Today is the first time I shattered my oneitis after reading Pook and Anti'-Dump's Machine. I feel sick to my stomach at the fact that I wasted so much time chasing after my ex when the signs were clearly in my face. How long does it take for this embarrassment to fo away.?

breakthatass · 2021-02-09T02:03:26+00:00

Stop talking about them, and instead lift, work, dress up and talk to other women.

TruePr0l0gue · 2021-02-09T03:30:49+00:00

You wasted one year? Try 10. The first 2 weeks post D-Day, I could have casually eaten a bullet at any time without hesitation. By 2 months no contact I could not believe how good true freedom felt again. Many here would say smashing as much new ass as you can, as fast as you can, will accelerate your moving on; but in my experience that’s a slightly overrated measure, more of a numbing “anesthetic” than the actual recovery process. Ultimately at some point you’ll still have to process the bullshit unfiltered and just let time do it’s job

jjj2576 · 2021-02-09T02:58:28+00:00

Being fair, I still fee a lot of Shame for how I behaved during my first marriage, and that’s okay. Shame and Forgiveness are parts of my Frame (I’m Catholic), and I am okay with feeling guilty for how much of an idiot beta I was, but at the end of the day, I have dominion over that Shame.

Think of it like losing a Football game. You lost. It sucks. Start prepping for the next game/season.

PhaedrusHunt · 2021-02-09T03:16:57+00:00

Forgive (yourself) but don't forget.

Remembering that feeling.

Now, go easy on yourself and move forward. No shame in it, we're all products of our surroundings.

rn7889 · 2021-02-09T04:19:32+00:00

Every. Single. One of us here has been there. I view it this way. Being embarrassed is a necessary tool to build character, frame, confidence and success. You need this. Same with heart breaks. Now build from here and understand you had to have this happen.

T1METR4VEL · 2021-02-09T02:22:03+00:00

Learn from the experience, track your improvement over time. Soon you’ll see those early, ‘blue pill’ days were necessary for you to grow. Be thankful you learned. Most people are just like that forever.

CharlieKing93 · 2021-02-09T09:19:19+00:00

Difficult, i know bro. But she was worth it, in that moment, otherwise you wouldn't have bothered. Was she the right longterm prospect for you, probably not. Winning this women game, has to do with your own sexual market value, ofcourse, but also in selecting the right girl.

If you are a 9 and you are dating a 9, expect a lot of competition. Chances that she sticks around in this day and age are slim. If she has a past of monkey branching, high notch count, infidelity, ... then that I what you should expect of her. That's why you should take a really long time before committing to something. Eventually everyone shows their cards.

armenian_UwUcide · 2021-02-09T03:53:02+00:00

You’ll stop “feeling it” when you stop giving a fuck about your ego and simply move on to something more interesting.

It’s a learning experience. Congrats. Any more time dwelling on it is time you could be doing something more interesting or productive.

ThinSpiritual · 2021-02-09T07:30:28+00:00

Anger phase is angry.

For how long? A few months at least, maybe 1-2 years. Depends on what happens on this path later and what type of encounters you'll have.

I would just say that don't let cynicism grow, don't beat yourself up over past actions, notice how you have an awareness now, and that's a sign of growth. Remember the goal is to be happy.

John_Magnus · 2021-02-09T05:01:23+00:00

The sting of embarrassment will wear off. It is part of growing up and learning new things. It just takes time. Do you still worry about the last embarrassing thing before this one?

daddydropfeet · 2021-02-09T08:45:11+00:00

Pook delivers the goods on this better than the rest. Accept rejection, that's the way of a man. Accept it, overcome it and embrace it. Men are made through pain and defeat. Failure is the best teacher.

What differentiates you from you in the past is that you will learn, you will grow and you will be better than the sum of your defeats. The embarrassment, shame and needless investment all dull with time and with more experiences. banging a bunch of random women won't cure oneitis. Nor will rationalising or reiterating all her faults and your mistakes. Embarrassed? Good! Don't ignore it or try to minimise it. Use it to fuel your trajectory.

RPU_mike · 2021-02-09T13:44:36+00:00

Usually when you’ve had sex with three other women you stop worrying about your oneitis.

Rexai03 · 2021-02-09T08:40:18+00:00

It doesn't stop. And you will always remember.

But you have to understand that this is a good thing. Because now you remember what you should never become again.

Use that to fuel yourself when you are about to lose your way again, which you will. We all do from time to time. Remember the shame, the embarrassment. Remember how it felt to be powerless and without self respect.

reddit_hypnosis · 2021-02-09T05:04:09+00:00

I googled what you were talking about and that is some good stuff, even coming from a 35 yr old that read pook atleast 10 years ago previously. Its easy to forget this stuff.

ithinkoutloudtoo · 2021-02-09T07:39:42+00:00

I’ve been there too. I had to learn the hard way to never simp for a bitch. I would suggest looking into some red pill content on YouTube. And work on yourself.

MigosXdd · 2021-02-09T08:54:46+00:00

I’m a month after breakup. 2.5 years of childish beta nonsense, where “I wanted to make her feel like princess”. No wonder she left me for some chad cock. And you know what? I don’t care.

What helped me forget was going nofap + noporn. My mentality is more stable, my dopamine levels are at it’s peak and I want to meet new chicks.

Everytime I think about the beta shit I did, I feel embarrassed NONETHELESS GRATEFUL, because it’s a sign I’m a better person. You can bet your ass I have moments where I wish I could take it all back, but that just wouldn’t be fun.

All this realization means that you have learned from all that BP shit. Cringing about it, however, won’t help you. Laugh when you think about your past, because both, you and I, definetly must’ve been the biggest clowns in the marquise.

idontmiind · 2021-02-09T03:35:52+00:00

Just erase this shit from your head entirely. Move the fuck on

NoFaithInThisSub · 2021-02-09T10:04:22+00:00

She clearly wasn't worth it. never was. But now i'm just mad at myself. my stupid ass wasted a whole year on a dime a dozen. I'm currently unlearning bad habits, but i having trouble shaking off this embarrassment. That reading material opened my eyes more than any TRP material I've ever read. What are some things I can do to stop thinking about my past BP cringing ways?

you should be glad its only 1 year.

cheesypongas · 2021-02-09T11:08:05+00:00

You’re mad? Ever had your oneitis’ boyfriend tell you how amazing the bitch of your dreams looks in missionary? No? Whatever. Just lift and have a mission in life, hustle and learn game from reliable sources. It’s good you’ve atleast begun unplugging, the worst that can happen is you going MGTOW/black pill and giving up entirely on women which is (IMO) unhealthy.

OneTrueQ · 2021-02-09T13:33:09+00:00

Its amazing how problems can be solved by fucking hotter girls. Therein lies the challenge though you gotta rise up

Optionsmfd · 2021-02-09T14:03:00+00:00

oneItis lead me to rational male 1

then i read rational male 2......

the 9 iron rules of tomassi......

literally all u need

Im_Not_Daredevil · 2021-02-09T14:32:23+00:00

What is Pook and Anit-Dump's Machine? Can someone share links? Thanks.

TRPCops · 2021-02-09T09:10:34+00:00

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daproest1 · 2021-02-09T06:33:06+00:00

You sound young. How do U get over the embarrassment? You’re young... learn and move on.

SteveSan82 · 2021-02-09T08:54:42+00:00

Still embarrassed

IrvineKafka · 2021-02-09T11:53:36+00:00

Never - hopefully. So you never do that shit again.

g0d_save_the_queen · 2021-02-09T14:28:08+00:00

the cringe is there to remind you of your mistakes anon,it hurts to remind you to never do it again,like getting your ass beat the brain ingraves the shame into your mind to make you fight harder next time.

it will go away when you change your ways and apply them,some people never learn what you have learned,hell it took me YEARS to get over an ex while you managed it in a year...it could be worse lol

vashtibunyan315 · 2021-02-09T14:35:01+00:00

accept that you feeling shame of your past self is a good and a proper response ! Imagine if you werent feeling shame and disgust of your previous beta self, surely you wouldnt want that. Just remember that feeling shame when you remember your past betaness is actually a good thing and a proper response. And learn to accept it there is no person who can achieve growth, greatness without making mistakes, and making sure to never make the same mistake twice.

brngamer · 2021-02-09T14:37:00+00:00

Now you won’t waste any more time. People need to feel pain to make a change. Embrace the new challenges. Improve. Go forth and slay.

SenorTonto · 2021-02-09T15:51:05+00:00

Its no biggie. My brother and I are in our 30s and we often laugh at all the embarrassing simping we were doing in our early to mid-twenties.

Learn and move on but the "cringe factor" that you speak of does slowly dissipate if like I said, you learn from it and make better choices in future

teramelosiscool · 2021-02-09T15:55:05+00:00

> That reading material opened my eyes more than any TRP material I've ever read.

just to be clear, pook and anti-dump's machine is trp material itself, right?

do you have a link to the text? i found something but idk if it's the book or an analysis of the book or what

Warframe_Immortal · 2021-02-09T17:07:35+00:00

WHere can I read that i have big problem with oneitis

tilleuno · 2021-02-09T17:41:36+00:00

Whuchu mad about?

Better you done become aware, then not.

HumanSockPuppet · 2021-02-09T18:54:51+00:00

What are some things I can do to stop thinking about my past BP cringing ways?

Smear peanut butter in your armpits, do a handstand, and yodel from the highest nearby elevation.

Trust me, I'm endorsed.

robbiedigital001 · 2021-02-09T18:57:37+00:00

Sit with the memories, sit with the cringe, sit with that feeling, concentrate on how it feels. is it knots in the stomach, flushing of the face? you have to sit with it and allow it and it will disintegrate and heal you.

Its a strengthening process. Trying to ignore it will just leave that bad energy in your system. You will come out of this stronger

Wave94 · 2021-02-09T20:26:54+00:00

Where did you find pook?

SirAttackHelicopter · 2021-02-09T20:43:12+00:00

To answer your question, it doesn't. The feeling becomes motivation to become a better man.

-doors-_-_ · 2021-02-09T20:44:02+00:00

Shattered mine a few months back. I look back at it now and I'm grateful that I went through it because it led me to here and waking up. If everything was all hunky dory, the inevitable wouldve just been pushed farther down the line. Im glad I came to the realization earlier rather than later. Feel much better now.

Snowboard18 · 2021-02-09T21:04:18+00:00

Realize that everyone here has probably done some cringy bluepilled shit before finding trp

But ultimately you need to realize that it is in the past and there’s nothing you can do to go back and change it or erase your memory, so why ruminate on it ?

Also get busy lifting and being on your purpose

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