Ghosted by plate - thoughts?

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January 24, 2020

Been hooking up with this girl for a few weeks. Sex only appointments after first date. Will hang out for a bit after but just lounging in bed, not going out. And no desire to LTR.

Anyway, 3 days after I last saw her, she hits me up at night asking me to come over. Double texts a half hour later when I don’t respond and says “please.” I tell her I can’t and she pleads (gonna “let me” fuck her in the ass, etc). I tell her I legit can’t again.

No texts since then. Fast forward a couple days later to this week and I tell her let’s hang out this weekend. And she ghosts that. Seemingly out of nowhere.

I’m just curious if anyone has any idea what’s up here. Is that to be expected if you turn them down when they want dick? Does it sound like I made any mistakes?

If not, I’ll just write it off as who knows, who cares. But simply curious if there’s an explanation or something to learn from.


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Title Ghosted by plate - thoughts?
Author bluefingerblue
Upvotes 69
Comments 65
Date 24 January 2020 04:33 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]RedSkeller217 points218 points  (29 children) | Copy

When she was begging you to come over, you were her number 1 pick. Then you declined so she called up number 2. Dude must have hit it in the stratosphere because she dropped you immediately. Shit happens, happened to me plenty of times, plates break. Who knows, that dick might not have been that great but he’s more easily manipulated. Whatever reason, soft next.

[–]RedSkeller75 points76 points  (18 children) | Copy

To add to this, I had a young thot back in October who I met of tinder. We had a fun first date, I met her friends and took her back to my place for some no holds barred sex all within a couple hours. This was in the week, so that weekend she hit me up to come over enthusiastically. She even did the same ‘please’ shit and after I explained I had a big thing early the next day I just left her on the read.

I hit her up a couple days later and right away I could tell something was up, she wasn’t replying as quick and giving me the short texts. So I tell her just to come over and she does, sure enough is weird. Eventually it comes out she fucked another dude, and after trickle truth it was 3 other dudes besides me in the last week, starting with the night I didn’t show.

So obviously it didn’t last long after that but honestly girls just have dick on tap whenever they’re thirsty.

[–]think_909090951 points52 points  (6 children) | Copy

One dick for each day of the week. Crazy. Men are just human dildos at this point.

[–]febreze_air_freshner43 points44 points  (5 children) | Copy

women are just cum bags nowadays

[–]Turkerthelurker33 points34 points  (4 children) | Copy

Weird, it's almost as if tradition and culture have worked for thousands of years to curb this behavior only to be tossed out the window in the name of progress.

[–]1Red_Pill_Brotherhood12 points13 points  (3 children) | Copy

Female nature has always been this way, it's just that we have returned to the "laws of the jungle" now that there is far less judgment for women. Theres pros and cons to it. Overall, I'd say its good- at least for high value guys.

[–]Turkerthelurker18 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy

Overall, I'd say its good- at least for high value guys.

Sure, if you value meaningless sex without procreation.

If you give the slightest fuck about your neighbors and nation, it's not great.

[–]Ill_mumble_that4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

It usually takes a war and deaths of entire civilizations for it to self correct, but it will self correct.

[–]sncvc2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t worry, that’s coming. Much sooner than anyone thinks.

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[–]aesky8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

fuck i was that bf

[–]bluefingerblue[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]ApdoSenpai12 points13 points  (4 children) | Copy

Where are you from? I had the same type of experience in October too with an eerily similar outcome

[–]RedSkeller4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

Did she have a tattoo near her puss? We might be Eskimo brothers

[–]ApdoSenpai0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I think so, was she in college and had a black cat?

[–]RedSkeller0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don’t think so, at least we’re into the same type of chick. I’m in the Midwest and fuck mostly retired emo chicks and art hoes.

[–]PUA_Fan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao girls with tatoos are trash

[–]fretty5550 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What was she out of 10?

[–]newyearzz20200 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

and after trickle truth it was 3 other dudes besides me in the last week, starting with the night I didn’t show.


[–]ApdoSenpai16 points17 points  (7 children) | Copy

Lmao this

[–]iwviw29 points30 points  (6 children) | Copy

Also I think chicks egos are soft. She got rejected. It hurt and she hard nexted.

[–]femaledoglover616 points17 points  (4 children) | Copy

Was just about to type this. She hard nexted and found other dick cause you hurt her ego

[–]iwviw12 points13 points  (3 children) | Copy

Girls have soooo many choices . Their dms are blown up nonstop. It’s sooo easy to move on. I would guess that the avg women’s n/count is higher than the average mans

[–]1KirthWGersen6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

There I was thinking that the average n-count must be equal between men and women. Then I came across this from "Mathematical Population Studies":

"It is generally thought that for sake of consistency men and women must have the same average number of lifetime partners. However, this is not the case in general. When men have younger partners, women enter sexual relationships more quickly than men and have a higher number of lifetime partners. A male dominant model applied to UK data on the male rate of entry into a sexual relationship and the male partnership formation function shows that in a stationary population (zero growth rate) women have 9.1% more partners than men. In a stable population with an intrinsic growth rate of 2% and a larger but still plausible difference between the ages of partners, women have 24.6% more partners than men. Given that in sex surveys men report more partners than women, the resulting bias in estimated numbers of partners may therefore be larger than previously thought."

Basically, men appear to have a lower average n-count because women start younger (with older partners) and live longer ...

[–]i-am-the-prize0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

it would make sense

  • as birth control reduces the 'cost' and chances of preggo
  • as std/stv tests become more common
  • as the sexual marketplace friction/hurdles are overcome (hook up apps)
  • fewer nuclear households = fewer on-premises male role models for healthy daughter-father relationships (check the Pew and Deloitte research from 2015 and newer on the decline and projected further decline of 2 parent households)
  • and as abundance is naturally tilted to those who control access to the poon...

what you pasted makes sense.

which would mean, your best odds of not being a total newb in bed is to be one of your plate's many notches, to as many plates as you can during your formative years... so when you are actually nekkid and doing the nasty in your 20's and 30s, with a chick you actually "like", she's not bored out of her mind like a pro ski racer stuck on a bunny slope with you ;)

[–]ProFriendZoner2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

The difference is, she can find an easy replacement. For guys, we still have to work it.

[–]1Red_Pill_Brotherhood4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good points but she also could just be butthurt and playing tit for tat.

[–]muricanwerewolf11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Knocked it out of the park. OP, as Red said, soft next, hit her up in a few months if you don’t hear from her if you wanna see if you can start it up again.

[–]mc71184 points85 points  (11 children) | Copy

you didn't supply dick (she was willing to do anal), so most likely she found new dick. if she's really a plate, why even care?

edit: lol @ downvoting the truth. ok

[–]bluefingerblue[S] 8 points9 points  (10 children) | Copy

Obviously plates break, just never seen one go from hot to cold that quick. Curious why.

[–]ApdoSenpai43 points44 points  (1 child) | Copy

She’s a girl. They’re fickle by nature, treat every relationship as temporary

[–]think_909090910 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

They're also conditioned to have that dick on tap now so they move on quick if you don't comply with her requests for sex

[–]mc71112 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

care less...move on

[–]illogicaldecision3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, girls are like that, it's subconscious to them. That happens to everyone else too, don't sweat it and as already said, spin more plates.

[–]Enlightened_Chimp9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

Even Einstein couldn't understand the intricacies of the thot mind

[–]Standgrounding5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

He could and he decided to stay away

[–]Ill_mumble_that2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

They aren't complicated, they are just self contradicting and also lacking self agency. Once you stop listening to what they say, and only pay attention to what they do, they are much easier to predict than men.

Why? Because AWALT. They all behave the same way when it comes to nearly everything. The biggest differentiating factor is always how hot they are, but women on the same level of attractiveness all behave the same.

[–]newyearzz20201 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Once you stop listening to what they say, and only pay attention to what they do, they are much easier to predict than men.

Precisely, it’s so easy to predict what they will do.

This should be top rated comment. Take my upvote. I have no idea why only 2 ppl upvoted this before me

[–]yumyumgivemesome2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Others have explained it in greater detail. Could even be additional reasons if she wanted commitment and other guy seems to be offering it. Who knows. Don't reach out to her, and it's very likely she'll contact you again (days, weeks, or months later) as if she never ghosted in the first place. Try to move on psychologically and try not to dwell on this.

[–]reddick12 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why? Because you didn't come to dick her so she found another guy who took your place.

[–]lolomotif1253 points54 points  (0 children) | Copy

She want dick, you give no dick, she find new dick, possibly better dick, she hurt your ego, next!

[–]1KirthWGersen14 points15 points  (4 children) | Copy

Happened to me twice in the last year. In both cases, 15 years younger than me; sex within hours of meeting. One on Tinder; one at an event. Both have kids and claimed to be looking for a FWB.

I couldn't meet up as soon as they wanted and within a week or two they already had "boyfriends".

Some girls simply want a guy who is always available (when they are available).

It's totally understandable. We've all done it. I called a girl last week when I unexpectedly had a four-hour window. She couldn't make it, so I called another. It doesn't mean I wasn't into her, she simply wasn't available, so I found another.

[–]bluefingerblue[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Does that explain the ghost tho? I guess I just don’t understand the ghost cause I never use it. Maybe I should start..

[–]Ill_mumble_that2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

No. It's the whole lock vs key analogy.

You put up with shitty behavior from plates because they are plates. So long as they aren't actually wasting your time.

A plate exists to provide you with sex. Nothing else about her matters, so long as she is giving you sex. The rest of her life is not your problem. That includes things like her having sex with other dudes or being unavailable sometimes.

When a plate is unavailable, you call another plate. That is all. Maybe next time that plate WILL be available. Maybe not. It doesn't matter, so long as you have enough plates that you just bring in an alternate.

If I nexted every woman who did something I didn't like I'd have limited my dating pool to men.

Point is, nexting plates is like punching yourself in the dick. You want 1,000 plates if you could swing it. There is no reason to ever next a plate since plates don't matter. They break, who cares, you have 999 others to call.

[–]Iluvalmonds830 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good point!

[–]Iluvalmonds831 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nah I don’t think you should do what she did and ghost other girls when this happens again. It sounds like her ego got hurt when you couldn’t drop everything at a drop of a dime for her, so she nexted you. Would you have really wanted to deal with a problematic plate like this anyway?

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev30 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's a plate. You didn't come over so she found a guy who would.

Solution: Spin more plates.

[–]Intendto12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why do you care? Get more plates.

[–]Senior Endorsedmax_peenor13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Who cares? Just go fuck the other women you are already fucking.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Couldn’t get your dick, found better dick, bye bye

[–]amphix3393 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Pull back completely. Move with sexier plates. She'll peep it and hit you. Or she'll completely forget you.

Win/win either way

[–]1rad_dynamic-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly. Don't give her another thought.

[–]Kizzou0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How are we supposed to know what happened?

Just move on. Sounds like you barely care about her anyway

[–]red_matrix0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You were #1 on her speed dial. It’s possible that by refusing her booty call request she took you off the list.

[–]Foolishoe0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Could be a bunch of things.

[–]zboo1h0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"Why did these wet holes do a thing?"

Who cares?

[–]Domebeers0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

plates break. She probably wanted commitment.

[–]Toxik60 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Either she’s busy with someone else or she’s “teaching you a lesson” hit her up in a week. After 2 attempts and nothing then next it. Also get more plates in the meantime.

[–]SlappaDaBayssMon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Women hate feeling rejected, she's butthurt. Might come back around when she cools off, forget about it

[–]1Red_Pill_Brotherhood0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She probably got butthurt. You were busy doing other shit. Keep it moving unless she hits you up next.

[–]WiterS20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's playing games, and if you cede, she will kick you, so you can't play her game. The only thing you can do is to cut any contact until she comes back, and not under her terms.

She cornered herself into a corner.

[–]CHANCHAN18-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Give her a phone call if she doesn't pick up fuck it continue to get more plates as you should be doing.

[–]ProFriendZoner-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Who cares?


[–]jrr6415sun-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

she found another dick

[–]tb151-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Once you realize that 90% are just little spoiled brats, I can assure you that decoding their behavior gets alot easier

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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