If you believe that:
a) forcing a woman to have a child she doesn't want is wrong
b) women who make the uni-lateral choice to have a child are entitled to benefits for the burden of having a child
it makes sense that a man who has a child against his will, by someone else's choice, should be entitled to even more benefits, right?
Or to break it down even more simply:
a) forcing a woman to have a child she doesn't want is wrong
b) forcing an unwanted, unnecessary, expensive burden on someone entitles them to compensation
c) doing something wrong and emotionally traumatizing to someone entitles them to seek payment for their emotional damages alone
Most people agree with all of the above, but completely backtrack if you switch the genders. It's just lunacy to me that forced-fatherhood is still considered to be something the man should pay for. It's an outdated system that is in and of itself sexist and if you are in favor of equal rights, you should want equal rights and responsibilities when it comes to the decision to have children.
People always want to focus on the fact that yes, her body is the pregnancy vessel, so it is her right to choose. I agree that the act of legally forcing a woman to evacuate her womb is a violation of her rights. But there are plenty of things where physically forcing you to do them would be a violation of your rights, which you should still be held liable for neglecting to do. If you don't think abortion is wrong, then this situation shouldn't be different from you choosing to adopt a problem dog and then having to pay when it kills the neighbor's livestock. It's an emotional cause to you, but you wanted it, and it caused expensive problems for other people. Now it's on you to pay them back.
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There's no reason to bring abortion into this discussion at all, other than maybe to off-hand acknowledge that, of course, gender equal reproductive rights would still include acess to abortion.
Every state already has "Safe Haven" law where it's feasible for a woman to legally abandon an unwanted child, no questions asked, no further obligations or redponsibilities, no "best interests of the child" handwave to try to justify violating her reproductive rights and force her to use her body to support the unwanted child.
Women already have "paper abortions".
Men should, too.
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That shouldn’t be the fathers problem. The woman had the child knowing the father didn’t want it. It should be her responsibility to now care for HER creation.
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It is not the child’s burden. The argument is that if the father doesn’t provide consent to reproduce, she bears that responsibility, just as if she were to take on any other debt. If she doesn’t want that debt, knowing the father is rescinding his paternal rights, she must abort.
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Legally speaking, men have no rights here. Even if he’s raped, he can be on the hook for child support.
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talking-about-trauma/201902/when-male-rape-victims-are-accountable-child-support
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I was directly responding to your statement that courts don’t rule that way. That’s not a shift.. and I agree with you, men have no legal option if they feel they can’t support a child, where women do. I feel that is wrong, and that the laws should change, but I know that’s not the case.
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It’s not the child’s burden to provide for himself
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