7 month of LTR dumped me because I was acting too alpha

throwaway69764 · 2020-04-04T18:11:15+00:00

Basically I treated her like she was a plate.

Correction: You demoted her to plate status. Now she doesn't want to be your girlfriend anymore. WHAT A FUCKING SURPRISE!

That's why we give "plates" and "girlfriends" separate names. Different things. Different behaviour towards them. You wouldn't treat the CEO of your company the same as your department manager or the same as your coworker or the same as the lazy intern.

Also, ignoring your girlfriend is not "being aLpHa" it's "being a little bitch". "Being alpha" means having important shit going on in your life and therefore not having to phonecall your girl five hours a day to keep yourself entertained. Not sitting in front of your phone and beating your meat while moaning "she's probably thinking about me right now but I'll ignore her! Gawd I'm so alpha, I'm cooooooooomiiiiiiiing!"

Third, she breaks up with you, and the next day you text her pleading to get back together. That shows how little of an "Alpha" (Edit: and, concordantly, what a big fucking bluepill) you are. Read the fucking sidebar and go lift. You have internalized 0% of TRP so far.

spliezer · 2020-04-04T17:51:26+00:00

damn bro but that’s what too much trp does to you. instead of being alpha you end up autistic. you’re in a ltr and you don’t talk to your girl for 3 days? that’s weird bro...

Lightways434 · 2020-04-04T17:21:32+00:00

You don’t treat LTRs like they’re plates. You have to keep a balance of alpha and beta preferably 70/30 or 80/20. Take it as a learning experience.

jhx264 · 2020-04-04T19:12:42+00:00

Who the fuck says I extend my hand let's get back together for the sake if our past...? That's some next level autism right there.

PinacoladaSauce · 2020-04-04T17:53:44+00:00

you didn’t act too alpha you acted like an asshole

HB3234 · 2020-04-04T17:35:57+00:00

Plates break, eventually. Treat your LTR exactly like a plate and she will react like plates do. What were you expecting?

Scheme00 · 2020-04-04T17:24:01+00:00

You acted like a cold fish. More guys trying to learn TRP will lose more women than gain by trying to use techniques. Your actions came off calculated and cold rather than alpha. Alpha men aren’t cold and distant, they just don’t let women walk all over them. You should have complimented her when it was authentic. That way she worked for it. Instead you just showed to her you could care less. Who wants that? It’s not human nature to want the affection of someone who never gives them a breadcrumb. Chalk it up as a learning experience. Don’t try to get her back, you’ll start acting different and she’ll know you read some stupid shit and were playing games trying to use “techniques.”

I’m not trying to beat you up, it’s just I’ve learned the same way as you with over 10 women before it finally clicked.

Foolishoe · 2020-04-04T17:42:42+00:00

If she was a quality woman why did you treat her like a plate?

Dont do that in the future. Treat people how they deserve to be treated. Cold dick works to acquire pussy, retention is something else.

imtheoneimmortal · 2020-04-04T18:02:16+00:00

So you act cold and now “Ltr dumped me”

SpicyYeetJuice · 2020-04-04T18:22:57+00:00

This is what overthinking it looks like if you really want her back tell her you need to see her one last time for closure. Then tell her exactly what you were doing you took bad advice to be overly alpha too far and didn’t mean to hurt her. But be warned when the girl breaks it off it drastically changes the power in the relationship I’ve seen some good men turn in to full on simps

SoA_MC · 2020-04-04T18:29:12+00:00

Sounds like you care more than you let on, and in trying to hide it you acted almost too cool. Exact thing happened to me. I even did the same “ok cool” text after and then backpedalled just like you did with another text to try and get her back.

You can do only one thing: move on. I know from experience that this doesn’t necessarily mean it’s over.

lolomotif12 · 2020-04-05T00:11:18+00:00

You certainly arent "too alpha" however you certainly are lacking side bar reading. Here, I extend my hand and let's get back to side bar reading for sake of your future before it's too late.

creamynebula · 2020-04-04T21:46:16+00:00

Yes you didn't reciprocate enough, no that's not being "too alpha". Accept that you made a mistake and don't do it again in your next relationship...

Embarrassed-Draft · 2020-04-05T00:56:54+00:00

It's almost like being a shitty selfish partner isn't productive or attractive. Wow. Who would have thought. "We could have talked about this but instead you chose to break up," no shit. If she pulled that bullshit on you would you want to talk it out or would you tell her to fuck off and use someone else?

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-04-05T00:25:48+00:00

I mean, by your own admission you treated her like a plate either way. Who cares what you called it.

I wouldn't get too upset about it. Do your best to get your ego out of the situation. The reason they're called plates is they eventually stop spinning, fall, and break.

HurricaneHugues · 2020-04-05T15:59:57+00:00

"then a day after break up I texted her "I extend my hand and let's get back together for sake of our past before it's too late"

Fell into her frame

"I know it's against the principals of red pill to be with an ex but she is a quality woman."

Tough luck. You had her but you mistreated her. Too late now. You're been nexted. Move on.

nathan55bailey · 2020-04-05T16:00:55+00:00

BTW when she wanted to break up, I immediately removed her from insta and contacts. She said "wow you're so quick" to which I replied "Well we can't be friends anymore, so no reason to keep them"

It's been 4 days, I took a quick look at her insta profile.(she has a private profile) Before we broke up, she had like 430 followers and she was following 410 profiles. And it's been around that number since we first met. She hardly accepted friend requests. Now she has 480 followers and she is following 480 people! She broke the pattern. Well it may not mean something but I guess she is just horny. Because her period is on like 21st of month. Just 14 days before.

TheMainGerman · 2020-04-11T05:30:51+00:00

What even is a LTR? New here.

frat_boi_chad · 2020-04-13T01:12:17+00:00

Fucking stupid, do you realize how much of a retard you are?

Zapche · 2020-04-04T18:00:28+00:00

Too alpha on this one bro. LTR you have to be a bitch some times unfortunately

theUnBannableHulk · 2020-04-04T17:39:57+00:00

It’s a test.

It’s not because you’re too Alpha, it’s because she thinks she’s not good enough.

You need to give her slightly more comfort

You DID fuck up by establishing Alpha frame then texting like a bitch boy beta next day.

Don’t fuck it up further, ignore her and move on.

If she comes back, don’t be thankful but tell the bitch to talk first next time or you’ll never see her again. Her communication is shit too.

Also there is probably some orbiter guy or her girlfriends bitching about you to her.

alienreps · 2020-04-04T17:20:04+00:00

If she left you because you were too Alpha it means that in a week or less she’ll call you back imploring to fuck her...if she doesn’t it means you weren’t Alpha enough

Tambamwham · 2020-04-04T20:00:55+00:00

The text the next day should have simply said “let get drinks tomorrow.” You shouldn’t be having real conversations over text anyway.

And number 2. You dodged a bullet. She’s a typical girl. She’s not ride or die. She wasn’t trying to improve the relationship and to relay how she was feeling and connect with you. She just went with the flow until the next thing came along to fill the void. And yes, there is another guy. She wouldn’t have broken up with if their wasn’t.

DerekMorganBAU · 2020-04-04T21:02:28+00:00

Who cares she has a pussy right? AWALT. On to the next one.

RoughTumbler82 · 2020-04-04T17:31:04+00:00

It’s a shit test.

Title	7 month of LTR dumped me because I was acting too alpha
Author	nathan55bailey
Upvotes	5
Comments	41
Date	April 4, 2020 5:15 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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"then a day after break up I texted her "I extend my hand and let's get back together for sake of our past before it's too late"

"I know it's against the principals of red pill to be with an ex but she is a quality woman."