How much things have changed

featherflowers · 2020-11-30T17:00:43+00:00

Once you have been treated properly there is no going back. I am so happy you get to experience this!

FrequentPoetry · 2020-11-30T16:56:43+00:00

I'm SO happy for you!

Summerisle7 · 2020-11-30T17:37:23+00:00

Good. For. You!!!

Never, EVER clean a boyfriend's house for him. You are over there for fun times and togetherness, NEVER to do his work.

You're dating a dad, though? Yikes, be wary of that. Don't babysit, cook for, drive around, or spend money on his kids either.

Acbc0077 · 2020-11-30T18:10:58+00:00

Im happy for yall success stories !

honeybeeroll · 2020-11-30T19:32:32+00:00

Great for you on reaching this point! This is a good sign that he has pride taking care of his house. Definitely just check your own behavior - don't offer to clean up after him in the first place. I know, it's the being a helpful houseguest thing to do, but you're his gf, not a guest really, and we have to kinda treat a guy like a roommate when it comes to chores in order to set a good precedent. Best of luck with him, it sounds like it will be a good experience no matter what and you've learned a lot ❤️

needsmoresilk · 2020-11-30T19:19:04+00:00

On the one hand I’m happy you won’t accept less. On the other hand, this is like bare minimum behavior. His house, you’re decorating his tree, why the heck wouldn’t he vacuum his own damn floor? AND offer comfort to his guest (you)?

UnstrirringCoffee · 2020-11-30T21:02:11+00:00

This sounds like a dream, but it's exactly how it should be. Otherwise, what's the point of getting into a relationship if you are not their for each other when one is not feeling well.

QueensJuju · 2020-11-30T22:47:06+00:00

I agree with some of the other commenters here - 3 months with children involved is really fast for decorating a tree in his house. With his own children HE should be more cautious about letting a stranger get so close so fast. It makes me wonder if he's looking for someone to take on the wife/mother role to ease the burden of fatherhood ASAP.

My first non-abusive partner did the dishes after every meal I cooked, without being asked. He'd even do dishes for meals he didn't eat. I was blown away by this and other respectful actions, but ultimately being respectful wasn't enough. We didn't have the same shared goals, interests, or energy levels.

Many people were perplexed, "But he treats you so well!" Yes, and that's not a reason to love to someone. Anyone in my life should just be doing that, it's not the basis of our love or an aspect of their personality to focus on, it's what you need to even talk to me, basic human decency.

Also, he cleaned his own house after you decorated his tree for him. He should have. Not your house, not your tree, not your mess. Keep your eyes opened and don't get too starry eyed - especially with a COVID Christmas, people are moving fast right now. ♥️

PinkBlair99 · 2020-11-30T21:25:46+00:00

Any man who has you putting up Christmas decorations with his children after three months is highly suspect. 🚩

Title	How much things have changed
Author	I_am_so_lost_again
Upvotes	230
Comments	12
Date	November 30, 2020 3:11 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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