Have any of you lost a substantial amount of weight or known someone who has (obese to normal/fit)? Am I delusional to think everything will get better after I lose the weight?

Tiway22 · 2017-05-26T03:59:27+00:00

Yes being fit comes with SO many benefits to your ENTIRE life. Every single aspect of life, being alive, and being a human are improved when you're fit.

Keep losing the weight!

Docbear64 · 2017-05-26T03:44:18+00:00

I lost 70 + lbs in the last year or so ( at one point I weighed 329 lbs) . In some ways yes life gets better when you lose the wieght but it's not because your weight is lower it's because ( as you know) losing a lot of weight teaches you a lot about yourself , how much discipline you have , and the things you can accomplish .

You can fit nicer clothes so it's much MUCH easier to look better. I have one pic that makes me fucking sad I was like 320 , tried to put on a hat so that my face looked different , and did my best to hit a sexy pose , At the time I thought I was sexy as fuck but I look at that picture now and I was a sad fuck .

I you have attractive qualities losing weight only brings them out further so it's definitely easier to meet women now and the quality of woman I can fuck now is much better.

The hardest thing to explain though is the eternal monkey on your back that reminds you that you're disgusting goes away which makes it easier to be comfortable in your own skin . There wasn't a moment where my thoughts weren't consumed with how fat I was when I was my heaviest . "Can I fit on that rollercoaster? ( sometimes the answer was no sadly) . "can I physically do [x activity] ? "( again often a no ). " IS she smiling at me out of sympathy or oculd she possibly think I'm cute?" . It's a haunting htought I know I couldn't escape.

So yes losing weight helps a lot of things but life isn't perfect , I haven't even achieved my ultimate goal weight but I am MUCH MUCH pickier about my body now . When I was fat just the scale moving was enough , now seeing how my boy develops through lifting and whatnot I really pay attention to . You still have to talk to women , I lost the weight but If I didn't know how to flirt I'd be just as shit with women . Being smaller just means they don't think they'll be suffocated when they imagine fucking me.

At the end of the day losing the weight makes you a smaller human being but you're still a human being . Some things will get better, it's possible some things may get worse ( People get very insecure as you lose more and more) but you'll still face challenges because this is life and we all do .

Congrats on your weight loss so far and good luck on your future weight loss. I envy men that are your height . You already get an SMV bonus for being tall.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-05-26T04:42:58+00:00

First, congratulations on losing that first century. Just keep going.

Second, don't lose weight to get women. Lose weight because it's a gajillion times better and healthier to be fit than to be 450#

Third, given how much you have (and will) lose, you are going to have some cosmetic issues that will need some attention, I would think, i.e., lots of loose skin.

Fourth, Going from 450# to wherever you wind up isn't a lock, but you should find that it makes things a fuck ton easier. Sure there are fat guys who can pull and fit guys who can't, but on average, the fit guys will have it easier.

JustOneMoreAcct · 2017-05-26T05:17:58+00:00

I'm 6'3 and went from 300 to 195 over the course of a year and people will look at you differently. It's like changing from Hard to Normal mode (Easy mode being jacked/ripped).

And Keto4Life.

cji25 · 2017-05-26T04:31:12+00:00

I've lost about 40 pounds since august. I'm 5' 7". I don't even have to try and pickups girls anymore. If I go to a party or even the supermarket, they'll come over.

Of course it is not just the weight loss, but holding frame and self assurance. All thanks to reading TRP.

I've been lurking for at least 6 months. I had not been going out due to training and work, but the last 6 weeks I've been going out, I have really noted the difference.

I guess theory does work once you go out and practice.

randarrow · 2017-05-26T04:58:10+00:00

Things don't get better, they get easier and change.

One of the funny things people deal with when they become rich is apparently their problems aren't fixed. They're still lonely and depressed. They have to fix themselves, money just didn't make them happy. Being skinny is a little like that. You can't escape yourself.

I'm going through the same weight battle myself. Got to a holding point and "paused at a healthy level" for a while and gained most of it back of course. But, there were several noticeable points when people started treating me differently, good and bad. Lost some friends, gained some. Work changed....

Losing weight is like pressing a reset button. Things are just different.

[deleted] · 2017-05-26T05:24:00+00:00

So in what ways does life get easier?

You're not worrying about your predisposition to vascular diseases. Or at least, not as much. You don't sweat like a pig when it's 75 degrees out because your body doesn't have twice the insulation it needs. You can walk a mile and not feel like you need to sit down. Two flights of stairs wont wind you. You save money on health costs. You save money on food because you learned how to cook your own. You don't smell as bad because there's less surface area on your body that counts as a harborage for mold and bacteria. Your skin is clearer for the same reason. Aesthetics on every part of your body except maybe your hair improves. Your joints thank you because they had a huge amount of strain taken off them.

Are these delusional assumptions?

Yes. You can think of obesity like any other addiction. If you don't replace what you've lost with something else, you'll either slide back in to that addiction or find something else to shackle yourself to. The only thing losing weight will help with is first impressions. If all you can talk about is your weight, they'll find something else to slink back to.

TheGillos · 2017-05-26T05:28:23+00:00

Are these delusional assumptions?

No, lost 50 lbs, need to lose about 10 more. Every lbs I lose makes me better. Every fat I change to muscle makes me better.

Old_Memes_Never_Die · 2017-05-26T05:53:21+00:00

I've lost 20kgs in a year, it makes everything better, everything litteraly.

The best thing ? The first time you'll realize your body is not your ennemy anymore but a tool for you to use, I think the first time I was able to use my body without being rooted by my weight was the greatest thing I felt growing up fat.

Then you'll realize it didn't change anything and that you have to keep going.

Don't put too much expectations on it, things will get better but only for you to realize your weight wasn't the only thing pulling you down as you thought.

You'll know that everything starts to change when the people who mocked you for even trying to lose fat will start to tell you that you've lost weight or there's something different about you.

TheWellBoys · 2017-05-26T09:31:08+00:00

I've lost 50 lbs since the turn of the year and it really is life changing. Becoming stronger and fitter, day in and day out is one of the most empowering feelings I've ever had.

10/10 would reccomend.

gettingmymojoback · 2017-05-26T11:01:51+00:00

The biggest change I've noticed is amongst people you know, friends, family, coworkers etc. You'll start to get looks from strangers who you would have been invisible to before, but they don't know what you looked like before. Your acquaintances do.

They all knew the fat you. Once that changes you'd be amazed how many people start coming out of the woodwork to compliment you, congratulate, ask questions etc. People you hardly know suddenly start coming up to you and saying "Wow, you've totally changed. You look like a different person! What's your secret?" Or my favorite "I didn't even recognize you"

Then you'll start getting random women telling you how great you're looking. I work in a huge workplace, so there's tons of coworkers you don't "know" but see everyday. Suddenly they're coming up to you and chatting, asking about your diet and routine. In some way it feels like being a minor celebrity.

This was the biggest surprise to me. Just how much other people look at me as some kind of inspiration. The thing is, so many people try and fail, that when they see someone who is successful they think it's some monumental task you've done when the truth is it's just hard work and discipline to make the right choices consistently. Anyone can do it.

And yes, it does make life better in every way. The physical benefits have all been covered here already. And yes, they are fucking worth it on their own regardless of any outside sources of validation.

enwhen · 2017-05-26T11:32:39+00:00

/r/theredpill

Read the sidebar. It will change your life.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2017-05-26T16:47:54+00:00

I went from around 315 when i played football in highschool to floating around 230 with a lot of muscle. I know a girl that exemplifies the difference between being fat and in shape.

I went to elementary school with this girl in fact. I was kind of a fat kid, not terribly fat but fat. She was mostly indifferent to me and looking back now it shouldn't have been surprising that she became a slut in high school just on how she acted around boys back even then.

I ran into her in high school, she was a slut, I was still pretty fat being a lineman in football and she was still mostly indifferent.

I ran into her at a popular bar in the city. She was there with a guy. I was no longer fat. She was fawning all over me. Touching me, asking me questions, saying how good it was to see me. I could see in her eyes I could have taken her out of there right then and there. I of course was there with a girl already.

This girl saw me at 3 different stages of our lives and only when I was in shape did she care I was around. There's a reason TRP pushes fitness so hard. The benefits are so numerous it should be without question it's worth it.

Also, yes, she was pretty sexy. Tall, long blonde hair, thin. Probably a solid 8.

quicklogaccount · 2017-05-26T12:15:39+00:00

I was assuming it'd be easier to be more extroverted, talking to women would be easier, they'd be more responsive, making friends would be easier, more self-esteem, people would be more interested in what you had to say, posture improves, more success with women, more respect, etc. Are these delusional assumptions?

You'll still have to open women and initiate contact, but you're not delusional. All that will be easier as your self esteem raises.

A_Bridgeburner · 2017-05-26T12:18:33+00:00

The sheer pride of losing weight will do tremendous things to your confidence/self esteem/ambition. Like someone else said you learn a lot about yourself. This is a journey that is gonna make your life better, get at er.

Terribledragon4Hire · 2017-05-26T12:44:45+00:00

Your life gets better for some of the reasons.

You sleep better.

You don't use food as an emotional crutch.

You feel like you have more control of your life.

Physical activity makes you feel good.

[deleted] · 2017-05-26T13:12:33+00:00

6'3'' here. I was 270lbs two years ago and today I'm sitting at 200. I'm a completely different person. I'm more outgoing, talking to women is a cakewalk, I get laid consistently whereas before I hadn't been with a woman for 4+ years, I feel incredibly good and medical issues I had before have vanished. One of the funny things was that my OKC profile went from around 2 likes to now where I have 65. I didn't change anything but my pictures.

With that said, don't do it for women, do it for yourself. Continue lifting, do cardio, intermittent fasting, and cut out all drinks from your diet except for water. If you're happy and confident in yourself then women will be drawn to you.

Profile_state2020 · 2017-05-26T13:24:34+00:00

Everything in your life will get better. But you're still the same person.

The best thing is, life gets more fun. Damn near everything physical is more fun. Buying clothes is more fun, playing sports is more fun, doing yard work is more fun, going to summer parties is more fun, etc.

Also, since you're such a big guy, you should seriously check out the fasting sub. Do research there and check out the studies on fasting, fat loss, loose skin, etc. Go devour the info in that sub. I promise you will thank me.

HootieMane · 2017-05-26T13:50:29+00:00

In my experience from 250 -> 170 it hasn't really changed anything. My confidence is still non-existant, my social skills are lacking, I don't have any solid relationships, still a virgin, and I'm just as suicidal as ever.

I'm not saying it isn't good or worthwhile, but it is not going to solve all of lifes problems.

mechdemon · 2017-05-26T16:16:14+00:00

Having gone from 260 to 190 I feel a lot better about myself. I feel more capable, stronger, faster. I'm not in as much pain as I used to be. For the first time in my life, I'm exactly what I want to be - but that doesn't mean I'm not going to keep trying to improve.

But keep in mind, OP - this isn't a temporary thing. This is a permanent lifestyle change and you will need to take what you've learned and refine it over time so that it becomes second nature and thus easier.

Lastly, never let anyone take this from you. You will encounter temptations and fatigue and doubt. These are your greatest enemies and you must be ready for the challenge they present. Let nothing stand in your way.

moviemaker10 · 2017-05-26T18:30:11+00:00

In August of last year I was 260. I'm 185 this morning. It's a WORLD different. Clothes fit better, people respect you more, you are worlds more confident. Girls love you, guys want to be you, and all the naysayers that discouraged you losing weight or are fat and knew you when you were too are all mad as hell.

recursoinominado · 2017-05-26T18:53:51+00:00

Yes, everything will get better once you get fit but eventually you will strive for more, continue to improve yourself in every way possible. I once a fat, loser, suicidal, virgin(didn't even kissed anyone until 17), today I am 25 and last Saturday I had a threesome with my hot gf and her hot friend. I am fucking proud of myself and will strive for more. Good luck.

juliusstreicher · 2017-05-27T05:48:22+00:00

I weighed from 265-325 (various weight at various times) in my mid 20s to my early 30s. Lost down to about 190, started grooming well, doing aerobics.

The change was from deep, deepest darkness to supernova, maybe even quasar light level. Just wish I wasn't such a fucking bluepill pussy then, because you'd be reading books about me, now.

Keep losing the fat.

edwardhwhite · 2017-05-26T13:42:55+00:00

It was AWESOME. Do it.

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