You MUST take the Lead

TheSunshineMan · 2021-06-22T17:48:44+00:00

REAL game will outperform JUST looks - 99% of the time.

You're better off being the ridiculous 'talks to everyone' borderline crazy IDGAF nutcase with game - then the boring hot guy with no game.

swallowthisnut · 2021-06-22T15:31:32+00:00

This is all well & good but highly specific to night game and environments where you dance.

If you like to dance - that’s fine, but you don’t need to dance to get girls.

Be assertive & direct. Lead. Be confident. Spike her emotions (whether they’re good or bad doesn’t really matter). That’s pretty much all there is to it.

sarmstro1968 · 2021-06-22T15:27:35+00:00

Fair enough... so any tips on dance moves then?

Itshardtofindanametf · 2021-06-22T19:10:51+00:00

I’m pretty new in my stoicism journey but I don’t get why being a stoic makes you not a fun person who can not dances to songs because he’s a stoic. I think it’s just you using stoicism to justify your current personality which is very much dynamic and in your control.

godsbestgift · 2021-06-22T21:22:36+00:00

Its a fine strategy but for you personally, its a crutch. You probably won't be able to keep a girl as long as you like, especially the one youd want to keep the most. What youve described yourself as, is boring but the strategy you're advising is "fun". if you can move your body to have fun, why cant you use your head / words to have fun. I'm sure you have your moments but they're probably far between. The thing about dancing is if you drop your anxiety / insecurities and just move your body to the music, you can really convey your soul to other people and its a really attractive quality. if you can dance, you can definitely unleash your shadow(repressed) personality traits. The thing is as you slowly release what you fear to be, you may find that people (and women) LOVE this side of you. Everything is a skill you can develop. Your post is fine and helpful towards people like you but you can definitely become more than this! Most quiet people arent gonna make dancing their go-to move but to some who have acquired the skill, maybe youve just inspired them. trp is all about acquiring tools for your toolbox and making use of them, this is a great tool you dropped, good post

ReeeeDrumpf · 2021-06-22T17:12:00+00:00

The stoic look only works for chad. Girls will approach him because he's handsome and mysterious. Would explain why it didn't work for you :p

wolflion20 · 2021-06-22T16:16:35+00:00

this is on point but still some rookie shit. In my experience, when you start dancing and then approach women, they usually reject you. Just start dancing and vibing, and women will come up to you when they are interested. You HAVE to wait for them to come up to you. Every time I've been laid by a random woman from a bar, they always approached me first while I was dancing. Don't dance like you're trying to impress anyone though, just dance enough that looks like you're vibing.

basedmtl · 2021-06-22T16:59:33+00:00

underrated post. People around these parts have boners for "stoic alphas chads" and don't realize that being the life of the party makes you more likeable. Good job explaining that in your post

mr4kino · 2021-06-22T15:11:08+00:00

Dance so you can get girls. Damn the weakness we read nowadays.

actusTragicus · 2021-06-22T21:17:15+00:00

That's not being stoic in the first place. Lmao.

Jovan1000 · 2021-06-23T02:43:08+00:00

Take lead yes. This can translate outside of the club.

lazychairmen · 2021-06-23T09:59:11+00:00

You’re saying asking to dance makes you a pack leader, lad it’s not that deep. They were attracted to you being fun and genuine. Not because you’re an alpha taking charge

Be confident and fun.

Cazarosta · 2021-06-22T20:36:47+00:00

Only women, slaves, and queers have danced throughout history

special_k_5 · 2021-06-22T15:52:47+00:00

Great post, truly. Well said

Justawildslushie · 2021-06-22T15:26:43+00:00

Some women don't like to talk to people they don't know so this doesn't work on everyone

zino193 · 2021-06-22T16:57:42+00:00

If you have good moves, it works. Happy to hear it works for you. The stoic Grumpy Face is a real issue for me too - and I'm not even a stoic.

My cope with this is just to be really talkative and apreciative of people - mostly being social around lounges or outside in the smokiing areas. Most people luckily don't go out to dance, but to talk and meet new people.

NexusReflexX · 2021-06-22T19:36:29+00:00

I myself am also a stone cold stoic/introvert. I have plenty of fun in my own way. Being a wordless stoic may not be the life of the party, but we will provide the party of life through our actions, not our words.

Being a stoic doesnt mean you dont have fun. It just means the fun you have doesnt require the attention of others to validate your fun.

For all of you who are also introverts/stoics, your actions speak volumes. When you do use words, they are meaningful and people who are invested in you will hang onto your words as they are a rare commodity.

Never be afraid of speaking through your actions, as it is more polarizing than words.

PushOrganic · 2021-06-23T04:57:58+00:00

OP is projecting insecurity. I’m sure your friend thinks he’s better looking than you too and has results to back it up

Plenty_good_stuff · 2021-06-27T01:18:34+00:00

i disagree man. i used to think that way, trying to change my personality in order to engage women more. I call it clown game. I used to have a friend who was good at that and i didn't have much success with it. Things changed when i actually embraced who i am, a stoic, condescending, not very talkative, macho, misogynistic, borderline jerk. The difference though, i have a natural propensity to lead. Hell I once got a chick in a club by telling her that I'm a sultan and that she should obey me if she wanted to get with me, and no i won't buy her a drink, she could exploit those chumps hovering around her and then join me when she's ready for a real man (which she did). also i didn't dance. I found the key with women is to be unapologetic about who you are, you are not here for them, they are here for your pleasure, their thoughts and feelings don't matter, only you and your purpose do, so if she wants to be part of this, she's welcome, if not another chick will and she can go find herself a chump.

Title	You MUST take the Lead
Author	Sub_Tenor
Upvotes	269
Comments	58
Date	June 22, 2021 1:53 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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