I think the division of the home is an incredibly important part of the separation . Humans by virtue of needs desire a safe place to live and with memories attached it makes home the 2nd most important factor in divorce next only to kids . Now , it’s also the biggest safety net for women. How have you handled this split in your divorce? . If women think they get the home in settlement , the cost and pain of divorce is somewhat mitigated as the fear of unknown goes away , home brings physical and emotional security that women absolutely desire . While young kids often means mom gets the home it still needs to have an expiration date once kids move out . In other words the pain of moving out of physical security that a home provides needs to be felt by both parties not just men. Men have everything to lose in a divorce , women have mostly everything to gain .