Hi long everyone long time lurker. finding this form as been amazing thanks to all that make it is what it is. Married 10years together 16 two girls under 10 Wife attended a consult yesterday with lawyer to start process of dissolving the marriage.

Story: met in another state where I owned a home independently before marrying her. 3 years later we moved south for better way of life Used the sweat equity from first home to purchase an amazing home that has been perfect, had both of our girls,great jobs,golf-cart,boat,friends etc. 2019 about a year after 2nd child. I stumbled onto my wife’s attraction to her new boss. Raw discussion with her girlfriends About needing and wanting the D from him. buying new bras wanting to make moves. I Consulted with pi who was ready to pounce. I messed up and let on to me knowing about her attractions before anything really happened.Could not handle her treating my so bad even when I was being over the top as almost a rub in. she pulled back gave a sub par apology lost the job we moved on. Two or years later I buried it best I could.Wife started new job working from home also starting working-out in garage during the days with other married moms jumped into social media posting quotes about fitness,moming,cooking smut books. I started sleeping in another room because the late night media shit and our youngest coming in and taking up bed. She transition from garage work outs to going to the local gym that turned into two hours plus daily socializing and working out with other moms and moms going through divorce and whatever whoever else. Sooooo she turned 40 this Spring wants divorce and at this point I do as well. Trust is gone we fight every weekend she’s loud about fighting in front of kids it’s time.

So she had her consult picked-up paperwork. We talked through the let’s do this and be friends and the best parents we can be stage. We are sitting down together and are going to start going through the paperwork. I’m also planning separate consult with lawyer recommend to me.

Hope I can someday say best thing to happen to me man.

Thanks for space to share this. Lessons to learn and lessons learned.

Here we go gentleman.