Had this reminder at a really low point in my life and wanted to share. My LVM partner broke up with me a few months ago, about 5 years into our relationship (yup, I was a forever girlfriend.) Our relationship was weighing me down emotionally and physically. I'd gained about 40lbs, was depressed, and overall felt like ass.

Two days after he moved out, I decided to drag my ass out of bed and meet some friends at a party. I took an Uber there, and the driver who picked me up was HOT. Surfer dude trying to make extra cash. We chatted most of the way, and at the end of the ride, he asked me out. Two days later I was at a home goods store replacing some of the stuff my ex took, and another attractive dude started asking me questions about how my rewards card worked. We kept chatting as we left the store, and he asked me out as well. He also made sure I noticed the car he drove, which was $$$$. (Total player mobile.)

Now, I'm not saying either of these guys was a HVM, but the point stands - men are literally begging for our attention even when we're chubby, and rocking top knots with our stretchy pants. There's no need to accept crap treatment from scrotes or be in sad pick me mode. Not ready to date yet (I'm taking the rest of 2020 to focus on me) but when I am, I'm sure as hell NOT settling. Love this sub for bringing to light what my gut has always known!