I don’t know how to make it out

regertsrus · 2025-05-12T01:44:44+00:00

How exactly do you get an injunction that prevents you from talking to the kids? I can picture myself going through this and not giving a dime about a pathological X liar and a judge that allows her to do it with impunity. I am going through it now but the judges (both of them) seen to understand my x lies. How old are your kids?

probebeta · 2025-05-10T00:40:22+00:00

Every rapid ends. You will be fine.

MR-Ozmidnight · 2025-05-09T16:46:15+00:00

Yes, that's the one, Dr. Robert Glover

MR-Ozmidnight · 2025-05-09T07:53:28+00:00

It sounds like you’re going through an incredibly tough time, and I want to encourage you that you will get through this. Remember, it’s common to experience grief, and it often comes in stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Understanding this can be a helpful framework as you navigate your feelings.

As others have mentioned, it’s important to start shifting your perspective. Focus on the reality of the situation—you are not defined by your past relationship. It’s crucial to take care of yourself and not let her behaviour affect your self-worth. If any accusations are being thrown around, make sure you’re prepared; having a lawyer to help you navigate these claims can be invaluable, as judges typically do not favour false accusations.

I recommend reading books like "Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life" and "No More Mr. Nice Guy." These resources can offer insight into what you’re dealing with and help you understand the dynamics at play.

In this situation, it’s essential to remain vigilant. Be mindful of your interactions and consider having someone with you or recording conversations if you feel it's necessary. Your goal should be to demonstrate your commitment as a parent while being aware of how your co-parenting relationship can impact that.

Regardless of the challenges, prioritize being the best dad you can be. Your children will remember who was there for them when it mattered most. While it’s normal to feel a lot of pain right now, know that you’re not alone in this experience.

Stay strong and persistent, and try to approach the situation with a clear mind. Avoid turning to substances like alcohol, as this may lead to decisions you could regret. Seeking support from a counsellor can also be beneficial to help you process everything you’re feeling.

Keep pushing forward for your kids—they deserve your strength and love. Remember, while this may feel overwhelming, you have the resilience to get through it.

Comfortable-Might240 · 2025-05-09T05:59:33+00:00

Dude, I've been there too, and certainly not out of the woods yet even years later. My advice to you would be to realize that you are at war with a vicious insidious enemy. The woman putting baseless injunctions on you isn't the same woman who made babies with you or you built a life with thinking she was your friend. Furthermore, any angry or erratic reactions you make to what is happening now will appear to outsiders to coroberate her false narrative about you. Even though your feelings are justified, your best bet is to play it cool and act the opposite by being on the best behavior you can think of; that is what will make her look foolish in the long run. Bide your time, and I believe in you that you can come out on top if you play your cards right. You might lose a lot of money and go through some dark times, but really, realize you are at war, don't play into her tricks, see your kids whenever you can, and do whatever you can when the time is right to fight back

UnimportantOutcome67 · 2025-05-09T05:37:22+00:00

I'm sorry this is happening to you.

Mine abandoned the three kids, the youngest special needs and I for street hoodlums.

It was the best thing that happened to me since the kids were born.

My life is so peaceful now. The kids are happier (I'm sorry you can't talk to your kids, it kills me for you.)

I'm starting to recover financially.

I've met a new woman who is 180 degrees from my narcissist, abusive, alcoholic STBX.

It does get better.

It does take time.

You are not alone.

NewDay0110 · 2025-05-09T03:34:30+00:00

This is a test. Divorce is one of the hardest life events to endure. Once this is over, and it will be, you will be much stronger.

Positive-Neck-1997 · 2025-05-09T02:50:24+00:00

What’s happening to you really sucks. It does get better. Hang in there brother, and fight for your kids. They need you. Sending good vibes…

Title	I don’t know how to make it out
Author	frankreddit5
Upvotes	8
Comments	32
Date	May 9, 2025 2:39 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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