Other men disciplining your kids.

savage_cabbages · 2024-12-02T19:12:39+00:00

I re-partnered after divorce, she had teenage children at the time. Not discipline but she would occasionally ask me to ask them to do something which I always said no to. I'm not their parent, I'm their mom's partner.

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2024-12-02T15:44:57+00:00

I don't allow it.

I have 75% time with my daughter. My co-parent knows not to have her current boyfriend or any other guy discipline her. They are not the parent. In my opinion raising the child is the job of the co-parents, not another party.

Not going to lie there is also a territorial component. That is just part of being a guy. If another man even yells at my daughter I am putting him in a wheelchair. It might not be woke or progressive, but it's what mother nature intended. We are borne protectors.

Funny thing is my older son would probably already have the guy choked out before I even found out about what went on lol. He is just as protective as I am.

Left-Signature-5250 · 2024-12-02T10:31:26+00:00

I see them every other weekend and I will make a very nice time for us. They, unfortunately, are no longer my responsibility - my ex-wife took care of that. They live two hours away. I will support them as best I can. Whatever good or bad outcome they will have in life is now entirely on her - for better or worse. If she deems it ok to have them disciplined by her affair partner, so be it. I have no say in that. A lopsided family law took care of that.

NotUsedUsernameYet · 2024-12-02T06:38:50+00:00

What “other men”? Mother’s boyfriends or random dudes on the street?

What is “disciplining”? Is physical abuse involved?

DaddyNoBux · 2024-12-02T06:32:47+00:00

There’s 2 ways to address

You go round to their house, grab the guy by the scruff of the neck and tell him that if he even looks at your kids the wrong way, you’re going to beat him to a pulp.

Problem with this way is that you’ll likely end up in the county jail, with your anus being eyed up by the local inhabitants. Also throw in the fact that it’s going to mess up your access to the kids you’re trying to protect.

Or you can accept that you can’t control anything that doesn’t happen within your immediate vicinity and live on with your life, being the best dad you can be.

Regardless mate, it’s a tough one and you have my full sympathy. It’s a crappy position to be in however I’m sure you’ll deal with it effectively

Xan-Diesel · 2024-12-02T05:46:56+00:00

Your ex-wife can effectively do whatever she wants and keep whatever company she pleases. There is virtually nothing you can do about who she decides to have around your kids or what authority she allows them to have. As long as they aren’t being hurt somehow (and that you’d be able to prove) there really isn’t anything you can do.

It’s an important thing to accept and will help you throughout the rest of your life. You can’t control anybody’s actions or behavior but your own.

If it’s any solace, the same rules apply to you when you have your kids.

Title	Other men disciplining your kids.
Author	warwww
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Date	December 2, 2024 5:10 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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