First time alone

probebeta · 2024-09-03T21:17:15+00:00

It's a bit distressing at first. But with time you'll notice that filling that void with anyone and anything isn't worth it.

This weekend I went for a bike ride, watched sunset, had sushi, alone. I started reorganizing my plans, evaluating what matters and what doesn't. It's not that bad. Not saying don't be social with folks you care about, friends. But it's not bad to be alone too. Exercise, learn something, work on something new. The chaos and the go go go attitude can stress you out. Some focus helps too.

MaxViewingAngle · 2024-09-02T14:48:35+00:00

Find something you love to do, or have always wanted to do. Learn something, get back into a hobby, rabbit hole something you find interesting. Take interest in improving yourself. You won’t notice the silence, you may find it to be your zen time.

PlaceLonely6195 · 2024-09-02T04:03:17+00:00

I’d also add doing the thing(s) that you have always wanted to do but didn’t get around to them during your marriage. I’m looking into fly fishing, don’t know how to fish but I’m going for it. I guess the point is for us to change and be the men we really want to be as a result of this process. Be gentle on yourself, the past is the past.. your future awaits.

tomparishlifecoach · 2024-09-01T19:06:38+00:00

What helped me was to focus on the things I could be grateful for. It started out with the little things like being able to go for a walk, cooking a healthy meal.

From there I created time for me to do things I love, time on my motorbike and even going out for a meal by myself.

karavan7 · 2024-09-01T18:36:26+00:00

This might be a mindfulness thing. You're stuck in some loop ruminating on the past over and over. Go outside for a walk. Hold your head up. Look out at the world, eyes open, and study the sights and sounds around you. When the repetitive tape loop begins, try to gently say "ruminating" (or however you identify this) and then return your focus to the world in front of you. Good luck!

Reflog1791 · 2024-09-01T17:59:02+00:00

Push-ups and golf

berzerker5000 · 2024-09-01T15:26:10+00:00

Going to bar and making new friends or just commiserating with some old timers can be a good way to not feel alone.

Longjumping-Cup-4018 · 2024-09-01T15:25:28+00:00

Go for a jogging or local gym. Meet up new people on the way and make yourself healthier. You need to prepare yourself for everything when you get your kid back.

Title	First time alone
Author	tempussecundus
Upvotes	7
Comments	9
Date	September 1, 2024 2:58 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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