My stats: 6’ 190 lbs 36 yrs old Bench Press: 275 lbs Military Press: 185 lbs Squat: 345 lbs Deadlift: 440 lbs
RP aware for 4 years. Discovered it while I was still married to my wife (38) at the time. RP theory made me realize my life was better without her so I ended a 12 yr marriage with her.
After the divorce, messed around with some ONS, nothing serious for a couple months. Met my current gf (30) and did not intend for it to become a LTR, but she surprised me.
She’s a country girl and has a lot of RP characteristics. No wondering gerbil, no mood swings, hates talking about her feelings, doesn’t complain, always up for the next life adventure, enjoys hunting/fishing/camping/shooting, etc. However, I’m seeing some red flags here and I’m not sure if I need to end it or double down on RP theory and behavior.
We’ve been together 10 months and for the past couple months she has become distant and does not show affection. All affection is initiated by me, including sex. Sex was always like this because she is very submissive and would say “if you want something, just take it” so I do. The sex is great and she always orgasms at least once.
One of the reasons I divorced my wife at the time was because she wouldn’t follow my lead. I was at dread level 10 and she still wouldn’t follow, likely because she was two years older than me and I couldn’t break away from my beta past.
With the current gf, she will follow my lead 90% of time, but I’m beginning to doubt myself with how distant she has become. This past week I tried initiating sex everyday and was rejected each day except one. Sex earlier in the relationship would happen 5-7x a week.
When I have brought up her being distant, she is adamant that she is happy and the problem is her internally; that she sometimes becomes distant, but it has nothing to do with me. During this time, she will continue to throw shit tests at me. She rarely gives me comfort tests.
My question is: How should I proceed with her being distant? Own my shit and continue the IDGAF attitude? Or do I cut my losses and next her?