You Can Get PTSD From Staying In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship (WARNING Sexist Article, no mention of Men getting PTSD from being abused in a relationship)

Daddie0 · 2018-03-17T14:39:11+00:00

What I find disturbing is that yes it is both men and women who are guilty of this, but it mostly always written that it's mostly men being the abusers.

What is even more disturbing is girls / women are brainwashed / taught to be emotionally abusive to men, and boys / men are re-educated again, and again, and again, how to behave not to hurt women.

All boys and men are dangerous / abusers / rapist lying in wait.

It's become socially acceptable, the bias against boys / men, that it's in plain site in society and most people don't even notice.

Guilt and shame are powerful emotions, they are being used against men / boys even when they did nothing wrong.

InDurdenWeTrust · 2018-03-17T15:24:22+00:00

I was on the receiving end of an abusive relationship. It was non-reciprocal emotional and occasionally physical abuse. Luckily I had the sense to get out after about 6 months. We were having an argument outside a bar and she punched me hard in the face. Foe the first time I really wanted to hit back, though I knew I'd likely knock her out cold and wind up in jail.

Of note is that I'm a small guy, 5'6", 130 lbs at the time. She was a bit shorter and about 20 pounds lighter, so not a massive gap in physical strength... It took YEARS for me to get my self-confidence and self-worth back. But I did. Sort of.

So yes, men can definitely be victims too.

kevingrumbles · 2018-03-17T16:22:50+00:00

I have PTSD from my first LTR who cheated on me with her friend's boyfriend and left me for him. She cheated on me multiple times before but gaslighted and denied it every time i called her out to the point where I legitimately thought I might be schizophrenic. A few months after getting dumped I realized a lot more guys go through this type of shit than I thought. I blamed myself for being weak for the longest time. I still do feel I was weak, but now I feel stronger than ever. Just thankful I never knocked her up, got divorce raped, or other unfortunate circumstances men here have dealt with.

sonofsuperman1983 · 2018-03-17T16:01:43+00:00

I have PTSD from my relationship with my mother who was insulting and violent on a regular basis. I didn’t know I have PTSD because of how it’s shown in the media. I only realised how bad I was suffer after reading a sci fi book called Sirens of Titan.

ggihhpy · 2018-03-17T17:48:07+00:00

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with a girl for ~10 years. I'm sure a lot of you are asking how that was possible. The simplest answer is I was brought up in a stable family and we stick things out and take care of each other. So I spent nearly a decade trying to make a person happy who was never going to be happy. Also, in public she was very nice and quiet so it was ard to explain to friends and family why I wasn't around as much anymore. Hint: going to see friends or family always resulted in a non nonsensical argument about some perceived slight. The change happened when I realized I have a right to be happy to.

Anyway, I started dating a great girl no long after. It was like a breath of fresh air. No fighting, just fun times. But what was fucked up is that I started having nightmares where it was this new girl screaming at me the way the old girl was. That went on for a few years despite never getting into fights with the new girlfriend (now wife). I still get random triggers. Like I'll see something that triggers a fond memory of the time when I was dating the abusive girl then I'll remember the inevitable fight that took place that evening. And it was never just something simple...just some small thing she claimed I had done which would lead into a cyclic argument about who said something mean to the other person first. Defending myself to her accusations turned into me calling her a liar.

Anyway...PTSD can occur. It gets better with time. Still with me to some extent. This comment alone has given me a lot of anxiety.

thrway_1000 · 2018-03-17T15:49:38+00:00

Everything is gendered these days thanks to your everyday friendly sexists - the feminists.

Archive stupid sites -- https://archive.is/B3s6H

xNOM · 2018-03-17T16:18:19+00:00

Sometimes this crap almost makes me wish we could go back to having actual wars.

PM_me_ur_swimsuit · 2018-03-17T20:17:03+00:00

Hey guys, want to know the upside to all this? Therapists, psychologists, and other professionals can and will help you.

Yes society at large doesn't seem to care, but the professionals do.

They can help you if you open up.

You might have been through the same hell I've been through, but you can get better like I have.

Once your away from that relationship your next move is to get help.

Don't let her control your life even after you've left.

Society doesn't care but you can still get better.

mwobuddy · 2018-03-17T19:27:22+00:00

You can get PTSD from ANYTHING. This isn't a revelation.

RobDog101 · 2018-03-17T20:43:42+00:00

I remember when I was taking a psychology class in college the textbook said women are actually more likely to be emotionally abusive. This makes sense considering their propensity for relational aggression in interactions with each other.

Bloody_Rekt_Tim · 2018-03-18T01:36:03+00:00

Guys, I'm starting to think all this bullshit has reached high tide & things are going to start rolling back out. A new day approaches! I'm starting to see a lot more people question the sanity of the extremist left mentality, and actually expecting some semblance of reality. Even in my real life I've had discussions with a lady who's been all about Feminism amd Women's Rights the last few years in which she admits that things have gone a little too far. Flat out admitting that men do have real differences that provide a vital role in both society and family life that women cannot provide. Shit's changing, friends. Sharpen your tools, men, be prepared to use them for their intended purposes!

themainingredient420 · 2018-03-17T22:14:05+00:00

Happened to me

ocean_sauce · 2018-03-18T02:08:31+00:00

To be fair though, the article was written from a woman's perspective.

Minoxidil · 2018-03-18T04:51:11+00:00

i mean to be fair this is true, applies to women AND men, and is called "complex ptsd or cptsd" and is also something that applies to people who have suffered long bouts of harmful situations (like being homeless, being bullied for long periods of time in school, or growing up with an abusive parent[s])

Gambizzle · 2018-03-18T08:19:49+00:00

I got PTSD from physical and emotional abuse. Fact.

azazelcrowley · 2018-03-18T10:05:50+00:00

Men are 20% more likely to get PTSD from rape, likely in part due to lack of resources (Torture experts note that the speed of getting the person to mental health experts after the event is one of the most important factors in reducing PTSD rates.)

It would not be surprising if PTSD is more common in male rape victims.

Title	You Can Get PTSD From Staying In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship (WARNING Sexist Article, no mention of Men getting PTSD from being abused in a relationship)
Author	darkelfbear
Upvotes	602
Comments	30
Date	March 17, 2018 2:20 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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