I fucking hate that girls can kiss me even tho i have clearly told her that i dont want to. But if the roles were switched around i would be in big trouble

Kiky93 · 2021-02-13T07:57:29+00:00

This is awful. Also, if you had pushed her away, you'd be the dick. Sucks man, I'm sorry you have to experience this bullshit.

Huffers1010 · 2021-02-13T09:43:13+00:00

I'm middle-aged and ugly, and even then it doesn't stop.

I'm not American but it's worse in places like California where the culture is very - how can I put it - touchy-feely. Not only is it inappropriate from my point of view, but any time your body touches a woman's body you are at risk of being accused of abusing her, no matter who initiated it.

My policy is that whenever I see someone coming in for the hug I just hold out a hand to shake, but often they walk straight past it - "oh, c'mere!"

In your position, as a youngster, I would fend her off while touching her as little as possible, certainly only on her arms, and clearly state that you don't welcome the physical contact. Be aware that you risk being accused of assaulting her regardless of how careful you are; yes, there's nothing you can do about this other than ideally do it in front of witnesses and be as gentle as you reasonably can. If at all possible, simply hold your hands up in a gesture of surrender, which allows everyone else to see where your hands are and that they're nowhere near her, and back away from her. Remain calm, use a calm, serious tone of voice an don't become agitated. If she persists, ideally find evidence or a friend who will corroborate your story, and report it as sexual harrassment.

makosh22 · 2021-02-13T10:52:08+00:00

Girls also have no right to violent you to kissing. It's just the same. But as long as "all boys want it" theory is in action - they don't think that any boy could be against kissing any girl.

I don't know what to do here... I am woman and have two sons (8 and 6 now) and i wonder what to tell them about it. It's easy to say "never break other's boundaries" but really to do in this case when your boundaries are being broken and punch is not an option?

The first that came into my mind: say smth "You're ugly - don't want to kiss it!", but at the same time i wonder what consequences it might have.

Probably start filming? You know, like evidence of sexual harassment (and it IS harassment) .

I am really confuse.

AdikaHUN0328 · 2021-02-13T10:37:36+00:00

I am a teenager and when i was a kid i watched fairy god parents or what was the name. There was a girl character, who loved our protagonist timmy and always sexualy harrassed him. And it was not portrayed as something creepy, but rather goofy and funny. Altough our protagonist loved the popular girl, he never stalked her.

Reddit1984Censorship · 2021-02-13T07:37:31+00:00

Yep feminism.

Kloudzee · 2021-02-13T11:16:27+00:00

Exactly, that is not about equality in that way, my friend. Once women start realizing that equality does not mean what they think it means (for most, the blame lands on the current movement on forgetting their actual purpose), and once enough get their hands slapped and thoroughly accused of doing the same thing, maybe they'll start realizing that this is not equality.

The fact is, male or female, we each have a right to be free with the exception that it ends at the next persons nose

Just my 2 cents...

xtos_ · 2021-02-13T08:34:04+00:00

That sucks eh

1320Hunan · 2021-02-13T14:36:50+00:00

The same shit happened to my friend one of the hoes on my bus kept on sexually harassing my friend by trying to touch his dick and he went home crying and his mom found out and went to the school and called the police and they couldn't charge her because there was no evidence smh.

Alex_the_pyro · 2021-02-13T14:54:44+00:00

Next time say something on their weight or look disgusted,

Note: this is the nuclear option, don't expect a friendship with a girl if you do this but it will probably work if you want to get her off your ass

hendrixski · 2021-02-13T15:51:24+00:00

Record them either admitting to it or doing it (audio only is enough) then bring it to every adult you know and use words like "sexual abuse" and "assault".

PoolOfAlpacas · 2021-02-14T05:25:16+00:00

Its unfortunate how common this is. But its seen as okay because it's a woman doing it.

2021-02-13T14:23:08+00:00

women have gotten too much freedom

SpacelessChain1 · 2021-02-13T16:31:08+00:00

The first things that came to mind were face coverings. I’m sure she’d try to pull them off but it’ll give you something between you and her.

pappo4ever · 2021-02-13T17:21:46+00:00

Big trouble is a understatement. If you kiss a girl at your job against her will, is not an exaggeration to say that your life as you know it might be over and you would be lucky to avoid jail time.

Fallout_of_Godzilla · 2021-02-13T17:48:39+00:00

It should expected at this point.

HeartOfSky · 2021-02-13T17:51:19+00:00

Do you notice this kind of behavior in any other aspect of your life? Meaning... are there other scenarios where people routinely disrespect and ignore your boundaries as a person? Or, are these girls an isolated experience?

pinjooo · 2021-02-13T17:53:09+00:00

I wonder if you explicitly and publicly call it "harassment" it would have an effect? Even just enough to embarass them enough to stop.

I am sorry that you are dealing with this :(

dukunt · 2021-02-13T18:08:29+00:00

Get witnesses and charge them with sexual assault. As a guy you'll need witnesses. If you were a girl your word would be enough to send someone to prison. But as a guy you will need witnesses.

Neko404 · 2021-02-13T18:55:38+00:00

There isn't much you can do. I know the prevailing thought for if the genders were reversed would be to physically assault them but you don't get that opportunity.

SDF_Frozty · 2021-02-17T16:57:07+00:00

Record them doing that, get as much proof as possible, then push her away, then when your friends get mad, show them the proof after the party. Don't use this in court though, I think that you might get in trouble for that. Only show recording to your friends, and not in front of the girl(s).

Rebzul · 2021-02-13T13:26:58+00:00

Well, I suppose you should punch them at this point, it'll make them stop and get your point across, even if it lands you in trouble.

SharqPhinFtw · 2021-02-14T13:10:17+00:00

Record everything and then push them away next time saying "stop sexually harassing me and trying to assault me" watch them go incredulous and try to explain it away, but the recording will show.

AreaAdministrative75 · 2021-02-13T08:14:41+00:00

i fucking HATE women dude. i mean, the touch of them: repulsive. i’d rather put a bunch of cock roaches in a blender and down that shit like i’m racing a 22 yo girl in a chug contest than ever touch, let alone kiss one. i pray for you. hopefully you didn’t get cooties.

FreeTapir · 2022-03-27T16:43:16+00:00

This isn’t ok. Tell this exactly this too. Use your words as much as you can and tell them what they are doing is called assault. You wouldn’t do it to them and they shouldn’t do it to you. I would actually tell the authorities or warn them that’s what you will do if they do it again. It’s illegal regardless of gender and we all know it.

Lostmyvcardtoafish · 2021-02-13T12:46:24+00:00

Weird flex

Title	I fucking hate that girls can kiss me even tho i have clearly told her that i dont want to. But if the roles were switched around i would be in big trouble
Author	SDF_Frozty
Upvotes	171
Comments	127
Date	February 13, 2021 7:31 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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