I was falsely accused of sexual harassment when I was 11

SnooCheesecakes4786 · 2020-09-23T02:47:42+00:00

Let that be a lesson: if accused of something, admit nothing, clam up, and ask for your parents and/or a lawyer. They may well try and intimidate you, and threaten you with the resource officer or threaten to search your belongings. In this case, state that you don't consent to any searches, seizures, or interviews, and demand to see your parents and/or a lawyer. If required, take out your phone and start recording. They may not like this but if they make a grab for your phone, that's out of line... it might be against school rules to record but teachers/school admins cannot use force against students except for in extreme immediate matters of physical safety.

autoeroticassfxation · 2020-09-23T03:41:25+00:00

I got interrogated for putting a box of chocolates in a girl's tote tray when I was 11. That was a tough lesson. Was really afraid of interacting with girls after that. It made it very clear that even a kind gesture from me was a bad thing. The more I hear women say how much they hate nice guys the more it makes sense.

As an adult, there was a guy at my local gym indulging in voyeurism and exhibitionism in the changing rooms. After the 3rd incident in as many days I had to complain to management, initially I was accused of creating a drama; to force them to take action I had to point out that they'd be taking it a lot more seriously if I were a woman, which actually really changed their attitude.

RaynareLove · 2020-09-23T01:20:05+00:00

my school also sucked but it wasnt as bad as yours. all i did was get in trouble for defending myself

Cheezyreddituser · 2020-09-23T05:02:40+00:00

In elementary a group of girls would grab our asses and we told some teachers and they literally said “Enjoy it while it lasts.”

PhilsMeatHammer · 2020-09-23T03:34:07+00:00

I literally did get sexually harassed in middle school and nobody cared. Two girls would always grab my ass on the bus in 6th grade and they along with their friends thought it was hilarious because I was an awkward, nerdy kid

Thats such bullshit you got falsely accused

muzzy250 · 2020-09-23T06:51:27+00:00

Same thing happened to me, I was 10 and I was stupid but nothing bad happened. Eventually I was brought into the head teachers office and spoke to, I told him my side but of course he didn't believe me. But as I was so young when it happened and I wasn't a bad kid he said nothing else would happen except telling my parents.

Fast forward being bullied the entirety of the remaining 6 years. Self harming, being punched and having my cheek and nose broken by the girls brother. And her admitting that nothing happened and refusing to write any statements about the incident my story is the one that the police, paramedics and all my future colleges and jobs will know.

The fact it took them 6 years and for me to be on the verge of suicide for them to actually care just proves that men's mental health and a boys mental state in a college doesn't mean shit to anybody

pilllogical · 2020-09-23T02:06:13+00:00

Your parents should have talked to a lawyer, if for no other reason to at least get some support for you on this and the best money can buy.

I am sorry you suffered this. Take care of yourself.

IoSonCalaf · 2020-09-23T01:14:46+00:00

Your parents agreed to have you apologize?

SuperiorFarter · 2020-09-23T06:11:31+00:00

Something similar happened to me when I was very young. Maybe I was 7 or 8 years old. I was sitting there eating lunch at school, when a teacher approached me with a girl. The girl was crying and the teacher was very angry, accusing me of "bopping the girl on the head". I had never spoken to or even noticed this girl before. I told the teacher that I didn't do it which made her even more enraged and she screamed at me to not do it again. Then they both walked away and I just sat there in shock, obviously not understanding what the hell was happening. About 5 minutes later the teacher came back, grabbed my arm and dragged me to the principles office. I walked in and the girl was sitting there crying being consoled by another teacher. The girl said I had continued to "bop her on the head" despite her begging me to stop. The principle and both teachers, all of them women, then took turns berating me, while the girl sat there and watched with perverse enjoyment. I was given some sort of punishment and sent home. As I walked out in disillusionment, the girl came and put her arm around me and said "I'm sorry I had to do that to you, but now we can be best friends, right?"

Mens_rights_matter2 · 2020-09-23T02:50:50+00:00

Stay wise young king. The world is stacked against you.

abaddon2025 · 2020-09-23T03:21:49+00:00

Friend of mine always says if police arrest you for anything, do nothing, don’t resist, don’t say anything except for the words ‘lawyer’.

Is I was your parent that’s what I would’ve done, no woman girl is going to cuck my son

Philosophipster · 2020-09-23T06:44:19+00:00

Jesus, they interviewed you as a minor without parents present? That’s so manipulative. Yet another double standard.

Imagine the genders reversed and a little 11yo girl being “interviewed” and judged and questioned. Waterworks and leniency would ensue. Parents would be called. Etc.

And people wonder why so many men grow up “acting tough” /smh

allias24 · 2020-09-23T07:11:21+00:00

In third grade. At recess my best friend found out I liked a girl and he told her friends. Her friends physically dragged her to a spot as so did mine. They tried to get us to kiss and I left. In third grade I didn’t even know what sexual harassment was. But the teachers saw and they stamped it on my forehead. They said they would escalate it unless I apologized to my entire class. The woman and her friends got no punishment while a kid with (autism and anxiety issues) had to stand in front of every kid he knew and apologize like a monster. I wish my parents had done something when I told them. I really wish they had. This will make me suffer forever.

ElegantDecline · 2020-09-23T09:27:00+00:00

She's going to turn into a full-on false accuser growing up. A young boy's life traumatized because someone wanted to be like that metoo actress they saw on TV that are so courageous and get interviews on shows and clips on youtube and articles written about them.

HeroWither123546 · 2020-09-23T04:13:33+00:00

When I was in 3nd grade, I had to speak to a cop because I accidentally threatened to rape a girl. Before I even knew what sex was. I meant to say something along the lines of "I'll get you to fall in love with me and we'll have a family some day!" but what I said was "I'll make you have kids with me some day"

girraween · 2020-09-23T07:55:00+00:00

Me too!! Well, I was 12.

I had a friend who had a crush on a girl. He told me to give her a letter he had written her. So our other friend and me did, gave it to her at her school desk. I didn’t hear much about it until I was called into the principals office. I had never really been in trouble ever. So I was trembling. Got brought in and the principal basically told us that what “we” had written in the note wasn’t nice. He also said that we had said some bad things to her. I had no idea what was in that note and I didn’t ever say anything bad to her. I do remember he read a little bit of it out, but I had no idea what it meant. You know when if you’ve never heard of something before, like a word or term, you don’t remember what it is because it’s a brand new word to you? It’s like if someone told you a Japanese word and told you to remember it as a native English speaker. You just wouldn’t be able to remember it.

So I had no idea what was in this note. All I knew was the principal was making us wait in his office until we confessed. I had no idea what I was confessing to. So he left the room and we just sat there, waiting it out.

My friend told me to just admit to it so we could get out of the office already. I said no at first, but gave in, as I usually did as a 12 year old.

So he came back in and we confessed to whatever was in that note. We weren’t allowed to go to the school disco and we had to write letters of apology.

To this day, being blamed for something I didn’t do gets me so angry and upset.

OwenPingu16 · 2020-09-23T06:12:11+00:00

I gets this is about sexism but the way schools deal with incidents is so bad. They just believe whatever the so called victim said

Ivebeengnomed · 2020-09-23T03:48:06+00:00

Sorry this happened to you man. The fact that you are telling this story is important, so people will know this kind of stuff happens and will work towards preventing it.

Wheedies · 2020-09-23T11:29:42+00:00

Reading this I’m more concerned that they wouldn’t investigate her home life, if something like that causes you to breakdown then it sounds like something extremely questionable is probably happening at hone to provoke it.

Hussam1X · 2020-09-23T06:07:44+00:00

Sorry that happened to you King, but that's the world we live in. Stay strong King

sneakyhog · 2020-09-23T07:54:06+00:00

Similar thing happened to me when I was around 8 or 9.

We had some event in the school in which high school girls performed something. Now, something happened(Probably a fight if I am not wrong) in our class which divided our class in to two(Talking only about boys) and so the group which I was in went to the washroom (Which was boy's washroom) and started discussing about the fight when suddenly a girl came out from the loo where she was changing and thought me and the other boys were watching the girls change and then she went and complained to the teachers.

Now I don't remember what happened afterwards but imagine 8/9 yr old kids got falsely accused of sexual harassment/assault

mindfulskeptic420 · 2020-09-23T08:39:21+00:00

Yup one of my male English teachers said he will offer you a ride home and wait for them to arrive, but under no circumstances would he offer someone a ride home in his car. That is the line he makes because he knows there has been some conniving college student who has abused some teacher in this manner. And he ain't playin that game

baxigamer22 · 2020-09-23T10:01:10+00:00

You don't have cameras in your school??

IronJohnMRA · 2020-09-23T11:43:17+00:00

In the end they had me apologize for something I didn't do.

I'm very sorry this happened to you. What they did was wrong.

martellthacool · 2020-09-23T04:17:43+00:00

This is wrongdoing. Don't give up young man

2020-09-23T04:25:02+00:00

I also disagree with the policies of my school. If that happened to me. I would be expelled and my parents will never take my side. A good habit to do is to just look at your phone/look down and move over when someone passes you in the hall. People have gotten expelled from my school

truckplane · 2020-09-23T04:52:22+00:00

Harsh. I mean the post title itself is ridiculous..... yet this is the world we live in today.
See if you can change schools, because this is just stupid.

Take care of yourself OP. We're with you.

baldestpianoman · 2020-09-23T05:06:41+00:00

nothing new here kid just stay strong and be prepare for everything

SuperManagement · 2020-09-23T10:23:19+00:00

Same! I am a freshman in highschool now and I switched school districts since then but I got falsely accused of that when I was in 6th grade. No evidence whatsoever. Because I didn't do it. There story changed 3 times

B3xIE · 2020-09-23T10:27:01+00:00

And in a few years, she will accuse a man of rape and his life will be ruined, women are more dangerous than men.. watch out.

corniergangrene · 2020-09-23T11:12:13+00:00

The fact that even young males are not exempt from such horrific treatment is shocking

King_Of_Green · 2020-09-23T05:10:54+00:00

This also happened to me, but earlier (3rd grade). I assume age is why I was punished by school but rather sent to principals. But my parent never believed I didn't do it and I was unfortunately punised by them

Neveah_Hope_Dreams · 2020-09-23T08:07:46+00:00

That's freaking disgusting. WTF?

I just can't get it with this world.

shymeeee · 2020-09-23T06:35:38+00:00

What is this country coming to? We have toxic adults teaching their kids to be toxic. I believe you!!!!! So sorry what you had to go though. Sounds like they ganged up on you in the principal's office. Hang in there and be careful. You shouldn't have to worry about such things at your age, but the times we live in necessitate males going out of their ways to avoid any contact or verbiage a female can use against us. I hope your parents are standing beside you............ Stay calm and don't let anger destroy your personality. Be well, kiddo.

Xx69bootyslayer69xX · 2020-09-23T14:48:44+00:00

Similar story except it happened to a friend in junior high (back when I had friends lol). Alright so we were just walking and then some bish just started spontaneously crying and claimed he hit her ass. All her friends claimed he did, yet they didn't let him have any and that's pretty fucked up.

ModsAreHellaCucks · 2020-09-23T14:57:30+00:00

Sorry this has happened to you, we are here to try and fight against this shit. As someone who has also been falsely accused I will fight so that men after us do not have to face this shit anymore.

dtyler86 · 2020-09-23T05:58:35+00:00

This happened to me in 6th grade. I snacked a girl in band class lightly on the ass with my music book. Didn’t think of it remotely sexually. In fact the girl was a sort of butch really tall bold girl, I’m a white dude. She didn’t care but her friend convinced her I sexually harassed her so I was called into the principles office. Spent Saturday on Halloween in detention. Following week I was given “honor student” award.. like they’re afraid to punish kinds or they do it to pacify the “victim” then apologize to the perpetrator? Makes no sense. Stupid.

jackjo937 · 2020-09-23T06:02:19+00:00

The worst part about all this is all the people who say stuff like this doesn't happen those people are the people who are letting stuff like this happen and when people speak up about stuff like this there called assholes and "the problem"

DragoonurHD · 2020-09-23T14:45:01+00:00

One teacher said that me elbowing a older girl when she had me in a head lock on the groin could've been sexual assault. You can't even defend yourself without being accused.

semajalvin11 · 2020-09-23T15:30:02+00:00

I know how you feel, the same same thing happened to me a few years back as well.

tryintofly · 2020-09-23T15:33:04+00:00

I remember in elementary school I had to write an apology to a girl whose pants I pulled down. I wasn't the one who did it.

And more importantly, he was only pretending to pull her pants down. I should've written a pretend note!

jairom107 · 2020-09-23T16:16:36+00:00

I remember one time in i think 3rd grade. I am overweight and with that my underwear would leave marks around under my stomach and they would itch. And i would try and scratch them secretly because it would annoy me and when i was a girl next to me saw and called our teachef over and told her that i showed her my penis. Apparently the other girl at the table said I did too and we were to write what happened at the event. So I wrote that i didn't do it and the two other girls said they saw me. So obviously they believed the girls and I got that on my record. So ya know that fucking sucks.

blaizken_420 · 2020-09-23T16:59:54+00:00

All the stories here are horrifying.

qizhNotch · 2020-09-23T13:48:45+00:00

You’re really lucky, in other countries they often beat the child severely and force them to write an apology letter for doing stuff like this. Any objection to the school’s decision is automatic expulsion.

RoyalRaccoon420 · 2020-09-23T17:53:26+00:00

I had a similar situation but instead I put my arms out (to catch myself instead of hitting my face on the ground), and accidentally took a girl down with me. (I tripped on her foot for nah of you wondering). And then she told my teacher and my teacher threatened to call the principal and/or police. I was 8 years old so this scarred me shitless. But the teacher was a feminist so what did I expect. Apparently the girl said that I grabbed her private parts and she was resisting. Which is not what happened, even my friends saw what happened cause the were with me when I fell.

BaelorsBalls · 2020-09-23T17:56:46+00:00

We need more male representation in primary schools. The only male at my elementary was gym coach.

assassinator1014 · 2020-09-23T18:05:39+00:00

I accidentally grabbed a girls ass playing kickball and she could care less. I’m very lucky she was a friend of mine.

2020-09-23T19:54:28+00:00

I was friends with a guy who was getting picked on by a girl in high school. She pants him in the hallway one day and in defense he shoved her on the ground. Guess who got suspended?

chicken_sammie · 2020-09-23T20:32:41+00:00

classic interaction with the school. 1. false, baseless accusation against a kid 2. kid's parents threaten to sue 3. school agrees to drop it if the kid apologizes for something they didn't do

Derpy_Frog238 · 2020-09-24T17:03:39+00:00

This comment section is just depressing. Seeing so many people being accused of Sexual Harassment when they were either in 2nd-7th grade. For 2nd-5th they shouldn't even know what sex was during that period. I know I didn't.

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kurkurkurkurkurkurku · 2020-09-23T10:08:41+00:00

People who associate with women which is pretty common tend to be feminine and simps

Title	I was falsely accused of sexual harassment when I was 11
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Date	September 23, 2020 12:14 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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