Do you confront a men ?

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-12-09T01:08:06+00:00

God this is always how I do it. And then when the dates over I'm done. If they really piss me off sometimes I'll just walk away while they're still talking. 😂

The only exception to this is if he makes me feel physically unsafe. I have used physically force or physical intimidation to get scary men to fuck off. It works well. They don't expect it. But it is so much effort and they aren't worth it.

chateauduchat · 2020-12-09T00:49:53+00:00

I do not. I just leave. I usually break up over the phone too because I’m not good at being patient until I see them again and I feel that it is safer.

Jiou112 · 2020-12-09T02:39:00+00:00

Block and delete always. There's a difference between communicating and talking to a wall, that will use your every word against you. Real communicating is done when getting to know someone, and making choices together once committed and etc. Yelling or trying to explain why something obviously hurtful... hurt you, that is not communicating. That is wasted energy.

Cognitivedecadence · 2020-12-09T05:37:33+00:00

Some men ENJOY upsetting women too. But yup I’ve recently started following your strategy. “The only language men understand is silence”

2020-12-09T01:17:34+00:00

I usually just leave and never speak to them again. I don’t have the inclination to fight or argue. That kind of emotional energy I use for people I actually care about.

MasCal7 · 2020-12-09T01:23:43+00:00

I used to, until I met a dude who would bait/gaslight me into confronting him, just so he could feel the satisfaction of getting under my skin. He took pleasure in my frustration and pain. I’ll call a guy out on BS the first time, but after that, no. It’s not worth having the same conversation again.

myousername · 2020-12-09T01:21:42+00:00

I have walked out of dates mid-mouthful. Dude says something unacceptable, I go "Excuse me, have to go to the washroom", block and delete while walking to my car, drive away, forget about them completely.

There is no point in arguing with men especially over basic stuff like human decency, respect, values etc.

straighthairgreece · 2020-12-09T01:41:54+00:00

I block and leave them.

vardebi · 2020-12-09T03:41:55+00:00

most guys don’t change unless I show my anger in this way.

Do what works. Save the "healthy communication" for work and friends.

dollymyfolly · 2020-12-09T02:30:50+00:00

Actually, responding to a man instead of confronting is perfect. If he acts badly, respond by showing him you don’t approve by leaving/ghosting/blocking. No reason to initiate any conversations. Men are narcissistic, they only understand their own actions and the consequences of them. No explaining. Just create consequences.

Queen-of-My-Realm · 2020-12-09T03:04:09+00:00

I'm working on this. I used to fight with them, try to "reason" with them. The block & delete method has been one of my biggest takeaways from FDS.

Most recently, a LVM screwed up, and I calmly pointed out his screw up and watched him desperately text, call and leave voicemails for an hour before blocking & deleting. Next time I won't even point it out.

2020-12-09T05:52:24+00:00

They'll tapdance around any issue like a pro.

I don't entertain men with things if they're either A. Too stupid to intuitively understand it, or B. Are pretending (lying) to not understand.

When they pretend to try to understand, they're just looking for ammo.

Economy_Butterfly_54 · 2020-12-09T02:05:05+00:00

I’m mindful of the guys I choose to emotionally invest in. Femininely suggesting to a man that you disapprove of his behavior works better than me angrily confronts them. And most importantly, become an angry woman. No man who genuinely cares about you should feel good about it. It’s time to do some self care and leave. And most importantly, stay gone.

curlygirl507 · 2020-12-09T03:53:04+00:00

How far into the relationship are we talking?

VulcanSpaceSquirrel · 2020-12-09T13:31:40+00:00

Yep.

They also think I’m ditzy or not bright when I don’t take their stupid bate.

Brochacho I don’t give a damn to fake like I care what you think. Imagine me a fool forever, I won’t be thinking of you all.

balladwilds · 2020-12-09T18:13:26+00:00

dating/talking stage: i leave, block, bye

established relationship: i communicate my issues. if he does it again bye

Title	Do you confront a men ?
Author	janatztxcxxx
Upvotes	83
Comments	19
Date	December 9, 2020 12:46 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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