Woman invites over a guy for a hook up. They hook up. He leaves. Why can't she find a boyfriend?

KurdistanNewsMod · 2020-06-24T16:36:14+00:00

Lol.

A hook up is not a relationship. I have a feeling that women get so much random sex with strangers and hookups (before even having a single boyfriend) that they then believe that the only way to find a boyfriend is from having hookups. The classic hookup paradox.

sleepyweaselisawake · 2020-06-24T16:31:58+00:00

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Aldabruzzo · 2020-06-24T16:43:56+00:00

1) If you invite a man to your home to be alone with you for a few hours, he will view that as an invitation to escalate to sex. If you say things like "come over to my place, I'll make dinner and we can watch a movie on TV", what he hears is "I want to be alone with you so that we can start doing sexual things".

In 2020 America, a woman who invites a man she just met to her home to be alone with her is inviting a hookup.

2) In 2020 America, any woman who doesn't know what "Netflix and chill" means should not be allowed to date or be alone with men, and should not be allowed to go out in public unchaperoned.

3) No woman should ever be doing wife things or girlfriend things for fuckboys. Making dinner for a guy you're not even dating is just stupid. That's a wife thing. That's a serious GF thing. That is NOT something you do for a guy you just met.

and on that note, Men: Do not do husband things or boyfriend things for hoes, fuckbuddies, or friends with benefits. Hoes do not get dinner dates, gifts, nights out, or weekend getaways. Hoes do not get favors, bills paid, or "rescued" when they need some spare cash or run out of gas. Hoes get no provisioning of any kind.

Chiliresident · 2020-06-24T17:02:41+00:00

“I feel like a whore” - well then maybe listen to your conscience then? If it walks like a duck,,,,,

shrinkshooter · 2020-06-24T17:05:28+00:00

I'm going to break from some of the more obvious commentary I could mention and just explain something that is. I'm not describing how it ought to be, or whether it's good or bad, or whether it's your "job" or her "responsibility" to suppress it.

No matter how much a woman persuades herself that the sex she's having is casual, unless she has hit the 100% broken mark (as in, her ability to emotionally connect is completely damaged to the maximum, forever, which despite all the memes and whatnot isn't common), sex will be emotional. It will have some sliver of meaning. Whether that is actually a sliver or a huge chunk depends on the woman and a bunch of various factors.

The point I'm making is that 99.999% of the time, if you leave immediately after fucking a girl, she's going to feel horrendous. This applies to the overwhelming majority of females everywhere at any time. As I said I'm not going to make any commentary on this beyond that, I'm simply outlining a truth. If a man and woman hook up, have sex, and the guy abandons her the instant it's over, it's one of the most emotionally damaging things a guy can do to a chick. In contrast, this applies far less or not at all when the roles are reversed, and some guys would certainly consider it a plus. Just for anyone who wasn't aware of this phenomenon.

I should mention that if any of you plan to ever use this nuke for any reason, make sure you deploy it strategically. Personally I don't fuck chicks I hate just because they're hot, but different strokes and all that.

2020-06-24T17:40:14+00:00

Despite all the brainwashing that a slut is the equivalent of a player/Casanova and sex is just a fun recreational activity, she felt sad and used.

The two paths ahead of her are: A) Doing it again and again until she's densensitized B) Realizing that our ancestors had all these rules in place for a reason. And I wouldn't wager on B.

ChadInKorea · 2020-06-24T16:48:25+00:00

Hooking up is not the path towards dating. Welcome to the real world!

Aldabruzzo · 2020-06-24T17:55:52+00:00

So she invited Chad and he fucked her over? Shocking. Now a random Billy Beta will pay dearly for it...

loneliness-inc · 2020-06-24T16:58:26+00:00

Waaaaah! Don't worry cystur, you're definitely not a whore because we have power in numbers and the cysturhood decided to absolve you of whoredom.

Go get that dick and expect a lifelong commitment to naturally develop from it, if you're interested.

If you aren't feeling it, just expect him to disappear into the night.

Anything else is misogyny! 😂

PrinceAladdin · 2020-06-24T19:36:57+00:00

Okay here is the shocker. women have 0 idea how to get a boyfriend. all they are are fisherman. they throw the bait and hope to catch the guy but soon as he touches the hands of the fisherman and the bait is removed. the fish slips from the hands and goes back to water.

women have never developped strategies or ways to get what they want. because they never had to. all they do is sit and wait for the man to come charm them and do all the work.

so that is why all these women are crying. they only have their pussy to offer the guy and then get mad when he takes it and leaves.

if they had more than sex to offer. the guy wouldn't just do that. but 98% of women don't. (modern women , women from an other age and philosophy of life don't count)

Cavannah · 2020-06-24T17:37:24+00:00

Quite literally, she is fuckzoned. Congratulations, you're now in a position commensurate to that of the majority of men, so Feminism got you what you wanted; Equality.

You don't get to complain about fair turnabout.

MattyK414 · 2020-06-24T17:25:11+00:00

Welp, you're gonna have to "put out" to even have a shot at a relationship, or someone else will. Women fail to understand that "sex" to a man is like "eating", and not a manipulative tool.

Enjoy your "liberation".

The good news is that since she hasn't had sex with an actual boyfriend, she'll classify herself as being nearly a virgin.

Griever114 · 2020-06-24T20:55:55+00:00

Invites guy she isn't dating over. Willingly has sex with said guy. Complains when he leaves because its a hook up.

shocked pikachu

Clearly this guy is at fault. He forgot to give her a promise ring. /s

Celticpenguin85 · 2020-06-24T17:45:03+00:00

Isn't this woman doing exactly what people accuse Nice Guys of doing?

ogrilla99 · 2020-06-24T18:12:38+00:00

That dude needs to be careful. He's about to get #metoo'd Aziz Ansari-style.

jasonmiles2014 · 2020-06-24T20:24:12+00:00

How long until she accuses him of “rape”?

mustangfrank · 2020-06-24T21:42:17+00:00

Did she try dating good men?

She: Good men are too boring. Lather, rinse and repeat.

peguy2000 · 2020-06-24T17:22:49+00:00

He doesnt owe her anything. Fucking entitled bitch

TheApricotCavalier · 2020-06-24T20:26:46+00:00

Just because you sleep with him doesnt mean you are entitled to his friendship.

HeftyAdministration8 · 2020-06-24T21:00:30+00:00

It's always men's fault. Always.

PM_me_your_fronthole · 2020-06-25T02:59:51+00:00

“ I feel like a whore”

Well if the shoe fits

TheControlsEngineer · 2020-06-25T00:53:35+00:00

Women think they are entitled to a relationship.

someevilwhitemen · 2020-06-24T19:32:33+00:00

he didnt make her pay for all the free empowerment , so what she is complaining about ???

Norman_T_Chadlite · 2020-06-25T01:23:18+00:00

Honestly, if I don't know a woman at all the post sex is not intimate, it's awkward and I wanna bounce.

asdf333aza · 2020-06-25T03:14:52+00:00

What else was she expecting?

Zombeflandrs · 2020-06-24T19:03:26+00:00

Pump and dump always!!

Harry_Teak · 2020-06-25T03:07:07+00:00

Sounds like a guy hard up for a nut reeled in a landwhale and got out as quickly as possible. One would think she'd be used to the old splash & dash routine.

Dinomiteblast · 2020-06-25T06:26:47+00:00

Ive cooked for and watched movies with female coworkers, even one i had feelings for. Ive never made it about trying to get something going. Usually it was to be the shoulder to cry on. Only there were 2 spaces inbetween us on the couch and no sleepovers. Only one of 2 has ever cooked back for me or actually lend her shoulder for me to cry on. The other just used the idiot white knight simp in me back then to feel better.

I never cared in the end. Not like this specimen who cried about it.

2020-06-25T09:25:46+00:00

Unbelievable, it's almost like she did what men had tried for years and now she is shocked to find that the exact same thing happend to her that happend to men.

Now she knows how chivalry died.

Broncoli · 2020-06-25T19:18:05+00:00

I feel like a whore

Now now, take it easy on yourself - you're no whore.

A whore gets paid.

GmanRaz · 2020-06-25T13:06:48+00:00

"I feel like a whore".

The boot fits.

sleepyweaselisawake · 2020-07-06T18:27:39+00:00

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sparklingscott · 2020-06-24T17:55:38+00:00

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Title	Woman invites over a guy for a hook up. They hook up. He leaves. Why can't she find a boyfriend?
Author	sleepyweaselisawake
Upvotes	214
Comments	85
Date	June 24, 2020 4:26 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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