I am upset that I feel this way, but I need to vent. For my children, I handle the school fees, the lunches, and the projects. I’m the primary contact for teachers and, from what I can see, I’m the most involved in their schoolwork. I also cover the health insurance (with the exception of my youngest this year) and the majority of the medical bills.

I pay for all their extracurriculars and coordinate the fundraising. However, many of these activities happen to fall on the days my ex has the kids. While my family shows up to support them, I feel like I deserve more time with my children. It feels only fair to request that. It is incredibly frustrating that my ex is the one seen at these events while I am the one providing the foundation.

To make matters worse, my ex’s car was recently repossessed. Now, I’m sitting here worrying about who will be held responsible for the deficiency balance and if that burden is eventually going to land on me. My main priority is ensuring that no financial hiccups negatively trickle down to my children, but it's exhausting being the only one focused on their stability.

I’ll probably delete this don't want this negativity weighing me down, but I just needed to get it out. Has anyone else dealt with this kind of lopsided responsibility? I’m looking for some perspective from other divorced dads who have been the "foundation" while the other parent is the one "seen.