N-count in men, does it matter?

Blackishcat27 · 2019-11-27T16:26:17+00:00

I would love it if women would hold men up to the same shit they insist on holding women up too. I'd say it does. Sleeping around doesn't make a man a badass no matter what he may think. More like a walking STD trap than anything.

Pizza-n-Lice · 2019-11-27T14:47:20+00:00

It matters to me. If they have a very high n count then they have a fundamanentally different attitude to sex than I do. If they had many ONS or FBWs in the past, it's unlikely they will be able to manange a LTR. They are more likely to jump ship if any conflict arises or get bored with just one person. I don't think they can have a sudden change of personality and be happy with one person. A lot of guys refuse to use condoms even with casual sex, so more risk for STDs. it's probably best if their history consists of some long term relationships, and at most only a few hookups in between those.

Men in general don't view sex as anything meaningful and don't even respect the women they hook up with. If they do have a high n count it would be good to at least figure out how they view those women they hooked up with.

whycantweallgetal0ng · 2019-11-27T15:00:15+00:00

Not exactly the n-count itself but the reputation.

Once he's gained a reputation, most women will avoid such a man and tell their sisters so they can avoid him too.

annarea · 2019-11-27T16:33:33+00:00

It matters to me, but I'm a virgin and I'd like his n-count to be reasonable. I was talking to this one guy and he told me he slept with 16 people. He was 29. He said that he wasn't having ons, but dating the women for a month, sleeping with him, and then they break up with him. Definitely a red flag that they always broke up with him after sleeping together. Honestly, I think I would feel better if he just had ons. But I dumped him after he told me that.

CoolMelonade · 2019-11-27T14:51:07+00:00

Like most things, there’s a law of diminishing returns.

It’s nice if he’s got some because experience (hopefully) breeds sexual competence.

But too much and he’s probably not discerning enough about what he sticks his penis into and is a high risk for cheating, sex addiction, or STDs. He’s more than likely got HPV, which they can’t test in men, which could give you cancer or make you infertile.

reddituser39682 · 2019-11-27T15:09:45+00:00

I'm bi and men with high n-counts are more of a turn off for me than women with high n-counts. Simply because women are constantly offered sex and men have to go out of their way to get sex, so they often have to use manipulation and coercion to get it.

For instance, a woman having 50 sexual partners during her crazy years in college isn't as big a deal to me as a man doing the same thing, because I know some of the sex the guy had probably involved him manipulating and using women to get it. The higher his number the more likely this is. And it's also likely some of it wasn't consensual.

derpinat_butter · 2019-11-27T14:49:21+00:00

I wouldn't want to be with a man that had sex with 15 women or more. It would make me think that he can't commit and sees me as just another chick to pump and dump.

1Here4Bach · 2019-11-27T17:33:14+00:00

Yes, there was a study posted on this sub not too long ago (I can’t find it) that showed men with a high-n count are more likely to cheat during marriage and women with a low n-count are more likely to cheat during marriage.

Usually, when women have lots of sex partners it’s a phase during late teens-mid 20s. Like sowing their wild oats. When men do its most likely ingrained in their behavior and they continue trying to sleep around well after their 20s.

idiosyncraticg1 · 2019-11-27T16:52:38+00:00

It does. I would factor in his age and how many relationships he’s had. If he’s been in long term relationships yet has like 20+ partners and he’s in his early 20s then that’s an issue since that means he was really hoeing out when he wasn’t in a relationship.

AlienUtterings · 2019-11-27T18:28:40+00:00

Short answer, yes.

Long answer, yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeees.

blackopium777 · 2019-11-27T21:15:41+00:00

If he fucked more than me, I am not fucking him. And I am not a woman who had alot of different sexual Partners.

whoooocarez · 2019-11-27T15:13:30+00:00

It’s immature IMO to be checking for your lover’s body count. See how they conduct themselves over time. If they’re a hoe, you’ll know.

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2019-11-30T18:54:19+00:00

High N count men will go after PICK-ME insecure women and once they're older than a certain age, it gets harder and harder for them to get these women because most women have gotten over their insecurities by a certain age.

So they'll try to be older fuckboys and sometimes they end up with women much younger than they are but eventually they reach an age where they become unbangable for younger women and that's when they'll try to date seriously.

These men often are very good at stringing women along because they have decades of experience with stringing along women and dating them is very challenging. They're actually very sensitive and easily hurt. The most effective strategies against high N count men involve ghosting them and kind of acting like you don't give a fuck about them. No matter what they do, you're indifferent. Nothing impresses you, except good behavior and effort from him. Everything else is meh. You miss his calls. You take 12+ hours to text back. You see other men and make it known to him somehow. Introducing Male competition has, in my experience, mixed results with this type of man. Either he's turned off completely and ghosts because he now sees you as promiscuous, or he becomes obsessed with you and tries harder.

Yes. This type of man expects you to be a virgin or to have an n number of less than 3. Even if you're 45 and have 9 kids

Title	N-count in men, does it matter?
Author	GlaceMarill
Upvotes	22
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Date	November 27, 2019 2:35 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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