Summary: Don't make human interaction seem like some complex foreign concept that only a few people that are "charismatic" or "natural" can do. It's rather simple. It's all about understanding human nature. Don't JBY, be the BEST version of yourself.


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Prologue

It's been awhile since I posted here and that's simply due to the fact of the amount of reading I have been doing when it comes to being social, charismatic, alpha or whatever you want to call it. In any case whenever you read anything that is related to self-improvement you will ALWAYS see your social life be mentioned because it's essential.

One of the books I have read titled: "The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over" by Jack Schafer. If you haven't read it I highly suggest you do because it essentially breaks down human interaction for people like me and others who simply have trouble understanding it.


Unplugging

Before I get into it there are a couple of posts you need to read which where posted by the well known user /u/Archwinger ;

http://archive.is/IdqTa http://archive.is/KXorB

Now this is important because in these posts he explains a lot of things men fail to understand when it comes to how the world REALLY works. It may come off as a rant but understand it's true.

We have all heard the infamous quote: "just be yourself". Welp sorry to burst your bubble but you and both know that is the WORST advice to give anyone ever. It's horseshit and blue pill fantasy. Think about it.

Do you honestly believe as long as you be yourself and genuine you will find your way through life happily, make friends, get a job, house, wife, children, white picket fence, and live happily ever after with a rainbow shining over the sky. Sounds like bull doesn't it? It's because it is.

You want to know what's the last advice given to men who are unsuccessful, miserable, and sad in life? It was the JBY and look where that has gotten them. Absolutely nowhere and what's worse is that people keep telling them it's alright and that they will figure it out someday.

It was never about acting "authentic" or "genuine". It never has been. Now when I say this please do not misunderstand me. I don't want to tell you how to act or what you should or should not do. If being "yourself" makes you feel happy and free in life then by all means do it. However you need to understand that JBY Is not some golden advice that will get you through life.

Look at all the men who did mass shootings at schools. Guess what problem they all had in common? Social. Just like Archwinger explains in his post:

...Guys who fail at life end up with mental health issues, kill themselves, or shoot up universities.....

The last advice given to these men before they did that was JBY.

Some may disagree with me but I believe that social ostracism/oppression/rejection can lead to the same effects that social isolation can. Because when people are rejected by society they are ignored, treated horribly, and feel alone.

This brings me to make another point that when people "like" you or perceive you as "attractive" they will tend to treat you better. This is a normal human mechanic. You do things for your friends because you like them or some men treat women better (a.k.a put pussy on the pedestal) because they look good.

Everyone is shallow, the sooner you understand this the better off you will be. Yes the more you know the more cynical you become, however you will feel relieved once you now know the truth.

So what can you do to improve your social life?

That is wholly dependent upon you as a man. You decide how you want improve it. However if you want to start reading books such as:

The 48 Laws of Power, Meditations, The Art of Worldly Wisdom , How To Win Friends & Influence People, Mastery, No More Mr Nice Guy, and etc can help.

From there you can than decide how to implement the information and once you do I can tell you your perception of the world around you will change.

In the book "The Like Switch", the author makes it extremely simple and clear when it comes to influencing, attracting, and winning people over. In a nutcase:

"If you make people feel good about themselves, they will like you"

Seriously that's really it. That phrase can be broken down into a whole bunch of other sections like showing friend signals, reading people, asking empathetic questions, however the basis of it is in that phrase. In one word; empathy.

Forget all this bullshit PUA's telling you about how you need to do X, Y, and Z so you can emulate and act like an "alpha" because I can tell you if you don't internalize people will pick up on your "acting" real quick.

It's not about acting "alpha" it's about acting in a way that makes you happy and free, because honestly that's really all that matters.

Don't be "just" yourself. Be the BEST version of yourself.