How to deal with people asking me to get married?

vandaalen · 2016-11-03T21:20:10+00:00

Amused mastery.

Just keep joking about it. You could even become alittle bit sexist if you know how to serve it right.

Anything from "Couldn't find any I can afford." to "Ah no. I am not ready to give up blowjobs." Depends on your audience, if they are male or female and in what circles you are moving around.

I sometimes also come back a little bit cocky like "That would clearly not be fair to all the other women out there."

It's all about the presentation and you frame. Serve it with a wink and you can get away with almost everything.

blackedoutfast · 2016-11-03T21:43:23+00:00

a guy i know told me i should get on eharmony because he knows a lot of dudes who found their wives through internet dating. i told him thanks but i'm having fun being single and not really ready to settle down right now. i didnt tell him that his wife is one of my plates.

diocesence · 2016-11-03T23:34:41+00:00

Brush it off, you get the same with kids, house, car, yacht etc; depending on the circle of people you're speaking to there's always something 'you'll change your mind about'. Answer with some romanticised platitude and graciously decline their invitation to set you up, they'll eventually stop trying. Alternatively, let them set you up, pump and dump her and that too will stop them trying.

Cunt_Robber · 2016-11-03T23:09:29+00:00

look down nostalgically "Heh, I guess I still haven't found the one" and go about your business.

The__Tren__Train · 2016-11-03T23:39:34+00:00

Depends on who I'm with...

If my friends pester me about marriage, I'll say something like "I'd rather put my dick in a bear trap."

If with family or acquaintances, I'll usually just play it off and say that I "haven't found the right girl yet."

nastynickdr · 2016-11-04T00:24:56+00:00

"Yeah sure i do"

"Still looking for that special someone"

The mindset is: give zero fucks. You dont need to explain/justify your decisions to anyone. No need to get mad about it.

MindfulStoic · 2016-11-04T01:30:27+00:00

Why does it matter what people say to you about this? Comments like those shouldn't have any affect on you. Laugh it off, give a wise ass response, ignore them, whatever.

But stop giving so many fucks about what others think about how YOU should be living YOUR life.

bigk12345 · 2016-11-04T02:55:13+00:00

If it is a chick I know fairly well

" It is because you are taken"- with a sly smile on my face.

White knights/ Betas/ Office environment

" it is because I have not found the right one yet"

Usually they just say some shit like "Do not sorry . You will find out"

Just smile and move on. No damage done. Remember : you do not owe anyone a thing.

rpisnotpua · 2016-11-05T20:08:07+00:00

They're just dumb people being dumb. Bringing up the first conversation topic that comes to mind. Not aware that they're being offensive, or maybe just don't care. Either way, they just want a connection with you, and they're too dim to make one themselves, so they ask you to give them all of the answers instead.

Once you make them happy and solve one problem, they'll just come up with something else. realize they're not challenging you, they're just looking for stimulation.

imagine if everyone just wanted to talk about the weather with you. you'd start to hate the weather, because it's what boring people talk about.

you can use amused mastery and turn it into complaining about your (ex?)gf, so they complain about their spouse, and you take turns. connection. plus, maybe they learn something about the opposite sex. has to be done in a joking manner, or you both look bitter.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-11-04T01:07:41+00:00

A. "It's not a race."

B. "I'm not going to get married just to 'get married'."

C. "My last gf found out I'm a Danish Prince and went full gold digger on me. I'm still recovering."

D. "Perhaps you might Mind YOUR OWN fucking business?"

Vicious43 · 2016-11-03T21:26:37+00:00

The right mindset would be to seek a partner. To get there you need to work on your beta status.

fpcp44 · 2016-11-04T03:50:22+00:00

Two approaches I hear:

Them:"How come you're not married?" Me: "We won't know that until after I'm married."

Them: "We need to find you a girlfriend/wife." Me: "Do it. You have my number, right? Have them call me."

If they persist:

Me: "OK, let's leave it lie, here."

Done.

0kool74 · 2016-11-04T16:20:55+00:00

I tell them I'm not giving up skydiving. They've since stopped asking.

abcd_z · 2016-11-03T23:17:48+00:00

"You should settle down. You know, find a nice girl."

"Or, I could not do that, and suffer absolutely no negative repercussions from it."

"Well, don't you eventually want to settle down?"

"Not really."

"Why not?"

"I enjoy myself as I am. I get all the sex and snuggles I want, and there's nothing I could gain by settling down."

"But if you don't settle down, she'll eventually leave you."

"Maybe. But even if she does leave, I still have other options."

bigfission · 2016-11-04T00:06:43+00:00

"Did you just assume my relationship preferences?"

You get to turn it back on them and backhandedly shit on SJWs at the same time.

SmartLadyOnline43 · 2016-11-04T00:35:33+00:00

I hear the same shit and I am a woman and frankly I am sick to death of hearing that crap. Who would want to be married to a man or a woman (for a man) who has to listen to negative shit day in and day out?

Don't get married boys, guys, whatever. Heed you own advise PLEASE!

I knew at an early age around 15, that I never wanted to marry or have children and I have stuck to that decision for all these years now and I am 44. It has spared me a great deal of dreadfulness.

So once again let me reiterate your own sentiments.......DO NOT GET MARRIED. I am trying to advise you and give counsel to save yourselves from much trouble! And the next time someone asks you when you are getting married, tell them when "Elvis lands on the moon" and walk away. Use sarcasm

You do not owe them or anyone an explanation for your personal choices. It is none of their business period.

fcb98292 · 2016-11-04T00:39:30+00:00

Say NO. Again and again and again.

Willow-girl · 2016-11-04T04:41:44+00:00

Tell them that your member is so huge that every time you attempt intimacy with a woman, she runs screaming into the night!

Title	How to deal with people asking me to get married?
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Date	November 3, 2016 8:42 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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