5'9 brown guy here, average face, average build, dating a Stacylite brown girl. Before we began dating, we were good friends for quite a long time. During this time she had a relationship which lasted a couple of weeks, and one day she was telling us about it while ranting, and she said how "he took me out for bubble tea, and we kissed, but nothing happened" Basically they only went out a few times. The next few weeks i was her emotional support because he ghosted her.

Anyways we get close and i ask her out and she says yes. Takes a week for a first kiss. and around a month before we get naked and do everything apart from sex, which she is saving for marriage. Now my relationship is in a good place, we go at it multiple times a day (oral), and she literally initiates everything.

Out of the blue one day her ex texts her, and she does ignore him, but it makes me curiosity, and i go through her chats. I find out they didn't just "kiss". They met 4 times, and apparently fucked on the first day. He texted her after the first night "still thinking about those moves of yours can't believe you have never given a bj before" and she let him cum inside her the last time they hooked up which i can tell from the texts. Then he talks about how he is young and can't commit bla bla and leaves her on read.

i was really happy in my relationship and now i don't know how to react. i rationalize it by thinking that she wants to forget what she did and not bring it up with anyone because of the culture and all, but it also makes me feel so insecure.