TL;DR: Do men cede control over time and that leads to the dissolution of a relationship?

I've been with my current partner for more than a year now and we cohabit; my divorce was more than 3 years ago, and I was in several unhealth relationships after the divorce and learned important lessons from them. The "Gatekeepers" book by Dr. Shawn Smith was extremely helpful, but it primarily focuses on how to identify a partner, not how to sustain the relationship.

So, since I'd like this relationship to remain healthy, I am reflecting on what went wrong in my former marriage and past relationships. One possibility is that, as a relationship matures, women often start to gain more power in the relationship because the man cedes control. This is controversial, but as I reflect on this, I think I was guilty of ceding control to her--it was well-intentioned ("happy wife, happy life", right?), but ultimately harmful.

It's paraphrased from this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9HjR8TQgufc (at the 31 min mark) and here is the exact quote:

"...over time, I've seen that women tend to become the more powerful person in the relationships. It doesn't always start that way. Men generally start as the more powerful and then they often cede that control of the relationship through small concessions over long periods of time to the woman. And then the woman over some years ends up in the more dominant powerful role which flips the initial polarity of the attraction and she realized "Wow, I'm doing everything around here. I'm in charge. I don't feel anything for this person anymore. Why do I need to be a mommy to some little manchild? I'm out of here." But she kind of created that dynamic. And of course the man allowed that as well. A big reason why that happens is because men don't really have a plan [for what a long-term relationship looks like]. They don't have a plan past getting laid...Women have a [long-term] plan. And so the woman assumes more and more control just because she has a plan. But in general, in life, not just in relationships, if you don't have a plan, then you're part of somebody else's plan. You're just a cog in somebody else's machine. So it is really important, I think, for men to be very clear what they want with respect to their relationships with women...Because once the polarity shifts [and the man cedes control to the woman], it's very difficult for a lot of women to stay there."

I'm not sure what to think of this and I'm curious about your perspective. Did this happen to you? If this is true, then one important strategy we need to have, for those of us who want to have a future long-term relationship, is to make sure to refrain from ceding control over time and stop the "small surrenders" that we did in the past to "keep the peace". As an FYI, I also posted this on datingoverfifty to get their input, but I would value your perspective also.