A bunch of women femsplain why men shouldn't get upset when they find out their kid isn't actually theirs

I just read a thread in relationship advice about a man whose wife cheated on him and his 9 year old daughter is not his. A good part of those comments were not only encouraging him to leave her, they were justifying and celebrating that. In fact, many comments went as far as claiming how her father abandoning her wouldn't even be traumatic for her or how it would be best for everyone, including her. How this is possible is beyond me.

Reddit usually doesn’t affect me. But right now I feel so angry I have a pounding headache.

Please let me introduce myself. Hello everyone, I am ‘nothing but a reminder of deception’ and ‘reminder of a betrayal every single day’ and an ‘something that would raise only resentment’, ‘not his daughter’, ‘unfortunate consequence of whoring’.

My parents had a very unhappy marriage. Lots of cheating and arguing. My mother cheated on my father when she was 25 with my father’s best friend (on a side note, my father had cheated on her and continued cheating on her after his. In fact, they had this cycle of revenge where my mother would cheat to get back to my dad for his affair.). She fell pregnant and gave birth to me. I was 11 when I found out about it. It was the most traumatic period of my life and I am still recovering from it, 12 years later. My grandparents and other family members cut out contact with me. I am not allowed in their house, I have not received anything from them nor spoke to them for the last 12 years, unlike my brothers. I was present in the room when my grandmother explained how my father should not hold me in his arms because I am bastard, unlike my two brothers. I know my grandparents straight out told him to never see me again. During this period, I started urinating my bed at night and having mental breakdowns at school. I was so terrified of my father leaving me that I had my suicide planned in case the day he would realize I wasn’t worthy of his love because of my genetics would come. I wasn’t just scared, I was horrified. I remember being so anxious I had daily trouble with just breathing.

But my father didn’t do that. What he did instead was consoling me, again and again, on how much he loved me. He came to school after I locked myself in the bathroom with scissors to defend me. He did not once exclude me from the time he had with us (the kids). I was always afraid he would come to pick us up but leave with only my brothers, leaving me behind. But that never happened, the contrary. He always had time for all of us and interest in our lives, despite working brutally long hours. He has been my biggest inspiration, my biggest motivator. He is always there when I need him. Just writing about my dad brings tears to my eyes. He is a man who learned how to do a french braid so I didn't have hair on my face when I was at my practice.

I just texted him, thanking him from being my dad. He replied: “I love you. being your dad is my privilege.”

ps. I just have to point out that I have read countless comments in Reddit that justify men cheating and having affairs. And not only justify them, but glorify it. In fact, there are entire subs dedicated to that.

Edit: Thank you. I am overwhelmed by the kinds messages and somehow it is very soothing after the hundreds of messages that felt personally insulting and degrading. Not only that, pretty much dehumanizing. Thank you. I am glad I wrote this.