DEEP BREAKDOWN: Consequences of Long Term lack of Sexual Access for Men

This topic has been on my mind for quite some time, yet haven't seen anyone adequately discuss it.

I have laid out below a detailed and semi-academic breakdown of my opinion on the consequences of long term lack of sexual access to men on an individual, as well as a cultural/societal level.

This is NOT a complaining post saying that men should be entitled to sexual access from women.

I dove into it this deep because I believe that we must look at the problem objectively, understand its consequences, so that we can have a constructive solution, on an individual level. So serious feedback would be appreciated.

First we need to recognize that the reproductive instinct for young men is the strongest of all drives, you can even argue that it is second to the instinct for survival, and that on a day to day basis, the sex drive is at the forefront of a man's mind ahead of other desires, thoughts, etc. Which raises the question, on an individual subconscious level, what begins to happen when the male organism knows that it is not fulfilling its biological purpose.

Anecdotally, I have seen a myriad of different symptoms/coping mechanism with different people:

- General Depression, and lack of motivation for engaging with life, this can have negative consequences on the rest of your life, will not have the internal drive to advance economically/socially, might begin to cut off friends/family. People going through this generally will dim, and will do the bare minimum to survive

- Psychological problems, ADHD, Social Anxiety: This connects with the above point, general depressive symptoms also correlate with low motivation, which in turn can manifest as inability for higher level, focused thinking meant to solve higher level problems to advance in a career/education/life. Also Ive seen individuals who are virgins/lack sexual access be very rigid physically and in social situations, which becomes a spiral that ostracizes them further and grows their problem exponentially.

We are seeing this play out on a societal level. Men now subconsciously understand that the game is rigged and that there is no reward for participation. Society is asking for men to slave away for the rest of their lives, without providing them their deepest psychological need, so the subconscious manifests these above mentioned symptoms and it takes form in men opting out of the workforce. As we see now, men are more dysfunctional and low functioning than ever, and there is cultural epidemic of the great resignation and lowered participation of men in the workforce, educational institutions, and the economy as a result.

- Insomnia: Yes I have seen this. Lack of sexual activity builds up in a young man to the point, where no amount of masturbation can relieve it. It builds up over time. He can try to sleep yet feels an extreme amount of yearning for someone to be beside him that he can physically bond with, and the absence of that and the extreme level of "horniness" will keep him up, despite how tired he is. On a subconscious level it is because the act of sex is much more than an ejaculation, it is a bonding experience with another human that adores you in a true reproductive context, and the mind understands this and can produce great mental pain as a result.

-Suicidal/anger/violent tendencies: We have seen this on an individual and cultural level, when men are not allowed their biological imperative on a collective level, whether it be for cultural narrative(feminism,etc) or economic problems that can generate lack of ability to marry/find a mate, revolutions and social upheaval take place. This is in order attain their biological imperative even by force if they have to, and to flip the board and reset the game in order to better the odds in their favor. On an individual level, we see no shortage of online suicidal incels, and we unfortunately have seen a rise of notorious incel killers over the past decade, that decided to exact revenge on society and end their lives. Some have theorised its the subconscious wanting to eliminate itself from the gene pool due to it failure to reproduce, as well as take out other genetic competition.

- Warped sexuality/development of kinks/fetishes/desires that did not exist previously: The sexual instinct is extremely strong, like a tidal wave you cannot deny. What happens when it is repressed, is NOT that it dies, like possible other elements of the psyche, but it GROWS and WARPS. It begins manifesting/developing into forms it otherwise was not, we see an increase in strange fetishes, through the different searched porn categories over the past few years. Sexual thoughts begin to turn into obsessive thoughts, that consume the individual.

- Coping mechanisms, Drugs, weed, alcohol, Porn: Ofcourse there is a HUGE epidemic of drug use, pharmaceutical pill usage, antidepressants, weed use, and ofcourse mass porn consumption. In fact I would argue this is the PRIMARY crutch that the individual and society rests on, in order to remain functioning and that the society/economy can keep chucking forward. Many people rely on antidepressants to remain functioning, even more, rely on regular alcohol, weed use. Which without, many people would not be able to cope and function regularly. You can easily make the case that the individual and society will break down if these coping mechanisms are not provided.

And then there is Porn. Ofcourse the vast majority of porn consumers are male, and that is because of our extremely high sex drive. Couple that with the lack of sexual access men have, and the extreme yearning they have for connection, it manifests itself in drug addcitions and porn addictions.

Ofcourse this creates a spiral effect, where porn usage is all-consuming, endless and is associated with horrible side effects, including ED, social anxiety, etc, which will lower the probabilities even more for the male in successfully attracting and retaining a mate.

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Lies told to men: The advent of Hustle culture, NoFAP/Semen Retention, sexual energy transmutation etc are effectively all the final frontier to try to keep a man motivated without the most essential ingredient for his motivation, sexual access. It lies to men and feeds them lies that they know subconsciously are untrue:

"Ignore everyone - focus on yourself" when deep down we are social creatures, meant to function in close groups and to mate to be satisfied with life

"Ignore women, focus on money and follow your purpose" Yes every man must follow his purpose. However this completely flies in the face of the simple fact that sexual access is the reason men do this in the first place, and when the realization that that reason is not coming any time soon, this is hollow pathetic advice that doesnt understand basics of psychology

"Dont masturbate, semen retention will make you stronger, faster, smarter, more confident, etc"

"You can direct your sexual energy to other things, career, money, etc"

First lets acknowledge, that yes, the frustration, pent up anger, added time, etc, can all be very good fuel to make insane progress in the gym, and possibly other fields depending on your focus. However,

I honestly feel very sorry for the average 19 year old that goes through this phase, because yes its a phase. If you have an ounce of maturity and time as an adult male, you will come to know, IF YOU DONT EJACULATE YOU WILL LOSE YOUR MIND. End of story, thats why that sub is nothing but a bunch of perpetual 19 year olds posting relapse stories only to never show again a few years later. Furthermore, all of this is actually a complete inversion of our biology and psychological natures. As explained above, it is the men with consistent rewarding sexual access, that are high functioning, that have higher confidence, which correlates with success, and those that try to suppress it and dont have that access that develop the physical/psychological symptoms mentioned above. Essentially it is a lie told to men to keep them plugged in, chucking forward and coping with their problem and ignoring it and imagine it as a virtue, instead seeing it for the serious problem it is. In a word, it is COPE.

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That is my lengthy breakdown. Serious feedback is appreciated. With the recognition of the problem, I hope we can also have a deep discussion on healthy mental models/strategies to transcend these negative consequences and live a fruitful life.

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