Oh look, yet ANOTHER woman finds that "opening up" a relationship backfires on her.

Busancel · 2018-12-26T15:03:32+00:00

I love how despite the fact she was with a man attractive enough to get 400 matches from girls (making him within the top 1% of men), she wasn't happy enough. Shes a selfish person who needs more, chad wasnt enough.

loneliness-inc · 2018-12-26T16:02:37+00:00

This is the tale of a young woman who thought she'd go on a little power trip. She'd open up the relationship because she read online blah blah blah that it's amazing and wonderful blah blah blah and that it'll be better for our relationship blah blah blah.

Deep down, what she really wanted was to have 400 guys fawning over her while her pathetic BF struggles to get in the pants of one women. She'd then comfort him in his struggles which in turn will cause her to lose attraction for him, but not to worry - she'll have 400 fawning dudes to choose from. She'll then fall out of love with her BF and monkey branch right over to her pick of the litter.

Granted, she may not have been thinking all this consciously but this is more or less the way it goes down. Every. Single. Wingle. Time! This was her hypergamous instinct at play.

But things didn't work out quite as she wanted. In fact, they worked out the exact opposite of how she wanted! Instead of 400 dudes fawning over her, there are 400 girls fawning over him! Ugh, the audacity! To make matters worse, she only got a single pump and dump out of this deal. Of course she feels traumatized!

To make matters worse, some of the other women are more attractive than she. Thinking that he has a hypergamous instinct just like she does, she mistakenly thinks that he'll monkey branch away from her and therefore doesn't love her anymore. Meanwhile, this dude is probably loving life. He has a GF who only wants to fuck him while allowing him to fuck whoever, whenever he's horny. He can get the benefits of casual sex and the relationship too.

Meanwhile, she's overwhelmed with jealousy, insecurity and shame. She tried to monkey branch to a higher branch but fell off the tree instead. She didn't hit the ground yet because her monkey tail got caught in a thorn on her way down. Frightened and in pain, she turns to kind internet strangers to help her rewind time so she can just go back to her branch and live happily ever after just like it was always meant to be.

The end.

FactCheckOnTheFly · 2018-12-26T15:15:39+00:00

This is just too good. That "quirky" run-of-the-mill boyfriend ended up being a sleeper Chad and just ruined her whole plan of fucking 'better' men while she retained his support and stability. Now she realizes she already had the best man she could have hoped for and there isn't any going back to that blissful ignorance.

FactCheckOnTheFly · 2018-12-26T15:28:50+00:00

Translation:

I started losing attraction to my boyfriend so i decided i wanted to start fucking other guys but still keep his commitment and money and financial support to come back to in case i didn't find anything better to branchswing to. To give myself some moral cover and to assuage my guilt, i suggested two way open - we could both sleep with other people. That way, he can't hang anything moral over me, because after all, he's doing it too.

Also, he's good looking, but a bit weird. I really didn't think he was attractive enough to find anyone else willing to fuck him. So i thought that i'd be the one having all the sexual fun. And because it was two way open there would be no way he could complain about the inequity.

But, oh shit, he's found other girls to fuck. Like, um, A LOT of girls. I'm not really worried so much about the sex. I'm worried he will find, or has already found, someone better than me. I'm worried he will take away his commitment and financial support. I'm worried he will leave me. I don't care about him; I care about keeping access to his financial resources. I care about the money and my security.

When i say i don't know how to feel about all this; i am telling you i do know how to feel about this and i know exactly how i feel about this. I don't like it one bit. It scares the hell out of me. I did this, and it didn't work out the way i wanted it to.

The worst thing that has happened here is that i've lost power in this relationship. I no longer have any hand. I can't make him do shit i want him to do. I can't manipulate him. I can't make him stay. I cannot use sex as a weapon anymore. I can't withhold it as punishment, nor give it as a reward. I've lost power and i don't know what to do about it.

i know exactly what i have to do, but i don't want to do it. I have to admit to my boyfriend that i was wrong. I have to submit myself to him and throw myself on his mercy. But the sistahood will rip up my woman/feminist card.

Oh, Saviors of Reddit, whatever shall i do????

FactCheckOnTheFly · 2018-12-26T15:17:58+00:00

I absolutely love these “backfired” OR stories because I’m pretty sure 10/10 it’s ALWAYS the woman who proposes opening the relationship, and it’s ALWAYS because she already has her eyes set on a guy she wants to fuck.

Then they put their solipsism on full display on Reddit asking for advice when they can’t score the strange cock they thought they were able to score. What this bitch is NOT telling us is that she ALSO probably has 400 matches on Tinder, but none of them measure up to her “standards”.

Her BF, on the other hand, is probably scoring some high grade snatch, but is generally getting more action because he is willing to “fuck down” whereby she is not.

This is because women, much like children, are incapable of critical thinking; they think only one step in front of their own face without exploring any and all possible consequences of their actions and decisions.

Hell I hope this dude doubles down and asks her if it’s OK if he brings these other skanks home with him because he’s developed an “I want to be watched” fetish 😂

KoloGupta · 2018-12-26T16:03:10+00:00

I don't understand why everyone is picking on her. She made an innocent mistake. She just wanted to get a little hoeing out of her system, and maybe find that rich Chad she just knew she could get and deserved. People make mistakes. Y'all are acting like she did something wrong. Instead of making her feel better, we're all telling her the truth. Some of us even dare to laugh at her. Shame on everybody. Everyone excluding her.

Everything is his fault. Oh, it's the therapist's fault as well, for telling her her relationship is done. I don't pay that bitch to tell me the truth. I pay her to make me feel better and his to fix everything to how I want! Since she's now useless, I'll turn to reddit for "advice".

She's dating a man far above her SMV. This is evident by the fact that she wasn't getting takers, and the one she got was in, out, and away, ASAP. Her boyfriend's "quirks" are a turn off. Oh my, she just remembered that she truly loves him, right as she doesn't know how to feel (whatever that failed mental gymnastics means, lol). He's such an irritating turn-off, but I suddenly remembered I love him, and this is his fault for agreeing to the proposal "we" came up with, and is now putting me in a panic. OMG OMG OMG! How can "we" fix this, reddit?

The duty sex is hilarious. I'll bet she never put much effort into sex with him, and his strange are doing things with him that may be illegal in Arkansas.

Her boyfriend is working out logistics to ease her out quietly, hence the duty sex.

Don't bite the hand that feeds you, ladies.

muricanwerewolf1 · 2018-12-26T15:14:29+00:00

I read a lot about polyamory and open relationships and whatnot on Reddit and did some research on other sites as well and it seemed fairly interesting

This is the female equivalent of the guy who would buy penis enlargement pills. Are people born like this or do they become this stupid?

-"Hey! this is amazing, guaranteed awesomeness, try it out!"

-"Yes! Of course, why not! I'll try it!"

I didn’t realize he had the ability to get interest from so many women so quickly. I always thought of him as a bit quirky which I liked but I thought other girls would be turned off by that

Hold on, this must be a legit dumbass. She didn't even KNOW her guy was alfafux, she thought she had a high-tier betabux.

This is what you get for choosing to be a dumbass, even moreso while trying to be a malevolent dumbass like her. The guy should have a gangbang with ALL his other dates on her bed and have her "walk in on them."

moorekom · 2018-12-26T15:43:58+00:00

I don’t know how to feel about this, but I feel like I made a terrible mistake. I don’t have it in me to sleep with other guys besides my boyfriend but apparently my boyfriend doesn’t mind. It makes me wonder whether he finds me attractive or not and actually loves me. I am deeply hurt by this. I seriously regret opening up this relationship because I love this man and I always felt like he loved me too but now I’m uncertain. Even if I closed off the relationship, I feel like the well has been poisoned so thoroughly, that I will always feel insecure. I am deeply, deeply heartbroken. I love this man dearly and now I feel like he doesn’t love me. I don’t think closing the relationship will solve this, but I don’t want to break up with him either. I am so shocked and how this turned out. I know that my jealousy is out insecurity, but I can’t help it. I just don’t like it, this was a horrible mistake.

Ha ha ha.... Look at that poor hamster. This is too good.

brazil84 · 2018-12-26T17:27:34+00:00

This is fake fake fake.

When a woman asks to open up a relationship, 99% of the time she is already cheating.
If her boyfriend is the kind of Chad who could get 400 matches on Tinder, she would know the consequences in advance of an open relationship.
Last, she says " Looking back I realize this was a mistake" Women almost NEVER cop to mistakes like this, especially without spinning things to assign blame to the man. A real woman might have said something like "I now realize it was a mistake to open up a relationship where the man is an immature sex-addict."

Edit: The basic premise, of course, is accurate. i.e. that women ask for open relationships only because they expect it to increase their options without increasing the man's; if things don't work out like that, they get upset.

wristcontrol · 2018-12-26T16:45:06+00:00

I love how she says that she's thinking of closing the relationship again, as though this is her sole prerogative, and her boyfriend doesn't get any say in the matter. Holy fuck, the entitlement.

ecurrent94 · 2018-12-26T17:04:46+00:00

Did that sub get brigaded or something? Usually with these types of posts I see comments like “oh girl your man doesn’t deserve you anyway, you’re a QUEEN!”

It’s refreshing to see that she’s being called out on her shit instead of being white knighted. I wish she’d respond though!

VictxrSenpai · 2018-12-26T15:46:20+00:00

Lol at that point the bf should just dump her ass since hes obviously successful with most other women who are actually more attractive and can probably offer more than she could

sleepyweaselisawake · 2018-12-26T17:05:13+00:00

See, I would have no problem with a woman I was in a relationship with opening it. I would tell her she can fuck whoever she wants, then help her pack her things, change the locks, block her on everything then swipe right to fuck more women.

swapnilsathe1 · 2018-12-26T17:35:54+00:00

Looks like a troll post. A guy has 400 matches while a woman cannot find any on tinder? Dont make me fucking laugh.

Westernhagen · 2018-12-26T17:19:59+00:00

I’ve only slept with one other guy once I met off Tinder but I was incredibly disappointed. I felt like he treated me like trash and he ghosted me after we met. He made no effort to make me orgasm, and finished fairly quickly and left several minutes after that.

That guy: #winning

Probably her boyfriend is doing that to other women, too.

2018-12-26T16:54:58+00:00

Hahahah she doesn't realize that the relationship ended when she "opened" it. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Good for him. He dodged a bullet.

ReadMyHistoryBitch · 2018-12-26T17:20:42+00:00

I always thought of him as a bit quirky which I liked but I thought other girls would be turned off by that.

/r/NotLikeTheOtherGirls

polarwaves · 2018-12-26T18:22:22+00:00

“Also I find it hilarious that you proposed this arrangement thinking your boyfriend was too much of a quirky weirdo to meet and sleep with more women and yet here he is laying down some serious pipe while you got the old two pump chump who wipes his dick on your curtains and tosses a $5 on the bed for your time. Hahahahahahahaha”

This comment killed me lmao

2018-12-26T19:49:12+00:00

When we have sex, it seems like the spark has gone. I don’t feel the passion anymore and while he does make an effort to make me enjoy it, it seems like he’s doing it because he feels like he has to instead of because he wants to. Even when we’re just hanging out, he doesn’t seem to enjoy my company as much and seems kind of bored.

This is just perfect, She was the center of his universe, pressed to open the relationship and now she knows the one undeniable quality he enjoyed about their relationship exclusivity ( the sex) is something he can get with any other chick he's not going crazy over her like before. Because why would he ? He's fucking prettier girls, he might be fucking girls who are even better in bed than her , he might even be fucking a girl he likes more but his halo effect and misguided sense of loyalty keeps him with his original girlfriend who " allowed" him to enjoy the open relationship in the first place.

She signed the death warrant of her own relationship and it is fucking hilarious.

ChiTownBob · 2018-12-26T15:50:45+00:00

Take the deadly sin of greed, add the deadly sin of lust and this is what she gets.

witchywitchywitchhy · 2018-12-26T17:51:47+00:00

It’s crazy that every.single. Girl. Who opens up “their” (aka just for them because they want to fuck someone) relationship soon regrets it when the guy hooks up with someone else. It’s so hypocritical it makes me sick. Arg poor guy he’s just doing what she said. 88% are women are awful.

NotLuceBree · 2018-12-26T19:53:23+00:00

These are always so satisfying, and every single one of these fucking stories has the same theme: the girl doesn't understand the male sex drive; and furthermore, she didn't think her man would be able to smash other pussy.

And once again, the TRP/PUA community is correct: a man wanted by other women is more attractive, and Dread Game works.

The RP community understands women better than they understand themselves, and get called misogynist scumbags for pointing out observable reality.

otakuzod · 2018-12-26T17:21:36+00:00

I love the schadenfreude of everything that's happened here. I hope the bf truly realizes the power that he now has and either drops her like a bag of ham, or just uses her to get what he wants... and then drop her like a bag of ham.

Uqtpa · 2018-12-26T18:01:47+00:00

This post describes her accurately: http://archive.is/yzFh2

2018-12-26T18:11:52+00:00

I’ve been speaking to my therapist about this and she said that this relationship is no longer tenable, but I feel like she has a bias against open relationships

Your therapist is right on both counts you dimwit. You have allowed the prevailing feminist bullshit to instill in you an unjustifiable level of confidence that caused you to annihilate your otherwise viable relationship. Congratulations.

2018-12-26T16:55:10+00:00

Hahahah she doesn't realize that the relationship ended when she "opened" it. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Good for him. He dodged a bullet.

alleyteris · 2018-12-26T17:15:24+00:00

Well thst happends when you bite more than you can chew. Dumb sluts think they can fuck around while her bf waits at home patiently for her in his white armour while she jumps on cocks right and left , then gets shocked when she realises that opening a relationship is like a double dged sword. Ho ho ho! Marry xmass skank.

Cristoff13 · 2018-12-26T19:59:33+00:00

Is this a fake post? No guy will be that successful on OLD unless he's "Chadonis" as someone else here put it. If he was that good looking then even the most deluded girl would know better than to try "opening up the relationship".

muricanwerewolf1 · 2018-12-26T20:03:17+00:00

TFW you tell your chad you’re just another whore after all so he treats you like it.

SilverGryphon · 2018-12-26T17:33:09+00:00

I was still just warming up to the idea of sleeping with someone else and he was able to do it right away.

but I didn’t realize he had the ability to get interest from so many women so quickly. I always thought of him as a bit quirky which I liked but I thought other girls would be turned off by that.

As always the woman wants to open up the relationship because she thinks that her guy won't be able to find another one and that she would be able to find several guys. When it goes as planned they call it empowerment and she's a hero in the eyes of other women or white knights. However if the woman's plan fails, she is shocked and ends up resenting her guy who is shamed by other women or white knights.

There is no doubt that sometimes their plan works, but you won't hear her complain about it on Reddit, that's for sure.

Just another example of the double standards men have to put up with.

Edit: Again the comments are overwhelmingly against her, it looks like realtionship_advice is not so blue pilled as I initially thought.

LN2482 · 2018-12-26T23:33:41+00:00

wow i wonder why a therapist would be "biased against open relationships"... true mystery 🤔

newone4u · 2018-12-27T06:17:44+00:00

beccathroways

Becca throws away her relationship lmao

SirKolbath · 2018-12-27T01:22:58+00:00

Strangely, she’s getting cored out harder in the comments than she probably got from the one guy she picked up on tinder. Every now and then Reddit users have a flash of common sense.

Blogginginvicecity · 2018-12-27T02:15:38+00:00

Lol, her tindr experiment.

1) go to app for cumdumpsters 2) get used as cum dumpster 3) get traumatized at the experience of being a cum dumpster.

Lol and she even admits she thought other women wouldn't like him. Another proof of 'when she thinks you're equal, she thinks she's superior'.

ransay3277 · 2018-12-26T20:02:03+00:00

They have no problem opening up the relationship until he gets more and better tail than she does. BTW... I'm sure he was dipping his wick prior to this.

2018-12-26T23:39:20+00:00

This post validates a lot of the r/redpill theories, most importantly the 80/20 rule.

Nice isn't it.

playitagainzak_ · 2018-12-27T00:52:01+00:00

I love these. My favorite part of all of these are when she talks about how she didn't expect her partner to benefit from it.

It baffles me how these people openly and shamelessly state that and expect sympathy. Kinda makes me wonder if these are all real. Honestly maybe if she said "I didn't expect it to bother me to see him sleeping around, I thought I would be happy for him" would actually be more believable.

I mean it would obviously be a lie, but at least more believable to be a real person because they're at least making an effort to not sound like a total asshole.

z2a1-9 · 2018-12-27T02:45:21+00:00

Good for him!

2018-12-27T04:46:08+00:00

That’s some hilarious Hypergamy failure combined with massive dread game, the ‘love’ she feels is code for his SMV is high enough for her to settle after all.

Sounds like she’s of a low intelligence to handle polyamory in such a haphhazard way

5shad · 2018-12-27T09:22:00+00:00

I find this story hard to believe but then again there are a few here on reddit similar to this. How did she even manage to get a man like him in the first place? She mind blowingly stupid.

Jonlife · 2018-12-27T10:47:15+00:00

Millenials are fucked Lololol.

AllahHatesFags · 2018-12-27T14:08:25+00:00

This woman either completely underestimated her boyfriend's SMV, overestimated her own, or was just so enthralled by hypergamy that she couldn't help herself. She assumed that she would be getting her choice of alpha Chads to bed while her cucked BF would be failing at Tinder and jerking off to porn. How dare he not sit at home and be sexually frustrated like a good little cuck! The sad part is that she would normally be right for 80% of the male population and it only backfired on her because she forgot she was already dating a top-tier guy. I think it's pretty obvious that her boyfriend has demoted her to plate or bang-maid status because by asking for an open relationship she has immediately proven that she would not make a good wife or mother and that her ability to pair-bond is lacking.

Her "boyfriend" and her therapist both see the writing on the wall, and any other man who find himself in this situation should see it too: if she asks for an open relationship, the relationship is already over. It doesn't matter if you are an apex alpha Chad like OP's "boyfriend" or just a regular guy in the 80%, if a woman asks for an "open relationship" she is really asking for cuckoldry and she should immediately be kicked to the curb like the trash that she is, God help you if you fucked up and married or had kids with the bitch.

EndTimesRadio · 2018-12-27T17:06:25+00:00

Fake and gay. Look at how she’s analytically describing number of things- not ‘a lot.’ Nothing about ‘muh feelz’ Or ‘how could he do this to us,’ self-righteous rage. Even thanks the reader, implying they’re not used to attention.

This was written by a dude.

2018-12-27T19:34:42+00:00

Good thing the man has balls. If a SO suggests an open relationship, you leave them.

JJ3314 · 2018-12-27T22:21:25+00:00

Man this is like a redpilled fairy tale ending in 2018. They should turn this into a Disney movie or something. Can't be any worse than all the teen-star thots and SJW infused crap they're cranking out.

Mescalean · 2018-12-27T09:05:51+00:00

“She has a biased against open relations ships”

Uh mayyyyybe because she knows for the most part they do not work out long term.... but nope gotta try whatever the simps/5’s on reddit say. Jump on the bandwagon.

This shit is hilarious. If anyone has more it was an enjoyable read. Saw the same shit happen to a couple I’m friends with.

jasonfunk · 2018-12-27T11:29:23+00:00

Does anyone have any more of these besides this one and the European vacation one?

2018-12-27T23:35:16+00:00

This sound a bit like fanfic. I find this part funny anyway:

she said that this relationship is no longer tenable, but I feel like she has a bias against open relationships

JohnQPubliq · 2018-12-28T19:39:37+00:00

Shes mad because she thought she would have 10/10 chads giving her never-ending orgasms every week while the BF would get absolutely nothing. Turns out he is neck deep in pussy and she only manage to get a single fuck on tinder that ended bad because the man in question didn't give a shit about her or trying to make her orgasm because surprise, surprise! Men dont care about random whores on tinder.

She tried to play the sexual marketplace game and lost hard. Usually its the man who looses so its satisfying as all hell to see the occasional man manage to turn the tables on these THOTs.

Also him intentionally fucking seven different women in a month is him sending a clear message that he has checked out of this relationship. Its only a matter of time before he finds a hot girl whos a decent lay who wants to be with him steady and then he will dump her ass.

CoMaBlaCK · 2018-12-29T02:06:27+00:00

It’s very simple, she wanted other cock because she thought her boyfriend was undesirable and upon finding out how desired he was instantly regretted it. Now she ‘loves him again’

Title	Oh look, yet ANOTHER woman finds that "opening up" a relationship backfires on her.
Author	Rudrahp72
Upvotes	554
Comments	181
Date	December 26, 2018 2:51 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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