Having a really hard time

aradthrowawayacct · 2022-11-26T15:07:42+00:00

on anti depressants.
I just want to die to get this misery over with

Please call your doctor. Some ADs cause, or worsen, suicidal ideation. You may need to switch meds or change dosages.

michaelrhodes1977 · 2022-11-26T15:27:49+00:00

While my story is different than yours. I like many, had a very rough time. Once I got to a better place, i did a ton of work on myself (I probably spent upwards of $15k on coaches, programs, classes, books, etc) I started a podcast to help men get through this, I also coach now too, which is weird to say out loud. I dont want to violate rules so check my profile for a link. I have 87 episodes and think it is an excellent, Free, resource for Men going through this. Check it out and best of luck.

BloodyButUnbowed1 · 2022-11-26T15:15:33+00:00

Going through that journey now, Im getting a divorce to get away from my abusive wife; coparenting is going to be tough. Keep your head up man; its always darkest before the dawn.

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2022-11-26T16:09:09+00:00

Bro. As someone whose ex-wife accused me of rape (charged criminally and spent 3 years dealing with it), I can tell you will come out on the other side. But you must believe and take the following advice:

Exercise daily
Meditate daily
Read the New Testament daily (or listen to Charles Stanley on YouTube)

Of course you're going through hell but keep pushing through. You will make it.

TARz_2by4_ · 2022-11-26T16:40:15+00:00

You have to forgive yourself. No one is perfect or without shame. Recognize what you did, feel that pain, and move on. You'll see better days, my friend.

Awakeningof17 · 2022-11-26T18:20:18+00:00

You cheated..... You're not the first and you won't be the last to do this. I'm guessing your sex life was non-existent, or else you wouldn't have even considered it. Perhaps your wife withheld sex from you? Well, whatever the case may be, as a man we have a primal need for sex. When this has been taken away from us, our mental health is at great risk and we can easily spiral downwards into a very dark place.

I want you to forgive yourself for what you have done, because I know you're a good family man who has a lot of love for his children. They need a strong, loving father figure in their life so start looking after yourself please. Exercise, eat healthy and realise things aren't as bad as your mind leads you to believe. You've got this dude and we're all behind you.

a_fantastic_lion · 2022-11-26T20:22:01+00:00

Do you have any plans to hurt yourself? Have you imagined how, when, where, or what the outcome would be? Do you understand how selfish an act that would be? Perhaps you're not on this planet to have others cater to your happiness... Perhaps you're here now to help someone else thru a difficult time. Perhaps you're here to be a saving grace for your kids, or someone you haven't even met yet... You think?

Frankly, it sounds like what you're missing is meaning. Meaning makes any difficulty bearable. Its the why that makes the how something we can overcome.

Tell your doctor on Monday morning that your antidepressants aren't working because you're in the dumps. Treat yourself as if youre someone worth saving, because you are, as we all are.

Small_Quarter_3673 · 2022-11-26T17:28:40+00:00

As a man you got to live with your decisions. The guilt is killing u but you need to get over it antidepressants are bullshit too. The woman you were cheating with keep seeing her

LonelyNC123 · 2022-11-26T19:11:36+00:00

Friend - my one child is 19, starting a semester in the UK in January. The ONLY reason I am still married is because I have always tried to a good dad to her. I am in this forum trying to find a way out of a marriage where I was emotionally done about 15 years ago. My suggestions.

Counseling / divorce support groups, they help a little.

Anti-depressants. Maybe 6-12 months just to help you thru. I was on Welbutrin for a while - it helped me more than some others.

Do not drink alcohol. It is a easy, short term crutch but, longer term, it hurts (I speak from experience).

Excercise, it helps me alot. And something like a Bike Club or, in my case, yoga can help you make new friends with similar interests.

Hang in there pal, you will get thru this.

thrownaway41422 · 2022-11-26T20:20:02+00:00

Hey man. I get that low 3 times before lunch. It's normal.

Rower375 · 2022-11-26T21:43:29+00:00

It’s get easier my friend. After my divorce I lost a ton of weight and got very sick. Just wanted to stay in bed. Then, slowly, i recovered. Ok now.

Theedon · 2022-11-27T00:05:09+00:00

YUP I have been there. I got help from support groups. I would still make mental mistakes working on how to make things better. It's a hard but it can be done. You might need to find forgiveness for yourself by yourself first. Your EX might never forgive you and that is ok. I am not religious but I worked with people that are and found it helpful.

Time will also help.

Title	Having a really hard time
Author	yoball
Upvotes	7
Comments	20
Date	November 26, 2022 2:30 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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