Ltr bringing up another guy.

No_senses · 2017-06-07T16:20:54+00:00

Dread. This situation you described is silly though; you baited a response out of her and got upset when you got it.

SkimSTi · 2017-06-07T16:26:47+00:00

you tried to shit test her, got shit tested yourself as a response, and now you don't want to hear about it?

she knows its a weak spot for you, because the first time it came up you told her to GTFO of your house.

let it go, and dont bring shit up like this directly to her face. the point is to subtly show her you have options, cuz you are a catch, but not throwing it in her face. you are asking for trouble doing that kind of shit. you got it. and you couldnt handle it.

MattyAnon · 2017-06-07T18:06:19+00:00

It's not too much of a concern too me, however I don't want to hear about said guy again (unlucky me huh, that's not how it works), assume I shouldn't bring it up. Do I take it in stride, re-assess?

Ignore, treat as a shit test.

You were saying "I got options", she retaliated similarly.

Ignore.

quicklogaccount · 2017-06-07T16:41:42+00:00

Ok. First things first:

Told me she deleted his snapchat a while back, then added him back after an argument thinking It would be a power play or something, told her to get out of my house. Hasn't been an issue since.

This was an spectacular way to fail a shit test. It wasn't an issue again because you reacted so strongly to it that she doesn't need to wonder anymore, she knows she has the power. She knows what she has to do to hurt you.

"this chick would take me to a free dinner" to which she said "you wouldn't approve of the guy but I could get a free dinner too, double date?"

"I am a hot guy!" - "No, you're not. Wanna bet?"
Given how things played out before, this wasn't a light hearted shit test. This was her putting you back into your place.

Do I take it in stride, re-assess?

Dude, you'll dislike hearing this, but you lost frame. You should take a while to study the subject and see how you work on rebuilding it.
Sometimes it's easy to do, but much more often than that it's simply not worth the effort.

McCoop_ · 2017-06-07T20:14:36+00:00

You're dishing it out but can't take it. Sounds like you need to work on your frame a bit.

the_Milkweed · 2017-06-07T18:34:28+00:00

Are you three years old?

shredzro · 2017-06-07T17:35:50+00:00

This could be a trickled down truth OP.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2017-06-07T22:31:53+00:00

That's just playing with fire, it's something you got to learn during the Red Pilling process. Don't needlessly start situations simply to try to "display dominance", the implications of that are almost all negative. If this was just a mistake, we all make them, then you gotta recover in step. Simple A&A though; How many other girls will he pay for?

failingtheturingtest · 2017-06-07T23:57:00+00:00

I said something along the lines of "this chick would take me to a free dinner"

Here's where you went wrong. For some reason you are trying to overtly communicate that you have options. That is dumb. That is NOT dread. That is NOT how you communicate abundance.

Dread and abundance should be consistent throughout your relationship. But they should be covert and assumed; not overt and explained.

Girls notice smaller things than we give them credit for. You're at the shops buying milk with your fuck bunny and the check out chick starts miring your body... That eats into the conscious of little miss and she spends the next week thinking about how that bitch better not be making moves on you.

TxnyMontana · 2017-06-08T23:02:10+00:00

Lol you're trying to shit test your girl, but you can't handle her shit test. Don't fight a war you can't win. It's almost silly.

I'd try the shit test you did, leave it for the girls. The boundaries about other dudes should be stablished clearly, with a hard next if she doesn't apply to them. It's almost simple but you made it complicated.

Girls will always qualify themselves and talk about how other dudes/orbiters gives her attention from the cold, but FOR SURE they will do it if you talk about other girls in a silly way like you did.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-06-07T17:01:37+00:00

More anal as punishment

nomorebsever · 2017-06-07T18:57:54+00:00

You start out the post by referring to it as your relationship and then citing all of the goodies you're receiving. You then add the cherry on top of...well...her cherry for you.

Sounds to me like she kind of has your number on this one - she senses that you're getting really comfy and feeling like you've snagged your unicorn and she's now feeling urges for Snapchat Chad.

She's lost her dread - if she ever had it.

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Title	Ltr bringing up another guy.
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Date	June 7, 2017 3:56 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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