35 years old.
You had a good 15 years to choose a mate and settle down.
But you focused on your career.
Or you were busy partying.
You never considered how you would struggle at 35 to find a partner to have kids with.
But now you're there.
You're on bumble because tinder is known for mostly just hookups.
You put on your profile under kids: want someday
The pressure is on.
Will this end well?
90% of girls on dating apps have that they want kids someday. What the fuck is with 35+ women and their dream of becoming a mother? Is it a virtue signal like "looking for relationship" ?
Don't they realize that they are more likely than not past the point of no return?
Just venting a little here but they really don't have much of a chance.
At 35 you start dating. You meet a dozen guys who are good leads to father your offspring.
Narrow it down to 2-3 in a month or 2. Pick the best one of those after a few more months.
Date the one for at least 6 months - 1 year to get him to really commit.
Maybe another 6 months and you move in together.
Another year or 2 until he proposes.
That's IF the two of you can keep it together that long. Otherwise it's back to the dating world and start over.
But let's say you do get married - now you're 38 and married living together.
Now you're damn near 40 and you have to put your career that you spent 15 years developing on hold for at least 10 years.
Which means you need your husband to provide. We're talking at least a 6 figure earner. Not some grocery bagger.
How many qualified men in your area are there that are going to be interested in you?
Chances are low. So why bother?
My theory is that it's just to signal. You have some interest in being a mother but deep down it's still a low priority.
What do you think?