Letting go…

SelectionNo3078 · 2023-07-21T14:14:58+00:00

i understand man. 24 year anniversary on 8/1. we've been 100% separated since 5/21/22 (and were living together on weekends only since 12/4/21).

paperwork for divorce has begun

To_Shrug · 2023-07-21T14:15:48+00:00

First, I'm sorry you're going through this! Divorce is very hard!

I think time is the most important factor. You can try and remember bad stuff or unhappy feelings, but that is often hard to do when we are spiraling on the loss of what we had.

Your mind is going to make you feel bad. Put your mind on other things when those thoughts come-up. Think about ANYTHING else.

The great advice you'll read on the sub is to workout, eat right and sleep well. Those are things you can do at once to help. The next thing to do is give yourself time to heal.

This is a great sub for advice and support. Be sure to use it OFTEN! READ EVERYTHING!

Certain-Line-6351 · 2023-07-21T22:50:06+00:00

I’m 8 months in an I’m past missing her an more annoyed now I wasted soo much time with the CC wrong person. It’ll get better man.

Meltingintx · 2023-07-21T13:51:40+00:00

Also if anyone knows a good law firm that works with veterans in HTX, I’d appreciate it. Right now the D appears amicable but I’d rather be ready for a fight and not need to than the opposite.

boltznut · 2023-07-21T21:02:45+00:00

This is 1000% me, have tried drunk for a chick to rape me but I'm assuming to drunk. I've been free for months and in a back and forth turmoil. Granted the marriage needed to end after 20 years but, trying to feel like I'm not cheating still after it's final. Guess it's gonna take more time.

EDITORDIE · 2023-07-21T22:35:23+00:00

I’m about 8months deep. All I can say is it takes time. That’s not comforting, I know. But you won’t find any comfort in the bottom of a bottle of whisky. Look after yourself. Feel your emotions. Accept its sad. Focus on putting one foot in front of the other. Try be compassionate and considerate to her. I think being dignified is a mark of respect to what you shared. Brace yourself that she might not treat you with much respect and may resent you. I wish you the best.

faceoff12430 · 2023-07-22T10:36:45+00:00

I'm going through it now. We have only been separated for less than 2 months and she is already entertaining different suitors. This just says that they were there before I left. She is a different person and it is sickening. Sickening that I chose the wrong person to marry and have kids with. My kids are hurting and it kills me. This is truly difficult

Basic_Advance7627 · 2023-07-22T08:15:24+00:00

27 years with a serial cheater for me. However, I had no clue. When she left for last AP 2.5 years ago I was destroyed. I’m better, but still a very long ways to go.

jaihind123456 · 2023-07-22T08:45:22+00:00

The real question is would u take get back knowing what she is now ... unlikely. You renember the good times and thsts ok ... itcwas once good but things change. Time is a healer and there will be many down days but renember wasting energy on wanting the old times back or her back is wasting time ... I learnt after 3 years of trying to let go

Title	Letting go…
Author	Meltingintx
Upvotes	9
Comments	14
Date	July 21, 2023 1:49 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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