Should I get plastic surgery at the expense of my future child?

radioactivities9 · 2017-03-15T23:50:52+00:00

Sounds like it's a legit need for plastic surgery. There's no guarantees with kids. Formula doesnt kill them, you can get preggo at the same time as a friend and have her nurse, all kinds a shit. Worry about your self-esteem and getting a man.

teaandtalk · 2017-03-16T00:38:55+00:00

My sister had a breast enlargement and she was still able to breast feed (she had the implants understand the muscle). I know the surgery you're talking about is probably a little different but there's always a chance you could.

I breast feed my baby and there are women (myself included) who donate breast milk either through midwife networks or hospitals for mothers who want to give their babies breast milk but can't produce.

teaandtalk · 2017-03-15T23:46:38+00:00

At what point in the dating process are you showing them your breasts?

Shaela90 · 2017-03-16T09:26:09+00:00

I've got really small boobs. Like so small I need to wear a bra to actually give the impression there's something there. In the past I used to wear extra-padded bras always joking that I'm so open, I even take my boobs off before intimacy. Sometimes I get insecure too and even my female relatives always ask whether I've thought about getting implants. I have, of course and maybe I will. But there's no way I'm going to the doctor's and buy myself a pair of self esteem, because it does not work that way.

Correct me if i'm wrong but from your post, you seem to struggle with self esteem issues. I find it really hard to believe that the reason you've never been in a serious relationship is your breasts. I'd say it's more about your attitude towards your breasts. Take a very good look at yourself, inside and out and figure out what can be improved. Work out, dress smart, be a nice, genuine presence, read books, have hobbies and interesting things to say, build up your self esteem and if, when you've built yourself to be the best you can be, you still want surgery, then go ahead with it. By then, your mindset will have surely changed, from 'I'm doing this because I'm lacking' to 'I'm doing this because I want it, even though I'm happy and good enough without it'. Don't take the easy way out because it will only take you so far. Plastic surgery cannot buy you self esteem and self appreciation.

Also, it honestly never crossed my mind that this or that guy does not like me or has broken up with me because my lack of boobs. Never really had trouble dating or getting into nice, long-term relationships with good men either.

[deleted] · 2017-03-16T13:11:29+00:00

I had a breast reduction at 15. They took a pound and a half from each. I never plan to breastfeed. I'm not even going to try, because it's my decision and to an extent my fiancé's, as the father. He supports this. He'll get to help out and bond with the baby more and I won't have a miserable first time mom experience, because I've been told that it's horribly painful for some, because of the surgery and that I'd have to supplement anyway. I'm just not doing it.

You're going to have to make a decision. What's worse? Feeding your baby formula (at least a little) or, as you tell it, never getting far enough in a relationship to have said baby. I say go for it, but I'm obviously biased. I never regretted my surgery and 14 years later the scars are nearly invisible.

Also, it's worth considering that some women can't breastfeed anyway.

RubyWooToo · 2017-03-17T21:43:10+00:00

If your current tits would impede your ability to even have kids in the first place, then a boob job is a sensible decision.

PinkFloweryBranches · 2017-03-16T00:10:13+00:00

What's wrong with your breasts?

[deleted] · 2017-03-16T00:25:29+00:00

I had a breast reduction and lift last year and made me feel and look so much better. With any breast operation especially where they reduce the size of the areolas there's chance of lost of sensation in the nipples but finding a good and expreinced surgeon helps lower these odds.

Gardrothard · 2017-03-16T06:52:40+00:00

A lot of women who had babies in the 90s didn't breastfeed because they didn't have milk because they were stressed (because of war). The one problem with that is that there's a higher change of smoking later in life (but then again, here everyone smokes). Other than that things seem fine.

So, if you feel like this is keeping you from being happy you should do it, IMO.

SouthernAthena · 2017-03-16T18:06:42+00:00

Given that a lot of women don't even try to breastfeed, I don't think you're exactly abusing your future child. Yeah, breastfeeding is undoubtedly better, but formula feeding is definitely adequate. Those boobs are weird (almost look dip-dyed), and you say it's been a deal breaker in the past. I know that many guys are like this, since my boyfriend (after we'd been going out awhile) told me he would have broken up with me if I had ugly boobs. I have very small boobs and he's used to/prefers larger, but the look was enough to meet his standards.

I don't typically recommend plastic surgery, but I wouldn't let your future children stop you. You will be able to raise healthy ones still. I think it's better to do what you have to to be able to have a full life than to be a lonely old maid who didnt have to use formula to feed children she never had.

songbolt · 2017-03-20T00:45:03+00:00

I would say focus on your health and personality. If you are physically fit, your health should attract men more than your breasts. Likewise if you have a good personality. I am interested in physical and mental health more than breast appearance.

throwaway_groupie · 2017-03-21T01:40:29+00:00

Dr. Ghavami in california does flash-recovery breast augmentations and breast lifts that retain the baby's ability to breastfeed. It's very expensive (approx 10 grand) but considering it's your body, is worth it.

Landry86 · 2017-03-22T14:27:52+00:00

Show us a picture of them and let us decide

JK

Here's something to think about: If they really bother you that much, why not wait until after kids to have surgery? I'm not sure you should be showing a man your breasts without discussing all of these feelings with him first anyway. True intimacy should come with an understanding for what's real: I don't know what they look like and I'm sure they look fine, but you don't like them and you need to talk about that with someone you trust...that way this man, who may be your future husband, can have a say about what HE feels about breastfeeding your children... Vs. becoming newly intimate with someone and saying "oh these? They're fake. I didn't like mine"...just isn't as genuine

...something to think about!

Title	Should I get plastic surgery at the expense of my future child?
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Date	March 15, 2017 11:26 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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