Do you hide the fact you have money from women? Questions on women “liking me for me”

Snowboard18 · 2020-03-18T17:27:38+00:00

I usually leave that shit out because I feel like once they here you have a lot of money, it goes from “I genuinely like this guy” to “oh shit let’s see how I can manipulate this mf and get my share.”

Example, my dad is a cfo for big real estate company, and the last 3 girlfriends he’s had. Baby trapped him, claimed assault and that she was going to sue, and other shit.

WIA20XX · 2020-03-18T18:15:15+00:00

Your question is flawed because your understanding is flawed.

She never likes you for you.

She only "likes" you because of how you make her feel.

And when she doesn't feel like that, she nags, withdraws, and then jumps on the next dick.

It is what it is.

She is love with herself, and a slave to her feelings. She might love her children, but like the wedding, like marriage, her idea of those things are far away from reality.

So in your situation, drop the blue pill view of women, tell the girl you own the bar, fuck her and her friends.

ThrowawayYAYAY2002 · 2020-03-18T18:44:46+00:00

Yes.

The less a woman knows about your financial situation, the less EVERYBODY knows about your financial situation.

SuperDuperShibe · 2020-03-18T17:52:43+00:00

Never mention it. If she finds out some way, continue acting the same way you did. If you notice her behavior change, gain awareness of the new dynamic.

My experience...the moment I realized a change in her behavior, my attraction to her dropped to near zero. I mentally checked out. Thing is, she senses this and tries to act submissive and attached...always wanting to see me. She offers to pay for things, and she does. Typically it’s a 50/50 split. But tbh that doesn’t change anything, at least imo. If you marry a person like that, you’d pay heavily in the event that she switches up on you.

...back to her...she explicitly told me that if she doesn’t do the reaching out to me, she felt like she will never hear from me again. It’s true, because in 2-3 months, I’m going to drop her if she doesn’t leave first.

Ride it out for the sex if you want, or drop her now. I chose the former.

alphakari · 2020-03-18T18:28:18+00:00

She's never going to like you for you. She's not capable of understanding you. She only knows what she feels and what the hamster tells her she has to believe to maintain the emotional storm that is her existence.

Guys get tricked into thinking girls like them for what they truly are inside because they're believing what the girl's hamster is doing. When a girl is in a relationship, the hamster is constantly spinning majestic tales about how amazing she is for netting you. One of those tales involve hyping you up.

You see it all the time when a girl is with a beta bucks. She becomes defensive of any challenge to the quality of her man. Like as though she has to defend her man from shit tests because instinctively, she knows he'll fail them.

urbancore · 2020-03-18T18:57:14+00:00

We don't like women for "them", we like them cuz they are fit, hot, have their shit together, and could possibly be a nurturing mother to our future offspring.

Women like you, not for "you". They like you cuz you are fit, handsome, have your shit together, and can lead/provide her and your future offspring.

Attraction falls off a cliff for either of gender the second one of these criteria slip.

You've seen too many movies if you think they fall in love with you cuz they love "you". All love is conditional, except your Mom...and even then......

Domebeers · 2020-03-18T17:40:03+00:00

the fuck is this?

If you want to fuck, tell her you own the bar. I don't get this. Who cares why a women likes you dude? They don't like you for you, in any situation, if that's what you are getting to.

Adorable_FecalSpray · 2020-03-18T17:42:13+00:00

I would prefer girls like me for my aesthetically pleasing physique, genetically masculine good looks, charming personality, amazing sense of humor, quick wit, sexual feats, amazing conversational abilities and then money. In about that order.

I keep money and net worth private, from everyone. It changes a lot of people’s behavior. That being said the stories I tell do allude to the fact that I am financially comfortable. Over time they can assume to think what they want. But in that time I have decided for myself if they are worth continuing to be around or not, if they add value to my life or not.

If I owned a bar I wouldn’t ever outright share that information and probably would tend towards doing a few things to keep them from immediately finding out.

Edited to add: someone downstream put it well... if she finds out eventually that is fine, but that doesn’t change how you act.

My main thought is I want to see how this girl responds to me under a variety of situations and with different information. That gives me the information that I need to determine whether I would want her to continue being around me.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2020-03-19T00:00:23+00:00

It puts you in the "beta bux" category in her mind. It might get you an initial lay but she'll try to get you to beta up real quick afterward.

There was a real good example around here somewhere. Basically this chick was bitching on reddit about her boyfriend was a real cheap mother fucker, torrenting movies for date night, etc. and then she found out he was actually rich. She tried to turn him into a beta provider and he broke up with her. Look for that post and see what you can glean from it and the comments.

rugged79 · 2020-03-18T17:53:07+00:00

Physique = body = physical attraction

Money = provider = ATM machine

The first one usually gets the best sex a woman can muster. The second one usually gets sex once a month and 1 BJ on his birthday. You decide.

MonkMode2019 · 2020-03-18T17:55:22+00:00

Money doesnt matter. It's all about confidence, among other things. I know plenty of losers that get laid everyday because they can put forth a temporary confident silver liner.

Money slightly comes into play later in life, but when you game, money is pointless.

AnonymousSportsExec · 2020-03-18T20:24:08+00:00

I personally only sleep with women who find me attractive and don't know about my finances. The only women who know I'm wealthy are my friends, co workers or neighbors. I don't sleep with women in those three categories. My first meet up with a woman is usually at the beach, a hike, or anything that I enjoy doing and doesn't involve money. I also never bring women to my house. I have a condo in the city for work/play purposes.
As a bar owner, you should be introducing yourself to all customers as the owner and asking for feedback about your business. Sleeping with your customers is bad business for various reasons. I wouldn't mix work with pleasure my man.

BruhMoment45886 · 2020-03-18T21:54:59+00:00

Women dont like "you" they like what you can provide for them.

However, if you spill the beans about your sheckles she'll treat you like a beta bux.

Like a resource instead of a provider.

You don't fuck an ATM machine unless you're one of those weirdos on TLC.

Dont tell her about your money.

FinancialThanks1 · 2020-03-18T19:10:39+00:00

A woman can only categorise you as beta bucks if that’s how you present yourself i.e. buying shit for her

If you want to plate her and you hold frame, she’ll either be your plate or you’ll part ways

failingtheturingtest · 2020-03-18T22:26:13+00:00

Seems everyone has covered the other parts, so here's a question for you. Why are you taking a girl to a bar you own? Are you too broke to afford full price drinks? Do you need the comfort of your home turf? Need the validation of knowing "this is mine"?

Get the fuck out of your comfort zone. If the bar a sheila invites you to looks good, check it out. Go and hit on sheilas out of sight of your employees. Your business should be your income and passion, not your playground. You're using your business as a crutch.

yadigggggggggg · 2020-03-19T01:20:22+00:00

Don't show, let them find out on their own.

mrpoopistan · 2020-03-19T03:12:58+00:00

There's a lot to be said for the concept of strategic ambiguity.

blueroomb · 2020-03-19T00:41:43+00:00

I feel like if you met her at a bar she most likely isn’t going to like you for anything short of how much you can emotionally disturb her. Most of the time that is.

Title	Do you hide the fact you have money from women? Questions on women “liking me for me”
Author	pilot333
Upvotes	30
Comments	59
Date	March 18, 2020 5:12 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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