Ok need feed back here. Married 13 years two kids under 10. In process of separation in no fault/fault state. Marriage had been on decline since discovering five years ago wife was planning an affair with her boss. Break down of communication,trust and financial spending on her behalf.

September we both put in our retainers and started divorce process. We make same amount of money 50/50 No child support No Alimony Split equity on home 100k plus.

Being led by my dick part.

1. Sticking it out after her behavior 5 years ago. Haveing consensual sex and trying to mend marriage. Both did not put effort in needed.

2. Friended a female coworker 19 years young then me. ended up having sex with her September/October. Disappointed in myself yes. I was in a fog.still am. felt good to have this younger attractive girl giving me attention compliment’s after not receiving them for years Especially during this process. Dick led the way but also felt so good to be wanted.

Well this girl had a boyfriend. He caught on blew this whole thing up. He told my STBXW. She told him I’m free to do what I want and that we are going through a divorce.

3. My STBXW and I have been having wild sex past two weekends even after her knowing of this hookup.

Her new plan.

Found out today She and her attorney are trying to get Hookups BF to sign an affidavit about the hook up. As bargaining chip for my 401k

Note: She ran up 35k in credit card debt just in past year . She’s Wanting all of my 401k. 50k plus. Everything else stays the same for now.

Ok let me have it everyone.

And big thanks. This group has been amazing for me.