“How to date any man”

SkepticalQs · 2021-05-31T11:50:32+00:00

Absolutely love this take on the stupid post on r/TwoXChromosomes

D0wnVoteMe_PLZ · 2021-05-31T10:20:30+00:00

Me looking for a girfriend:

Exists
Not 2D
Alive

I hope that's not too much to ask.

scaredofshaka · 2021-05-31T12:53:35+00:00

As I guy, meeting girls that strategise to get relationships make me run away instantly. All that thing about playing hard to get, not having sex until x number of dates, laying down the rules from the start, etc are just red flags for a manipulative women.

On the other hand, all my long term relationship have started by relatively slutty situations: a girl that would kiss me out of nowhere, one that I met at a swinger club, an awesome Tinder "one night stand" (that turned into a 4 years and counting).. I find women that are open minded and ready to go with the flow incredibly attractive. A few good experiences with someone and I just want to see her more.

Stachbl13 · 2021-05-31T10:18:10+00:00

Just find a therapist that won’t feed you false memories or post 1970s NARAL and pro feminist bullshit. You actually want to deal with the issue, not grow more.

Bleizik · 2021-05-31T11:35:12+00:00

I guess saying respect men is too short and too reductive.

I would say, you gotta respect men choices, preferences, boundaries, values, views/opinions, perspectives, time.

You can date any man by respecting these, but you can't end in a relationship with any man by doing so. (Saying this because a lot of people assume respecting the other is enough to make them love you, no, sometimes they won't)

And you gotta respect that, that some men might not be attracted by you, or wants to be around you and so on.

That's also works for "how to date any women "

I think people need to understand all of these things about dating.

Edit : Typo

RunInRunOn · 2021-05-31T11:27:27+00:00

Great advice for any gender

DanteLivra · 2021-05-31T12:54:15+00:00

Why would you want to date "any" man. "Any" man won't be a good fit for you, just like "any" woman wouldn't be a fit for most people.

Just respect each others choices and the natural laws of love do it's thing.

Dating ain't suppose to be like a dollar menu at Mcdonalds where you are entitled to get anything you want, that apply to all genders.

Glittering_Stock6272 · 2021-05-31T09:06:59+00:00

Yup, solid advice right here.

SavageLinguist · 2021-05-31T14:19:40+00:00

I agree. I am female, but a conservative Christian (hate if you want, it doesn’t bother me). I read a book called “Love and Respect”, the gist of it being that men need respect and women need love. It thankfully goes on to provide examples and definitions of this as well as suggestions for improving one’s heterosexual christian marriage.

While the book is based on a few biblical verses, the majority is based on the writer’s experiences with his wife and the thousands of couples he’s counseled as a marriage councilor. This practical life advice and stories from real people make it worth the read for anyone, regardless of gender or religion.

I learned more about men from that book than I did from anything or anyone else. But I also learned that I don’t know a damn thing about men, so I’m reading some more books and expanding my friendships to include more guys.

Men truly are amazing and a delight to be around. So thank you, to all men

Train-HardFight-Easy · 2021-05-31T09:33:38+00:00

Mutual respect helps too...

Might need a spoiler alert lol

Thanks for sharing brother

yoitsericc · 2021-05-31T15:39:47+00:00

My 5 year relationship I overlooked a number of red flags because I came home from work to a hot meal and sex.

It really doesn't take much ladies. Stop getting in your own way.

PicklesAreMyFriends · 2021-05-31T13:24:07+00:00

How to get any man: Step 1, go outside.

EMPIREVSREBLES · 2021-05-31T17:29:28+00:00

r/FDS would like to have a word with you on how you are so wrong... Fucking incels in that subreddit and apparently paying 50-50 on a date as a man says you are a "low value male"... Fucking retards can't respect men and think that their FDS lifestyle will help them get a man...

ApprehensiveMail8 · 2021-05-31T17:36:53+00:00

How to get a woman:

Be horny and dumb. Make one bad choice.

That's literally all it takes.

380-mortis · 2021-05-31T18:59:15+00:00

Unpopular opinion: I disagree.

A relationship, even with respect from both parties doesn’t always work out due to one reason or another. People have criteria for a reason. Respect is something the vast majority seek but it is not the only thing that a relationship is built upon. Being respectful helps, but is not the only thing. This isn’t just for dating, it’s for relationships in general. Stuff like personality is also important, and mutual love matters a lot too.

LiberalCombatVet · 2021-05-31T19:03:41+00:00

We straight men as a rule are ridiculously easy to understand and make happy. Chris Rock in his stand up act put it best. "Ladies, want to make your man happy?" Feed us, f#ck us and occasionally stfu." What he means by stfu is when we just walked in the door, don't immediately barrage us with telling us about your day and expecting us to listen to you whine about how bad it sucked. Give us 15 minutes and a beer, so we can decompress and then we'll talk. Most men are literally that easy to make happy. You don't need a book, written by a woman mind you, to tell you what makes men tick.😅

auMatech · 2021-05-31T17:52:04+00:00

Respecting men will get you a man. It won’t get you “any” man. Why do need “any” man? That’s bizarre. And not respect.

This hits the nail on the head I think.

Wanting just a man? Why? Why any? That also generally leads to unrealistic expectations, which will poison the well per se for future relationships.

I mean, it's like setting the bar so low that you'd take literally any person with a dong. That can't be a good sign for either party.

And yeah, you get out what you put in, in most cases. Respecting the person you want to date often leads to being respected reciprocatively.

It must be pretty telling that if you have no standards, and no men will date you, that something is obviously very wrong... And not with the men who clearly have a good reason..

Also these arguments can definitely be applied to both genders, it's just that in the status quo, men generally don't have the luxury to be in those situations

xcinxcin · 2021-05-31T23:54:32+00:00

exactly. honestly, saying any man is not good. At the very least sexual attraction is important in an intimate relationship. And time - no one can’t do it if they’re tired and especially if they don’t make the time. Aim high, but sexual attraction should be based on your personal kinks or what you’re OBSESSED with in physical traits for a partner.

or simply finding a partner that you can grow to “love”.

Title	“How to date any man”
Author	dotan2
Upvotes	383
Comments	55
Date	May 31, 2021 7:53 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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