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LTR gf redpilling me?

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June 7, 2020
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My stats: 6’ 190 lbs 36 yrs old Bench Press: 275 lbs Military Press: 185 lbs Squat: 345 lbs Deadlift: 440 lbs

RP aware for 4 years. Discovered it while I was still married to my wife (38) at the time. RP theory made me realize my life was better without her so I ended a 12 yr marriage with her.

After the divorce, messed around with some ONS, nothing serious for a couple months. Met my current gf (30) and did not intend for it to become a LTR, but she surprised me.

She’s a country girl and has a lot of RP characteristics. No wondering gerbil, no mood swings, hates talking about her feelings, doesn’t complain, always up for the next life adventure, enjoys hunting/fishing/camping/shooting, etc. However, I’m seeing some red flags here and I’m not sure if I need to end it or double down on RP theory and behavior.

We’ve been together 10 months and for the past couple months she has become distant and does not show affection. All affection is initiated by me, including sex. Sex was always like this because she is very submissive and would say “if you want something, just take it” so I do. The sex is great and she always orgasms at least once.

One of the reasons I divorced my wife at the time was because she wouldn’t follow my lead. I was at dread level 10 and she still wouldn’t follow, likely because she was two years older than me and I couldn’t break away from my beta past.

With the current gf, she will follow my lead 90% of time, but I’m beginning to doubt myself with how distant she has become. This past week I tried initiating sex everyday and was rejected each day except one. Sex earlier in the relationship would happen 5-7x a week.

When I have brought up her being distant, she is adamant that she is happy and the problem is her internally; that she sometimes becomes distant, but it has nothing to do with me. During this time, she will continue to throw shit tests at me. She rarely gives me comfort tests.

My question is: How should I proceed with her being distant? Own my shit and continue the IDGAF attitude? Or do I cut my losses and next her?


Post Information
Title LTR gf redpilling me?
Author ContentRefuse
Upvotes 18
Comments 67
Date 07 June 2020 03:40 PM UTC (7 months ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/671643
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/gyelgu/ltr_gf_redpilling_me/
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Comments

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret34 points35 points  (8 children) | Copy

4 years of RP knowledge and youve learned nothing. Bluepill faggot who lifts using redpill tactics to get laid... until it doesn't work anymore and you repeat the same mistakes.

I’m beginning to doubt myself with how distant she has become. This past week I tried initiating sex everyday and was rejected each day except one.

Doubting and needy faggot measuring his success by how many times he successfully gets laid. She smelled it.

How should I proceed with her being distant?

Stop being a needy twat.

Masculine men are attracted to feminine women.

[–]part_wolf3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy

Yeah, but the sidebar is only for regular chicks. Can you post the link to your “How To Handle Unicorns” post? I can’t seem to find it for some reason.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret8 points9 points  (4 children) | Copy

Found it here.

[–]Tyred_BiggumsRed Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

This is awesome... teaches faggots how to control emotions and anger too!

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

From the description:

BUT, even after you find a unicorn, she will not just let you ride her, and she will not go home with you.

WHY?

When I found a unicorn, I thought she would make all my problems go away.

But the unicorn won’t let me touch her, and told me that I have to be calm and learn to control my temper first.

But I really need a unicorn. What should I do? How could I get the unicorn to go home with me and be my best friend forever?

[–]Tyred_BiggumsRed Beret3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

JFC.. replace unicorn with woman and you have an askMRP post.

[–]FoxShitNasty831 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking click bait

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You speak on one side of things, here's another:

  • So maybe she is boogeying. Who cares. Life is full of ups and downs.

  • Enjoy the lows just as much as you enjoy the highs.

The emotions are raw. And real.

[–]-Acta-Non-Verba-15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

Are you OK with being in a sex-less relationship? You are not even married and she’s pulling this.

Plus, she's obviously having some sort of mood swing right now.

[–]_-resonance-_9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, OP should wait until after he’s married to uncover his woman’s excuses for avoiding sex.

[–]Massive-Plate13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

At some point OP spoke about fight club to her.

She went a read about it, and learned how to control him using RP tactics.

Submissive OP.

[–]mr4kino13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy

She has you right now and she knows it. Next her for a couple of days / weeks if you still wanna keep an ltr and see how she reacts. There isn't much detail in your text but if she doesn't come back to you = branch swinging. Anyway, you are missing the main point of "redpill": concentrate on yourself, don't bother with what she thinks.

[–]_-resonance-_4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This right here. But I say next her indefinitely until she comes back. What’s more, block her and make her figure out a more tactical way to get back into your life.

I sardonically told my girl via text that I cry myself to sleep every night without her. Pretty sure she thinks I was serious. Jokes on her. But yeah, I still miss her and want her to come back, but not as much as I am willing to take accountability for and improve my own SMV.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red24 points25 points  (3 children) | Copy

No wondering gerbil, no mood swings, hates talking about her feelings, doesn’t complain, always up for the next life adventure, enjoys hunting/fishing/camping/shooting, etc.

You are dating a tranny.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy

Sounds boring to me.

My woman got all emotional the other day about something silly and I just looked at her and smiled and said "I fucking love you when you're like this".

It's true.

[–]Tyred_BiggumsRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

OP is clearly the one with the “wondering gerbil” with mood swings who loves to talk about his her feelings.

[–]Redrover85716 points17 points  (2 children) | Copy

Just next her. I’ll never understand why men give a fuck about a woman that isn’t the mother of their children or at the very least married to. You aren’t attached to her at all why would you tolerate any type of annoyance. She rejected you for a week, move on.

[–]a-little-spice5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

A girl is distant 1 week out of ten months and you want to throw it away.....
Have you ever actually been in a relationship?

[–]Redrover8579 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m married with kids. He’s 36. Why would he work on a relationship with a 30 year old woman he’s being seeing 10 months? There’s nothing there to throw away.

[–]sidepiecebandit6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

but she surprised me.

A man living in his own frame doesn't get surprised.

When I have brought up her being distant, she is adamant that she is unhappy and the problem is her internally; that she sometimes becomes distant, but and it has nothing everything to do with me.

FTFY

[–]business---travel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A man living in his own frame doesn't get surprised.

Bingo.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando26 points27 points  (8 children) | Copy

RP aware for 4 years.

Learned nothing.

Divorced the wife.

Repeated same mistakes with current GF.

Now back in the tardpool of AskMRP wondering what to do.

Will make a decision soon.

Will keep or dump the current GF.

Will carry on repeating same mistakes with current or new GF.

Will carry on same cycle till death.

Will die RP aware.

Still will have learned nothing.

RiP Aware.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

/u/sbIII nails it.

End thread

[–]_-resonance-_-4 points-3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Disagree. Owning his shit with IDGAF attitude essentially is nexting her, so OP is on track.

Thread continues...

[–]johneyapocalypseThe one that says "Bad Motherfucker"5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Don't fucking disagree with bobbyperu you stupid asshole.

[–]_-resonance-_-2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thread continues. Just saying.

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

So, you think OP has a IDGAF attitude? Really?

This whole post is about her and what should he do. He wouldn’t be doing this faggot post if he DNGAF

[–]Tyred_BiggumsRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

At best he's LARPing IDGAF while giving tons of fucks and being butt hurt.

[–]_-resonance-_2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

OP thanks you for your helpfulness.

Not.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You moron. People pay good money to get that kind of honesty.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If a guy ever wonders if he’s “being red pilled” by his girl, that means he’s a drunk captain and he’s so proud of being “red pill aware” that he doesn’t realize he’s just plain blue.

[–]ChiefGuitar5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

What the fuck does "redpilling me" even mean?

It kinda sounds like she's building her own dread levels. Her distance is enabling your oneitis, and you're looking for comfort from her that she's committed to you.

How should I proceed with her being distant?

What does the literature tell you? If you're red pill aware and been sidebarring and doing the work, what's your first idea? That's probably the right one. I don't think I need to tell you.

Or do I cut my losses and next her?

Only you can answer this. Does she add enough value to your life that you want to commit to the stay plan? If there's a dry spell in the bedroom for a while, is she still worth having around?

[–]_-resonance-_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t think she is red pilling him; the mix of hypergamy and hamstering makes it seem like she’s aware of what motivates her behavior. She’s not.

[–]hibloodstevia3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well, if this is going to keep happening, are you ok with that?

Can you do better?

[–]umizumiz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bro

You will never know what someone else is thinking.

Maybe she wants you to leave her, maybe she's going through some shit, maybe she's fucking Chad Charley. Who knows.

Do what you want for a few days, minimum. Leave her be.

You damn sure don't wanna force someone to stay in a relationship with you, you just got out of one of those a few years ago.

There is no main event in a 10 month LTR, you are not going to get a sudden turnaround from a woman who still remembers how it feels to go to the bar and get laid.

[–]AnyHead1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You say you were “at dread level 10” with your wife, but also “couldn’t break away from my beta past.” How exactly does that work?

[–]SelectAirline1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

The relationship is her job, not yours. Your job is to be a high value man that doesn't have time for this petty bullshit, and if she wants to come along for the ride then she'll put in the effort to make that happen (and no, her being "submissive" does not change the dynamic).

Ask yourself if the time you're spending in this woman's head is really the best way you can be spending it? If not, then be somewhere else. If this is the best use of your time, then the issue isn't her being distant but you having limited options and a boring life.

This is 101 level stuff...

[–]Praexology1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She rarely gives me comfort tests.

Lol you mean she's failing your comfort tests on purpose.

With the current gf, she will follow my lead 90% of time, but I’m beginning to doubt myself with how distant she has become.

I made a post on this a while back, but you can do everything right and a woman still can choose to go somewhere else. YOU ARE NOT THAT IMPORTANT. Sounds like you need an ego check.

Own my shit and continue the IDGAF attitude? Or do I cut my losses and next her?

Here's where I can plainly see where you're failing. You think that nexting a girl and owning your responsibilities are on opposite sides of the compendium. They aren't. Own it whether you cut your losses or not.

TLDR: you are the problem

[–]oilerpillpoppin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She has RP qualities indeed, but they are RP qualities we hope for in men NOT women. Dump her and find a female. Faggot

[–]_-resonance-_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t overtly next her, but own your shit and let the chips fall where they may. If she tries to control frame, just don’t get pulled off your course.

[–]business---travel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

RP aware for 4 years.

It sounds like you haven't learned anything...

With the current gf, she will follow my lead 90% of time, but I’m beginning to doubt myself with how distant she has become.

Just because your GF 'follows your lead' most of the time, it does not mean that she enters your frame.

How should I proceed with her being distant?

Your post can be summed up with the following: "Can I break up with my girlfriend, please?"

[–]BobbyPeruRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

When I have brought up her being distant, she is adamant that she is happy

If you’re “red pill aware” you should know the term “Acta Non Verba.”

Watch her actions not words.

She is turning down sex and you aren’t even a year in She is distant

The wrong is on the wall. Are you familiar with the term “hypergamy.”

Quit focusing on her, and focus on yourself. Start doing weekly OYS, sidebar, and lift. Lest, you repeat history a 3rd time (since you are clearly repeating here).

[–]-Acta-Non-Verba-0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Did you call?!?

[–]Tambamwham0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Both your wife and gf had/have other options they give their attention to which why neither seemed to give a fuck

[–]Morpheus_TNTB0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm surprised your boyfriend ( she's more masculine than you) hasn't started railing your ass since your faggot level cannot be measured it's so high. Does she chew tobacco and wear bib overalls?

[–]_-resonance-_-5 points-4 points  (20 children) | Copy

These comments are dickish. I think it’s a solid question.

I just nexted my 1.5yr LTR who I’m in love with as an attempt to cure oneitis. It became evident she wanted frame and so did i. Overt leadership is my latest game. It sucks, I miss her, but supplicating is not an option.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando4 points5 points  (10 children) | Copy

It's a solid question for a retard.

Claims he's RP aware, divorces 'on level 10', gets oneitis for another chick, then crawls back into the cesspool when she knocks him back a few times for sex.

This is what happens when you sprinkle RP on your cornflakes then feed them to the dog.

[–]_-resonance-_1 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy

Can you explain the dog analogy? I’m not following it but it sounds gold.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

It's one thing sprinkling alpha over your cornflakes, it's another thing when you don't even eat them.

[–]_-resonance-_0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

I mean he’s basically asking the right question, bit just doesn’t realize that focusing on his purpose and DNGAF is the same as nexting. I thought this was supposed to be a community, not shit on people who are seeking input.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

Then he should eat his cornflakes and grow up to be a big boy.

[–]_-resonance-_0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

“OP: DGAF, focus on your purpose, and soft or hard next her depending on your tolerance of her behavior. Have a good day and stick to it.” No need to show disrespect to someone looking to bros for guidance and discussion.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Are you stomping your feet as you type your replies?

I feel like you're stomping your feet.

[–]_-resonance-_2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Yeah; it pisses me off when people put others down for no reason.

[–]SBIIIRed Fucking Commando3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

If you're looking for the Circle Jerk Suppport Group for Bros Whose Wives Don't Put Out, you're in the wrong sub.

[–]dilberryhoundog2 points3 points  (8 children) | Copy

Golden rule of posting in MRP.

—> If your post is full of bullshit (you are lying to yourself). You are going to get ripped to shreds (your fragile ego exposed).

If you are sympathetic to a bullshitting faggot, there is a good chance you can’t see past your own bullshit either.

The dead giveaway that they are a bullshitting faggot, is when they try to qualify themselves with “I’ve been Red Pill aware for X years”

[–]HighTesticles1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. You either get it and revel in it, or you don't and then waste your time complaining and policing people's mean tones... on a reddit sub forum dedicated to revealing how much you bullshit yourself.

[–]_-resonance-_0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy

The bullshitting faggots are the ones who act like TRP is some black and white credence that is either mastered or not. You’re either some elite alpha male getting your balls juggled or a beta faggot. Black and white thinking is the faggot bullshit. How are any of you bullshitting faggots helping OP?

[–]dilberryhoundog2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

This isn’t TRP. In TRP it is easy to larp alpha.

MRP you have to come to terms with your narcissism/ego because you can’t just next her. You have to awaken to how much of a lying faggot you are to yourself and others.

So how we help here, is to not enable the OP’s fantasies, instead the fantasies are crushed, shit tested, mocked. It is truly the best help you could ever receive.

If op had of said “I’ve stuffed around for 4 years and only licked the pill, I went Rambo and divorced my wife when the problem was me, now I’m repeating the same mistakes and my new LTR is terminal after only 10 months, Help” the guys here might be able to help the poor sucker.

[–]_-resonance-_0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Can you elaborate on how MRP (as opposed to TRP) opens one’s eyes to the inner and outer realms of lying faggotry?

[–]dilberryhoundog1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

There is nothing to elaborate.

Guys come here thinking they got it all worked out (especially if they have been LARPing Alpha over at TRP). They ask stupid questions, that is only relevant to their fictional world view, then cry and moan when everybody makes fun of their fantasy world.

Essentially the contributers here play along with the guys own fantasy. like this reply by redsfpplus ...

"

No wondering gerbil, no mood swings, hates talking about her feelings, doesn’t complain, always up for the next life adventure, enjoys hunting/fishing/camping/shooting, etc.

You are dating a tranny."

using the OP's fictional appraisal of his LTR, to insert his own fiction into the OP's fantasy world.

However if you offer the (TRP) advice of "hard next" and "DNGAF", you have enabled this fella to perpetuate his fantasy world on the next woman he catches feelz for.

Look I was all butt hurt when I first landed here too, users redsfpplus and SbIII where the guys I disliked the most. Then the light bulb came on, they shit test and fuck with you (like a woman shit tests you) to strengthen the Man. Now those dudes are some of my favorite contributers.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Because we are men who, usually, are in an LTR where pushing the nuke button means blowing up that LTR and our lives and children at the same time. A good analogy? You're wearing a suicide vest with your family next to you that you probably care about.

When you have the luxury of just "next the bitch" without real life consequences that shit is easy to next and move on to make the same mistake over and over again. Just like OP has done here. He learned nothing except how to get laid from RP.

We try to help men look inwards at their own bullshit since 90% of the time it's their fault for creating the woman they're with.

We don't tolerate bullshit. If you want that go back to TRP.

In other words, we have to actually go through self-actualization rather than just use our dick as a measuring tool of our success.

I'd take one random faggot here in MRP who's done 10 weeks of OYS over a rando in TRP anyday in a frame contest.

[–]_-resonance-_0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Thank you.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Cool. Enjoy the ban and come back if you're ready to be a man.



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