How should a RPW handle life once she becomes an adult?

ThatStepfordGal · 2017-08-28T04:41:42+00:00

Relax, you're still young. Go to college though don't linger there too much and there's nothing wrong with keeping an eye out for the one. I reckon a great age to start asking those questions again is 22-23. No need to rush right now. Do what you can at college first.

girlwithabike · 2017-08-28T14:44:33+00:00

For the past year I was trying to mold myself into the best version of myself with the goals of finally being happy with myself

I think the biggest lie that western culture has ever taught is that happiness is the goal. I am 100% for self-improvement, but don't go into it thinking you'll be happy once you accomplish X. Happiness is a state of mind you have to commit to (much like love).

I can start in the spring, but I'm also worried because I am in my "peak" right now. 25 is only five years away, and this year is almost over

You will meet men of quality at school and improve yourself in ways you never thought possible on your own.

Go to school. Major in something valuable. Learn everything you possibly can. And relax :)

teaandtalk · 2017-08-28T06:01:33+00:00

Go to college, learn things that will make you a good, well-rounded person, take care of yourself physically, and when you find a nice man, you'll be ready.

indivisibleremainder · 2017-08-28T05:07:41+00:00

nothing wrong with college. it could actually be really good for you, if you have been sheltered like you say.

pick a respectable degree, avoid the extremely leftist SJW type of programs like women's studies. no clue where your interests lie, but consider nursing/medicine, education, accounting or biosciences.
spend your time wisely: study, read and avoid or limit TV, video games and social media
experiment with hobbies, join different clubs/activities. engage the social world, but avoid partying, drinking and drugs.
practice taking care of yourself: cook (avoid nasty campus food), keep your place tidy, hygiene and exercise!

LaRoudoudou · 2017-08-29T00:11:37+00:00

This seems to be the unpopular opinion in this thread, but college is not the right path for for everyone. You didn't mention what degree you're interested in or what kind of job you want. Unless you're extremely passionate about a line of work that requires a degree (like medicine, law, etc.), college can be a huge waste of time/money. If you're lucky enough that your parents can pay for it outright, then you can ignore this! I would go to school forever if it were free too! But as RPW we don't want to follow the same life plan every other millennial is on. Going to school, amassing tens of thousands of dollars of student loans that you'll be paying for the rest of your life, someday marrying another person who probably also has student loans. You will start out so far behind that it will be hard to ever save up for the big things like a home. And try to imagine what you actually want your day to day life to look like. Do you want to be a career woman? Or do you want a big family and to be home with them every day to cook dinner and talk about their day? Just wanted to add some food for thought to the discussion and give a different perspective form the others in this thread.

FriendFrog · 2017-08-28T21:06:51+00:00

Focus on learning how to take care of yourself. Learn how to cook.

littlepearlisland · 2017-08-29T21:58:19+00:00

I'm new to RPW but I think it would be wise for you to map out what your 'dream' life would look like at 35 - 40 and work backwards. If you want to marry a college educated man then you should put yourself in a path to meet one. If this is what you want then I would recommend looking at a two year school in the same town as a major four year university. That way you are benefiting from lower tuition costs and can get an AA while still being around college men. Though I would look towards seniors and grad students because most freshman and sophomores are looking for something quick. A good way to do this would be to study in the specific libraries. My alma mater had a general liberal arts library in addition to more specialized ones. (Think law library, an engineering library, medical school)

At the end of the two years you can transfer to the university or decide to follow a new path. I would recommend at least getting an associates degree because god forbid something happens later and you need to step up to help support your family you would have a better chance at getting a better paying job.

Seconding the respectable/ practical degree. Education, accounting, marketing, English, business etc. Something that will improve your value as a wife, mother and homemaker. Also consider if you want to work part time once your children are school aged, some degrees are better suited to this than others.

For example my mother got her degree in accounting. This skill set made it significantly easier on my dad because he could trust her to keep the family finances in order. This was also a benefit because she ran the books when he later started his own business. With this degree she was able to work part time. (she isn't one to stay at home) That allowed our family to have a few more luxuries we wouldn't have had with one salary.

Deep breath and remember you're honestly probably way ahead of the game because most women at 19 aren't even thinking past next month, let alone their entire future.

chim_city · 2017-08-30T22:20:27+00:00

dont listen to any of your girlfriends

imspookyboo · 2017-08-28T09:54:03+00:00

College is absolutely a good thing as these other ladies have stated. You will cultivate new hobbies, learn about yourself, get a degree. You have time. Plus, who knows who you'll meet at college!!

SouthernAthena · 2017-08-28T20:08:07+00:00

Take a breath! You don't have to figure everything out right now. In fact, you can't anyway.

College is a great place to meet people, both friends and quality relationship material. Continue to improve yourself and your social skills. In fact, what they don't tell you in the brochures is that college is really way more about the connections than it is about the education.

I know it's cliché, but take it from someone who wasted her college years. Join clubs that interest you, make friendships and try new things (hobbies/fields of studies, not sex partners). Unless your degree is in something where you'd need to go to grad school or have a specific grade in order to qualify for licensure at a particular job, don't worry about getting straight As. DO however go to the library, because you have access to so much information you wouldn't otherwise!

Good luck. Breathe deeply and remember that you are still young.

est-la-lune · 2017-08-29T00:06:34+00:00

Why can't you do both?

Part of "experience" is becoming a well-rounded, interesting person. Take a photography class. Now you have a new hobby and something to bond over.

You are not old. You are not playing catch-up, and if anything, you have 2 more years of maturity than most incoming freshmen. Just relax and create a balance between life and academics (my calc professor suggested Cal Newport's book "How To Be A Straight A Student" one pretty rough quarter).

[deleted] · 2017-08-29T09:27:31+00:00

Honestly the older I get and the longer I've been in college charting my life plans, the more I realize 4 yr university isn't for everyone. There are so many options for lifetime careers especially if your goal is to settle down young. There's trade schools, cosmetology, nursing, teaching English abroad, community college, military, etc. I also don't think you need to go to college to be educated and well-rounded as long as you have access to the internet and Kindle. You'd be surprised how much you can learn in a Lynda.com course, for example. The only thing is meeting people, but you can do that through your job and your hobbies like many adults do. I just hope you don't get stuck in this college trap the way I did because society decided everyone needs a 4-yr degree regardless of whether you can afford it or not. As a woman, you have a loooooot of options. Best of luck to you.

Atomicbebe · 2017-08-29T10:39:20+00:00

I feel people make the best decisions regarding marriage around the 25 yrs old mark. Enjoy, there is no rush.

Title	How should a RPW handle life once she becomes an adult?
Author	lavenderbroil
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Date	August 28, 2017 4:14 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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