get out of the house... how to?

Over60_FireTempered3 · 2021-04-30T01:12:26+00:00

Get kids and wife settled - don't leave her in a lurch.

Grab keys and wallet. Say you're going for a drive. Ignore odd looks, and leave quietly.

Just do it. Then do it again.

PutABabyInThat · 2021-04-30T00:34:25+00:00

it would raise some odd looks

Odd looks... yeah those are the worst. Gotta avoid those at all costs.

business----travel · 2021-04-30T01:17:38+00:00

my wife and I both work from home

I work during the day

You are telling me that you can't get out of the house for an hour during your day? I call bull shit on this. I have always worked from home and if I want, I can make time to get the fuck out of the house. Get out for an hour, grab a coffee, and go walk through some stores and practice catch and release. There are really no excuses here...

Tyred_Biggums · 2021-04-30T01:18:01+00:00

The other night I wanted ice cream.

“I’m going out”. Came back with ice cream.

Step 1) open door Step 2) leave house

SteelSharpensSteel · 2021-04-30T13:05:44+00:00

Here's a thought exercise for you. List out 10 activities right now that you can go do out by yourself.

BarracudaRP · 2021-05-01T14:26:58+00:00

I was like you, OP. I did not have a habit of leaving the house or doing interesting things on my own, so it seemed strange at first to be absent from my family, especially without an explanation.

I started small - "I'm going to the gym, be back later." Not a DEER, not asking for permission - but not going full retard and disappearing for several hours, as if I was trying to make a point. The goal is making an interesting life that gets you out of the house, not getting a response from our wives.

I looked up social networking events, made plans with old friends, and joined men's groups. I started going to concerts and festivals - with friends or alone. It wasn't long before I realized that doing things on my own was natural, good for me, and the issues that prevented me from doing so were mainly in my own head, not even my wife's.

sicrm · 2021-04-30T00:34:37+00:00

open up your phone.

look at what’s around.

pick somewhere that grabs your interest.

put one foot in front of the other.

ancient_resistance · 2021-04-30T16:13:38+00:00

how to explain it

Don't.

I told my wife I'm taking friday evenings to myself. she gets Tuesdays. it's not even a question, everyone knows Fridays are daddy's night off.

Rifleshoot · 2021-04-30T14:54:28+00:00

I don't know if I'm the only one that's thinking this, but isn't leaving the house specifically to get into your wife's head kind of lame? I think the point is to begin building the kind of life where you always have something else that you can be doing apart from your wife. Just going out to get into her head just reeks of covert contracts/dancing monkey. The question shouldn't be "how do I get out of the house to add mystery", but rather what sort of things can I do when I'm out of the house to build a better life? Your wife's response to this shouldn't even play a role in your decision making.

You could take up MMA, go lift weights (which you should be doing anyway), join a city sports league, take classes for a hobby you are interested in, learn to hunt, whatever. The point is that you are building a life that you get fulfillment out of. The fact that she finds that attractive is just a bonus.

jdogworld · 2021-04-30T01:29:35+00:00

hausofedd · 2021-04-30T13:23:29+00:00

After reading the comments I think I may have had the meaning of the post wrong.

Tactically yes get out of the house but was the point to foster an identity, life,frame that is independent from the wife? Mystery would be part of that but not really the main point.....

zerocool0124 · 2021-04-30T12:55:01+00:00

Why are you worried about going out, with a newborn at home? Your wife just had a baby, whatever problem you’re trying to solve here is probably directly related to that, and your new mysterious drives, gym and ice cream runs for the sake of being out of the house are just going to create problems. Don’t try to be someone you’re not, take care of your baby and be home with your family.

Livecrazyjoe · 2021-04-30T03:18:25+00:00

No gyms open? There's got to be an open air gym doing something outside.

HoedownInBrownTown · 2021-04-30T13:08:36+00:00

So the idea is to be a bit mysterious by just going out the houee for a bit then returning?

Title	get out of the house... how to?
Author	hausofedd
Upvotes	20
Comments	63
Date	April 30, 2021 12:18 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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