Why you should never show emotion in front of a woman

UnbreakableButts · 2020-07-22T20:15:20+00:00

His wife is a selfish cunt

CommanderOfTheDeath · 2020-07-22T20:28:19+00:00

OPs problem is not his wife attacking him for showing emotions by grieving over his dead child. His problem is that he still wants to support that dumb narcissistic bitch instead of instantly divorcing her ass.

StoppingforStix · 2020-07-22T18:48:34+00:00

Do people only read 1 word in 3 or what? OP says it is taken from relationship advice and you see people consoling him.LOL

saintraker · 2020-07-22T19:04:44+00:00

I’ve made that mistake showing emotion to my wife and was very surprised at how cold she was towards me! ( my grandma passed away) never again will she see me crying. We are taught that boys can cry but actions, not words are my ways of finding truth!

Luck-67 · 2020-07-22T22:27:54+00:00

Having been present during or immediately after the deaths of hundreds of people, including numerous children unfortunately, I can say this: there is no right way to respond or “man” up to it. They lost their kid and although she is a bitch about it, both of them will be completely out of their minds for a long time.

2020-07-22T21:43:58+00:00

The writer's wife is a cunt. The loss of a wanted child is one of the most devastating things I can imagine happening to a man, and his wife shames him for showing sadness over that loss. I don't have any kids and can't empathize, but I lost an uncle who was basically a father to me about 12 years ago, and I was depressed about it for like two weeks straight. And I'm a guy who honestly very rarely cries. As macho as guys try to appear we're still human, and sadness over the loss of a loved one is definitely justified.

CarelessBowler5 · 2020-07-22T23:33:33+00:00

This is dumb.

Show emotion.

If showing emotion makes you look "weak" that's because you're weak. Hiding your emotion to try to pretend to be something you are not isn't RP or Alpha, it's covert-contract level deceptive.

An HVM can feel things deeply. He should feel things deeply. But he should feel them from a place of control and dominance, not from a place of helplessness and weakness.

"Now what?"

Like when anything goes wrong, it's an opportunity to grow, adjust, and keep moving forward - even if 'goes wrong' means heart-wrenching devastation.

mgtowthroww · 2020-07-23T00:38:45+00:00

Be careful. There is a high chance you will be going through divorce in next year or so. The emotional trauma on your wife will slowly start to show. Consider yourself warned.

ryansworld10 · 2020-07-22T19:06:44+00:00

Most likely the guy in the example has a history of being excessively emotional. Thus why his wife was so quick to give him shit.

I wouldn't say never show emotion in front of a woman. A time like this is completely reasonable to be emotional. The thing is that you have to be very selective in when and how you chose to show emotion. You have to show strength through your emotions. Express them while still being in control of them. Where this guy failed was letting his emotions control himself.

stewbigboy · 2020-07-23T02:31:27+00:00

He needs to leave her; I hope OP from the article can open his eyes and see that his wife is a selfish bitch who is literally “making it about her” and not about how they BOTH lost their child.

Psychological_Radish · 2020-07-23T01:29:20+00:00

I agree that this wife sounds like a real piece of work, but this is a teachable moment for one of the harshest Red Pills: women are instinctively revolted by male tears.

There was a female author, I forget the source and the exact quote, but it went something like this: we tell our men to show emotion, that it's okay to be vulnerable. But when they do, we can't help but feel repulsed and disgusted.

I think you basically get 2-3 "crying in front of your SO" passes in life as a man: the death of your parents, or the death of a child. That's it.

Woujo · 2020-07-23T02:51:23+00:00

You can show emotion in front of a woman - you can't show weakness - that's a different thing.

Also, when you do show emotion, you must also convey the feeling of "it's going to be all right." The emotion you convey is not "this isn't affecting me" but rather "we're in a pickle but everything will be all right and I will lead us to a better place." The guy's wife is exactly right - she needs him to be the emotional rock, the solid one when everything goes to shit. None of us saw how he cried, but most likely he did in a way that made her feel like she no longer has a protector or an emotional rock. When women are drowning in the pool of emotions, they want you to stand outside the pool and pull them out, not jump in and drown with them.

Aesthetik_1 · 2020-07-23T09:55:41+00:00

You must make an important distinction here though. Not all emotions are the same and not all are bad for interacting with women. Laughing a lot and being positive and nonchalant never hurt me and actually helped me a lot in the past.

Remember women Mirror your emotional state but if it’s not a weak one you’re fine

antifeminist3 · 2020-07-23T01:08:56+00:00

If ever there was a case where a woman should let up, it's something like this. But she is so selfish she tells him that he's not allowed to grieve.

DrinkBloodWithAStraw · 2020-07-23T04:47:51+00:00

I think marriedredpill has a post on showing emotions like a man.

SKRedPill · 2020-07-23T10:34:10+00:00

You put this on mrp yet?

4ktx · 2020-07-23T14:26:22+00:00

Of course your are trying to make it all about you. Girls only care about themselves.

PlainTundra · 2020-07-23T14:55:13+00:00

She started saying that I was trying to make it about me.

You can't dismiss the possibility that woman suffers any kind of mental disorder. Saying he was making it about him after the shock of losing a child is very narcissistic.

boy_named_su · 2020-07-23T16:27:31+00:00

I liked First Man, starring Gosling

He loses his daughter to cancer. Doesn't show much emotion. But he brings her trinket to the fucking Moon, and leaves it there. He had a deep inner life

TheRedPike · 2020-07-23T18:17:58+00:00

. She gave birth and we didn't hear any crying. We were so confused and you can see it in the doctors' eyes that they were very concerned.

Assuming this didn't happen in some mudhut in the middle of a dense, remote jungle, this sounds like someone that has never been in a delivery room. You got trolled.

hollabomb · 2020-07-22T23:26:29+00:00

Don’t feel bad, these are not normal circumstances for you both.

Trollz4fun · 2020-07-22T23:54:13+00:00

Damn. More hard truths. You can cry with us.

auhsoj565joshua · 2020-07-22T18:28:27+00:00

I’d say wait til she comes to you, incredibly sorry about your loss I hope your pain gets easier for the both of you.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2020-07-22T23:58:50+00:00

I never plan on changing any diapers if I do end up having a kid. The fact he looked forward to it says quite a bit about him. I get the sentiment but I'm not doin it.

offtheshitproductive · 2020-07-22T18:42:57+00:00

Hard next and move on to the next girl. No but for real though I'm sorry about your loss. I will say that your wife is definitely getting some crazy hormones and if you give it enough time she will be sorry for what she said. I'm sure some retards will come on here and tell you your wife will never love you again but I think that things are different in times of hard loss like that.

youcanthandlethelie · 2020-07-23T09:06:07+00:00

To be fair, the op’s wife just lost her baby. I’d be inclined to cut her some slack.

Title	Why you should never show emotion in front of a woman
Author	FrankTM26
Upvotes	69
Comments	47
Date	July 22, 2020 6:16 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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