"What I, as a women, need from a man..."

slong35 · 2021-04-19T00:47:49+00:00

Thank you for this! :) my family has a pretty bad self deprecation habit so that’s something I really do struggle with. I don’t respect myself because I don’t feel like I deserve it. This support, recognition, empathy, and respect is exactly what men need from women.

peter_venture · 2021-04-19T00:19:58+00:00

Too bad that society's expectations are pretty much the opposite.

SirCrackwax · 2021-04-19T01:47:38+00:00

It seems so simple and basic but I've never seen it myself. It makes a lot of sense. Thank you. I need to save this.

HungryLikeTheWolf99 · 2021-04-19T01:02:58+00:00

I'll preface this by saying it's off-topic.

Can someone explain the trend of people using 'women' in place of the singular 'woman'? I swear I see 'women' more often on Reddit to denote a singular person than 'woman'. Why?

I'm not a men. Why is she a women? Makes no sense. And given the prevalence, it doesn't seem to be an autocorrect issue.

-P5ych- · 2021-04-19T14:04:22+00:00

I think you have good words and thank you for what you have written. I know I try to become a better man everyday and to learn to care and love myself more to that end. But I must say it feels so hard in this society that seems like it hates me for who I am no matter what I do. I look out sometimes and wonder what's the point? I try very hard to push those thoughts to the side, to not let that get to me, but it is difficult.

I hope that if I should be lucky enough to find a women who thinks as you, I should be complete in myself so as to be my best for them.

Andynnos · 2021-04-20T11:55:15+00:00

When I think that 10, 20 years ago this was the norm, in which relationships were based on mutual trust makes me sad. Now we have this long shopping lists. A relationship meant that when you were sick there was someone there holding your hand, bringing a glass of water and the medication to treat what you had. Now sex is just physical exercise and love is how much you can provide and what you provide. Our western culture will crumble if this continues. I tried dating recently and my experience was either easy sex or a long list of demands.

mikesteane · 2021-04-19T04:33:20+00:00

And do you have anything to offer? Or didn't that occur to you?

UnconventionalXY · 2021-04-19T04:30:19+00:00

None of this makes any logical sense: it sounds like the woman is completely dependent on what the man does without any of her own autonomy.

I have heard about a different argument that says we can only love others if we love ourselves first, but this seems more about only loving others if they love themselves.

"You could save me from a horrible plane crash, but if you dont put on your own oxygen mask first, I can't truly be happy with you."

The rationale is the most competent member needs to put on their mask so they are in a position to help themselves and thus others. It applies mainly to parents and children: if children are attempted to be saved first, all may perish. It's a practical, rational arrangement that has nothing to do with happiness. Unfortunately there is a tendency for humans to act on emotion rather than rationality and save the ones they love. They have that choice, but it isn't taking place at a rational level.

Frosty-Gate-8094 · 2021-04-19T06:05:15+00:00

The real problem today is not that men do not respect themselves...

Men do respect themselves plenty.

The real issue of MRM is that the society, as a whole, doesn't respect men.

Boys from the age of 4 yrs are taught to 'man up' and 'respect others'.
There is no moral or legal support to men when they are wronged by women (mother, wife, random coworker, doesn't matter who).

But when things start to go South, and world starts falling apart... The society goes back to the same men and start virtue signalling about being the bigger person, helping women and children. The importance of sacrifice... yada yada....

We are tired of these double standards..either give us our deserved equal rights within the society, or we will find a place that gives us those rights..

Virtue signalling will not work forever. If the society continues on this path, one day will come when it will run out of men who are willing to sacrifice themselves, at a time when society needs it the most..

Pray that day never comes. But if, and when it does, there can only be only one outcome.

maxlvb · 2021-04-19T03:59:50+00:00

IOW it's ALL about what men can and have to do for you....

Tell me, what can YOU do for any man you want in your life?

Where's your support????

Feminists and women need to stop holding men to standards they're personally unwilling to meet.

ludicrous_life · 2021-04-19T11:17:08+00:00

the fact that you have to clarify that this isnt a hate post is sad to me, it really reveals how much people like to hate for no reason

oedipusplatypus · 2021-04-19T00:13:11+00:00

Why is this here?

bsaylor23 · 2021-04-19T09:43:58+00:00

*woman

babaletta · 2021-04-20T12:21:58+00:00

Wtf you on about?

DubsPackage · 2021-04-20T19:05:50+00:00

Liberal society does all it can to beat down men, physically, socially, economically, culturally, there is no ascpect of life where the state with all of its power and money, harvested from us, doesn't use that power and money to denigrate us, from morning to sunrise they curse our name on TV, newspaper, video, radio, and the only way to "argue" with that is to distance ourselves from society, alienate ourselves to where we aren't even part of society anymore.

Liberals do this to avoid culpability for their own urban nightmares that have devolved into heaving cesspools, conflating gangbangers and drug dealers with "men" to avoid naming the problem, and to avoid admitting that all of their last 40 years worth of policies have failed.

As we withdraw from their society, they become the only voice to enact draconian and dystopian laws and policies against men, and yet still women are harassed, beaten and raped in these liberal utopias, adding further calls for misandry and denigration.

Instead of admitting that their way of life doesn't work, hasn't worked, they double-down with endless stupidity, 72 genders, and defunding the police (because that's gonna help rape statistics for sure.)

We as men, all we can really do is watch this country burn to the ground as we prepare for the zombie apocalypse.

You are right of course, a man has to value himself, take care of himself, etc etc before anybody else can love him.

My advice to women is to get out of big cities. Anything 50-100 miles of a big city is gonna become a deathtrap.

Hold your nose and vote R, I don't care if you believe in abortion or not, just do it. I don't agree with everything in the Republican party, and frankly they're a bunch of chodes, but they're the only thing resembling common sense in this country.

The system tries to make men and women hate each other, it tries to divide us.

But we know better.

Men and women of quality KNOW that we are each other's half.

Dylbo2008 · 2021-04-20T20:02:35+00:00

Wow its just great to know that there are women who do seek out equality for men as well I think that there should be a subreddit caleed true equality for people who well seek true equality

Title	"What I, as a women, need from a man..."
Author	PoolOfAlpacas
Upvotes	119
Comments	52
Date	April 19, 2021 12:08 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/mtouur/what_i_as_a_women_need_from_a_man/
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