people do change and that many people are able to leave destructive habits behind for good.
Now, she does call out the wife, saying she should have disclosed this before the wedding, but then ends with:
What’s important now is for you to remember that your wife is the same person you’ve known for the past five years, and that there’s no reason this confession should cast a shadow on your good fortune at finding each other. It would be sad if her desire to have you understand her better leads to your loving her less. You just recently got this news and have understandably been ruminating on it. Now it’s time to stop. See if you can decide to push these thoughts out of your mind and make the choice to return to being grateful for your life together.
See, everything is fine, and it's his problem. He just needs to learn to ignore it!
Here's a little Gedankenexperiment: Pretend a wife wrote in, saying her husband admitted that he was physically and emotionally violent in several prior relationships. What would the response be if Dear Prudence advised her, "You two have been together for five years, and you don’t indicate that during that time you have ever had cause to doubt your safety. I don’t know if meeting you was the turning point in his life, or if by the time he met you he had moved past his emotional problems and was ready for a more fulfilling relationship. Whatever it was, it’s clear that when you got together he was a different person from the one who acted out in other relationships"?
Do not ask women for advice about women.
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