After 8 years since the divorce, I am considering marriage again.

delongpike · 2019-10-15T13:48:39+00:00

Word here from a guy who has been married 3 times, and am now getting divorced again, think long and hard before committing. I was previously old school, had to fill that "provider role".

Second and third marriages fail at a very high rate. If marriage were the equivalent of a motor vehicle accident - your doctor would tell you to make out a Will before getting married again.
Women file for divorce 70% of the time. No matter how many times she reassures you, it is BS, she has been conditioned to tell you whatever it takes to get you in the saddle.
I don't need to tell you divorce is a racket that heavily favors the female and has govt backing, do I?
Do you really want your retirement claimed by lawyers, the state and your ex-wife?

As it stands, I was due to retire comfortably next year but will now be working until I die. I am losing the house I worked so hard on, and have been "zero'd out" by friends and family. What did I do wrong? Nothing, worked hard, was good to my wife and planned for the future. Step carefully.

vabab8 · 2019-10-15T16:10:06+00:00

Go to r/marriedredpill and get straight. Become the captain and stop being a drunk captain. Everything will be wonderful, better than you can imagine.

FlourishedCass · 2019-10-15T14:14:53+00:00

Just have an unofficial event if you're that set on a gesture of commitment. If she insists that you have to go legal and sign on the dotted line, ask yourself why she wants you to do that?

You're home free; you've cashed out. Why put yourself back at square 1 again?

XJR555 · 2019-10-15T14:05:38+00:00

Don't do it - learn from the mistake.

Has she hinted at it out of curiosity? I bet she has hasn't she. ;)

Whitefarmer · 2019-10-15T14:25:06+00:00

What will a contract with the government or your church do to make your life better? Keep your girl on her best behaviour and don’t sign your life away to her

CrazySmooth · 2019-10-15T20:36:26+00:00

Why marry? Will she leave unless u commit to giving her half of everything you own and alimony until show dies or gets remarried?

random1234asdfzxcv · 2019-10-15T14:58:13+00:00

You are probably a much different and hopefully much better person than you were in.m the first marriage. And if you are thinking so much about this you are probably a bit self aware and capable of change. So do not worry so much.

I agree with other comments. Unless you have a kid together there is not much logical reason to add marriage to a relationship. But there are other reasons that may favor you becoming “Man and Wife”. If you guys decide that is the way to go, then just make sure to have a much less expensive meeting with lawyers before the marriage and get some prenup agreements in place.

CoatedWinner · 2019-10-15T19:36:51+00:00

Im not religious so I understand motivations differ person to person. But for me, I didnt really have any reason to get married the first time. Turns out I was right (worst I told you so ever).

Now I dont think there could be any amount of motivation to do it again. Though in Colorado, common law is recognized and if I found myself living with another woman for long enough, she could force a divorce even without being married. Though it's apparently more diffiult in that case.

I honestly think if another person and I got to the point of living together, Id have her sign a prenup just to not have to deal with it again, marriage or no marriage. But I dont have any outside reason to get married again.

Keep in mind if you do really want to get married, you can both sign a prenup to protect you in any case of divorce and file it at the same time you get your marriage license. That way if you divorce again itll be quick and relatively painless, legally speaking.

JasonToo · 2019-10-16T06:35:43+00:00

hustlors · 2019-10-19T22:12:08+00:00

Men need to stand together and abolish the institution of marriage the same way women did for equal rights or me too. Its bullshit and we get screwed. Not in the good way either.

DoubleGunzChippa · 2019-10-24T20:37:59+00:00

You don't need a piece of paper to validate your love and devotion to someone, especially if that piece of paper gives them carte blanche to take half your shit if you don't live up to the expectations they place on you.

2019-10-15T17:22:35+00:00

Seriously, I'm not just talking bad about women, but in this day and age, you've lost your fucking mind.

Edit: Seems a bitter old woman (or Jennifer) is reading this thread!

Kwen_Oellogg · 2019-10-15T15:50:08+00:00

What will you gain by marriage that you don't have now? Nothing.

What does she have to gain by marriage that she doesn't have now. Half of everything you own.

Chose wisely.

Good luck brother

Title	After 8 years since the divorce, I am considering marriage again.
Author	Bertieland
Upvotes	7
Comments	44
Date	October 15, 2019 1:37 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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