It would be more impressive if he weren’t such a looker, but I’m honing my FDS craft.

ino_y · 2019-11-19T08:27:11+00:00

<jaunty game show music> YOU MIGHT JUST BE THAT LUCKY LADY!

fdsthrowaway · 2019-11-19T11:06:19+00:00

WTF is up with untidy/weird backgrounds on OLD profiles?? Nope sorry dude the piles of dirty laundry behind you are just not doing it for me

Liz_Lemondrop · 2019-11-19T10:12:11+00:00

For your sanity, just unmatch. You'll be happier in the long run.

circescircus · 2019-11-19T15:18:32+00:00

Don't even explain anything to him. Just block. Don't give him (or any other low value man) the satisfaction.

Men think women are desperate to be in relationships with them. They can't wrap their mind around the concept of us not wanting to waste our time going out with someone who doesn't want a relationship at all. They seriously think you're dying to marry them.

Like a woman can go out with a man who is relationship-minded, but still find red flags or they are generally incompatible.

In general, I don't think women should bother explaining anything to low value men with very low self-awareness, communication skills and low empathy. You're just wasting your time.

It's the same reason why old men think younger women like them when they harass young women working in customer service jobs. Same reason why men think women love attached/married men-- women are more friendly to coupled men BECAUSE they have a gf/wife. They are seen as less of a threat, because they are with someone.

Men have a very very overinflated opinion of themselves, and they look to find reasons to validate whatever delusional thing they already believe.

AstridRavenGrae · 2019-11-19T11:30:37+00:00

Hard pass, Jason. NEXT!

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2019-11-19T16:17:59+00:00

Very well done.

I looked at the timestamps. You're instantly replying to his comments and messages, which is tipping him off that you're giving more of a fuck than he is. Notice how he took 10 minutes to get back to you in the bottom-most gray msg, and you got back to him in 7 minutes.

This is UNACCEPTABLE.

Straight up reply to 50 dudes. 50. No less than 50 dudes, and then go watch an episode of your favorite show. Then come back and respond to as many as possible. Then watch another episode. Then only respond during commercials. This will force you to "wait" to get back to at least a few of them, and you'll see with your own eyes, through evidence, that they put more effort into the conversation, and more effort into you when you made them wait. You'll notice that even the handsome ones will double and tripple text and scramble for your attention, especially if you forget to get back to them and you accidentally make them wait a day or two, or a week.

Repeat this experiment over and over and over again until you legitimately begin to believe these two fundamental self-esteem building beliefs, at the gut-level:

There is an abundance of high-quality men, especially on online dating, for you to date, and you only need to log into an app, and swipe for 10 minutes to get attention from high-quality men, and get high-quality dates. Time is not running out for you, you can and will find a high quality man by simply spending half an hour a day on these apps.
You deserve the best treatment out there, and you'll absolutely block, ignore, delete, and ghost any man who fails to deliver this treatment, the FIRST time it happens.

This is a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) technique called the "experimental technique" where you flood yourself with evidence that's convincing enough to build a new belief into your psyche. This new belief should be something like "I don't need to worry about finding men. They need to worry about getting a reply from me. THEY need to compete for MY time, and be on their best behavior, and show me the best time. They must outcompete other men who are also showing me the time of my life for the #1 spot. Even after they've won me, they need to continue to put forth a high quality level of effort in the relationship or I will ghost his ass the first time it happens".

Let this be a daily reminder to take ZERO shit from these men!! You smell shit, you ignore, ghost, block, delete, NEXT his ass, THE FIRST TIME.

Source: http://www.bpdrecovery.com/untwist-your-thinking

MoonlightRumor · 2019-11-19T17:45:23+00:00

I neec this woman's self confidence. Gah, THIS POST GIVES ME LIFE!

Saitschik · 2019-11-19T18:51:04+00:00

It amazes me that even fat, dirty men with shitty mirror selfies think women would be interested in something casual with them. The delusion is strong, very strong lol

Tingalingaling57 · 2019-11-19T15:43:39+00:00

I fully agree with this post. I just don’t know why men say this. Tell me your full intentions first before I waste my energy, and love on someone who doesn’t have the same intentions as me.

Adela-Siobhan · 2019-11-19T13:47:38+00:00

Any reply to the last?

jewdy09 · 2019-11-19T18:01:54+00:00

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rubymood · 2019-11-19T20:16:47+00:00

true queen shit 👑👑👑👑👑

Uglyoldncranky1982 · 2019-11-19T15:09:45+00:00

I stopped lurking to congratulate you. Don't entertain these fools ladies.

Title	It would be more impressive if he weren’t such a looker, but I’m honing my FDS craft.
Author	jewdy09
Upvotes	160
Comments	30
Date	November 19, 2019 8:21 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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