What exactly are the perks of marriage?

The__Tren__Train · 2016-10-09T18:56:56+00:00

Imagine your boss tells you that you will be paid a certain salary.

You will be paid this salary if you work really hard, or if you barely work at all. The salary will not change. It is guaranteed.

Considering that, will you work hard? Will you even work at all?

And you get a MASSIVE bonus if you quit

That is marriage for a woman.

50pluspiller · 2016-10-09T18:27:53+00:00

Okay, let me list the benefits, understanding that I was married for 30 years so based on my experience and knowledge this will be the best list here.

List if benefits in marriage for a man
1.

/list

Dream_21 · 2016-10-09T18:25:01+00:00

The biggest advantage of marriage is that a nuclear family is the best environment to raise your kids.

If anything, consider a non-state marriage. Keep it a private contract between the two of you. There were some posts by /u/Dream_21 about something similar. I think it was called a private marriage? You can give the wife all the ceremony/celebration and stuff that go with marriage, she gets to change her last name to yours and gets to tell others that you are married but it is one wherein the state cannot interfere with your matters and does not consider you married. Still depends on your state/country, so do your research as they may still consider these private marriages as state marriages. But risks from Divorce Rape can be mitigated. Kids complicates things, so do your research.

I personally plan to get married in my future and this is the route I plan to take. Married RP works, there was even a subreddit for it so consider looking around there. It is possible but be careful.

Forcetobereckonedwit · 2016-10-09T16:43:48+00:00

There is no advantage for you. There are plenty for her. Don't do it.

[deleted] · 2016-10-09T17:46:16+00:00

I admit part of me has a romanticized view of marriage. But I'm also not a complete dunce and know that I don't want my financial future dependent on whether or not my SO wants to divorce rape me or not. So I'm rather Purple Pill I guess

Romanticizing marriage doesn't make you not red. Half the sexual strategy teaching here is about the LTR. While we don't advise to get a government license for it, we do recognize monogamy as a viable strategy.

Willkuer_ · 2016-10-09T18:41:29+00:00

Which nation? USA?

Icanus · 2016-10-09T19:27:41+00:00

I got married to protect my family and children. That's what marriage is all about.
If you don't want kids, don't get married.

Cyralea · 2016-10-09T20:56:18+00:00

Visitation rights. Some social status in certain circles. That's about it.

Not worth throwing your life away for.

PorkNails · 2016-10-09T20:11:28+00:00

Legally, none. Otherwise if you find a female that would make you consider that possibility you get a conditional partnership that makes your life easier while making is possible to have your own progeny.

Two final points:

You dont need to marry legally, just both of you assume the conditions to each other.
Men are not perfect and so far we, Humans, have been very successful when both sexes fill their roles.

ghostbrainalpha · 2016-10-10T02:40:21+00:00

Married guy here. I makes things 100 times better for your kids, if you can handle it.

That said, marriage should be illegal if you don't have kids and she's not pregnant.

TheRedStoic · 2016-10-09T15:54:32+00:00

No they're not that good looking at the total opportunity cost.

Most often you'll be doing the heavy lifting financially, and living solo with dependents (because babies are next in line) is more expensive than solo without. The breaks at most break even.

Just my 2c, you can have fun while it lasts, but this is a core difference in compatibility, you'll need to be prepared to walk, and watch your condoms.

Thizzlebot · 2016-10-09T20:03:40+00:00

It makes you look stable but other than that not really.

Rorta · 2016-10-10T00:35:20+00:00

I may never get married, but I want kids and I want my kids to be raised by a mother and father under the same roof in the dynamic I was raised in so I still consider it an option. There are few advantages to men though, it has to be said.

If your bride to be comes from a good family with lots of connections, those can be extremely valuable. Many people see older, single men as a threat. My dad was able form networks with VC's after attending a few parties hosted by a friend of his. Everyone there was in a couple. The hosts made it clear this was not a party for singletons. I don't actually believe that all marriages are doomed to failure, the majority simply are because of the quality of people involved; Chumps who marry women who've taken enough dick to last several lifetimes because they had no options available to them.

oldslut · 2016-10-09T18:21:36+00:00

tax breaks :):):):) yeah, add those breaks up on to how much you lose after you get divorce raped. sounds like a great value. she is grabbing at straws. don't say you weren't warned.

GC0W30 · 2016-10-09T23:34:42+00:00

The tax benefits only exist if you are a serious earner and her job isn't very good.

If you're both broke or you're both well-paid, the only financial upside if social security "widow's" benefits or POTENTIALLY savings by putting him or her on the other's insurance.

It's a terrible gamble.

MattyAnon · 2016-10-10T00:33:03+00:00

So...are there any benefits to being married?

Not for men, no.

I admit part of me has a romanticized view of marriage

You and the rest of the undivorced world.

ammo to use the next time this topic comes up. If it means the end of the relationship,

You don't need ammo. Just say no. Your money, your choice.

[deleted] · 2016-10-10T01:50:46+00:00

One of my plates recently divorced her husband after 15 years.. Aside from child support and alimony, she gets half of his retirement pension for the rest of her life.. He's not retired yet. He will have to start a new career to make up for the lose.

Velebit · 2016-10-10T03:22:50+00:00

Marriage is used to monopolize someone. If you want to do it. It says to other person I am fully committed to only you.

Don't marry unless you make a very solid prenup and put your assets in shelters in legal matters. You need to make marriage only a piece of paper. Than it makes sense. There are only symbolic benefits to marriage, however if you want a family and a lot of children it makes sense that will not happen unless you are married.

[deleted] · 2016-10-10T13:33:09+00:00

Girlfriends are for loving, wives are for having children with.

The fact that the second point is no longer culturally relevant should tell you the worth of marriage as a social institution.

"I need feminism to perpetuate a free love society with no fault divorce." Fncking bitches only costs as much as you feel like punishing yourself.

Willow-girl · 2016-10-09T18:33:34+00:00

Don't get married unless you're madly in love, can't picture life without her, and she won't settle for anything less. It's just not worth it otherwise.

There are ways you can take care of some potential legal issues via a will, power-of-attorney, and naming each other as beneficiaries on bank accounts, etc. There are some things you just can't have short of marriage, such as the right to leave Social Security benefits to your partner. How much that matters probably depends on your individual circumstances. Same goes for taxes. For instance, in my state, if a husband and wife own property together and one spouse dies, the other inherits the house (etc.) without owing any inheritance taxes. If they're not married, the survivor has to ante up a 15% tax to the state! But that's not really an issue if you're renters.

onmyownpath · 2016-10-10T04:16:23+00:00

Stop arguing about it with her. No amount of talking with change your positions and only makes you look weak.

Just say "OK" and continue on with what you are doing.

Title	What exactly are the perks of marriage?
Author	Walkabeast
Upvotes	22
Comments	73
Date	October 9, 2016 3:24 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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